Ukuba kwasebuncinaneni bomntwana ingxaki ebalulekileyo kubazali yayikulondolozwa kwempilo yakhe, ngoko ebusheni bajamelene neengxaki zokukhulisa nokuphindiswa kwemfundo. Kule nqaku, siza kuqwalasela iindlela zokulwa nesimo esiqhelekileyo ekuziphatheni kwabantwana abaselula abafana nokunyaniseka.
Ukuqhayisa kuyindlela enobugwenxa, enobuqili kunye nengqiqo yokuthetha nabanye abantu.
Ukunyaniseka kwentsha kungekusoloko kubonakaliswa, kodwa kulawulwa kuphela kwizinto ezithile:
- malungu entsapho;
- ngokukhawuleza wadibana nabantu abangaqhelekanga, ngokukodwa abathatha umhlalaphantsi, abantwana abancinci nabasetyhini;
- ootitshala okanye ofunda nabo.
Izizathu ezibangelwa ukunyaniseka kwentsha
- Ubundlobongela buyimvakalelo yesibini, kubonakala kwiinguqu ekuphatheni kwabantu abadala, imigaqo okanye imeko yokuhlala, ngoko intombazana ibonisa ukukhuphaza kwayo ngoku;
- Inkathazo yobudala - eli xesha lidibene nomxholo "wempembelelo yokungafaneleki" - ukunyaniseka kwengqondo yomntwana ngenxa yantoni na, umzimba wesigqila usebenzise oku njengendlela yokukhusela ekukhuseleni ukuxhatshazwa;
- ukukhangela imida evumelekileyo-eyona nto "eyona nto" yentsholongwane "yintsingiselo yobuntu abadala," kwaye basebenzisa ubuqili nokunyaniseka ukukhetha indawo yabo, balondoloze ilungelo lokubona kwabo;
- umzekelo wabanye wabazali;
- ukungaqiniseki malunga nokuchaneka kwezenzo zabo;
- iphikisana nabalingana nabo okanye iingxaki ngezifundo - ukunyaniseka kusetyenziswa njengenzame yokuqwalasela iingxaki zabo;
- impembelelo yenkampani embi - ngokutsho komgaqo othi "Ndifana nomntu wonke", ukwenzela ukuba angabi yintambo;
- ukuzithobela kwimfundo - abantwana abasetyenziselwa ukuziphatha kakubi kwaye bangawuphulaphuli kwiminyaka yobudala kunye nokufunda esikolweni, ukuba babe ngabaselula - kuphela ukunyusa ukuziphatha kwabo;
- Ukungabi negunya phakathi kwabazali-oku kwenzeka ngezizathu ezahlukahlukeneyo (ukulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi, udidi oluthambileyo, ukulahlekelwa kwemeko yentlalo, ukubonakala, ukungaphumeleli kokuphila, njl.).
Iingcebiso kubazali: benzani?
Izizathu zokubonakalisa ukunyaniseka kuninzi, kodwa unokutshintsha le ndlela yokuziphatha usebenzisa izi ngcebiso ezilandelayo:
- utshintshe ukuziphatha kwakho (landela intetho kunye nendlela yokunxibelelana kwintsapho);
- ukususa isitayela sokubambisana solawulo, qala ukuphulaphula nokwamkela umbono we-adolescence, ukudala intsebenziswano;
- ukuphendula ngokuzithoba xa uhlaselwa yintlanzi, musa ukucaphuka, ungabonakali ukudideka kwakho, kodwa ungawahoyi;
- ukubiza kuphela ukuziphatha kwakhe kakubi, ngaphandle kokuguquka kumntu;
- Fundisa umntwana ukuba adlulise iimvakalelo ezimbi kwaye athumele amava nakwezinye iifom;
- uyayiqonda ilungelo lakhe lokuzimela (ukudala ukuzimela okuncinane);
- uthathe amanyathelo okuchasene nelokuba ufunga ngokukhawuleza, ade abe ngumkhwa, umzekelo: faka isijeziso okanye isinxephezelo sempahla yamatye;
- umchazele xa unokusebenzisa iziqalekiso;
- nangaliphi na iminyaka musa ukuvumela ukungahloneli, bonisa ukuba kufuneka uhlonishwe okanye awuyi kumhlonela;
- ukuxhomekeka ngeengxaki zakhe, kumnceda ekuphenduleni, ngokuqhelekileyo ubonise ukuba uyamthanda;
- Musa ukufuna ukuba akunakwenzeka, ukuba uyaqonda ukuba akayi kuzalisekisa iimfuno zakho, uya kuzikhusela ngokunyaniseka nokunyaniseka;
- Kwintsapho kufuneka kubekho imithetho ethile yokuziphatha kubo bonke, kwaye kungekhona nje kuye, ukuba kukho into eyenziwa umntu, kufuneka sixubushe ngokukhawuleza oku;
- nangemva kokuxabana, bonisa umntwana wakho ukuba uyamthanda, kodwa ke uya kubeka ityala ngezenzo ezinjalo.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ekufundiseni abatsha kukuba nesithakazelo rhoqo ebomini bakhe ukuze ungaphuthelwa utshintsho olubalulekileyo kwaye uvumele uxhumano lwakho nomntwana ukuba lungabhubhi. Emva koko akayi kuba nxamnye nawe okanye nawuphi na umntu.