Abantu abaninzi kakhulu, basebenzisa iziqinisekiso zokuzithemba, bafezekise iziphumo ezifunwayo. Kuyabonakala ukuba oku kusebenzayo! Ziziphi iziqinisekiso? Ezi ziingxelo, ngenxa yokuba wonke umntu unako ukutshintsha indlela yokucinga, ukudala eli lizayo elivuya, elowo wonke umntu alwela. Ezi nkcazo zenkxaso yakho yonke imihla, zithemba wena kunye namandla akho.
Ngaphandle kokuba sazisole, sisoloko sichaza ukuqinisekiswa okungahambiyo, sithetha ezinye iziqulatho zemixholo embi imihla ngemihla. Ngokomzekelo, abaninzi banamazwi "ama-parasites" - ukuvakala okanye ubusuku nabanye. Ngako oko, ukuze utshintshe into ebomini bakho, ukuba ube nokuzithemba, kufuneka ufunde ukulawula amagama kunye neengcamango. Sitshintsha zonke iziqinisekiso ezimbi kwiimpawu eziqinisekileyo, nangona kunzima ukwenza. Njalo ekuseni kufuneka uqale ngokumomotheka nokubulela yonke into ejikelezile.
Kuyavela ukuba ukuqinisekiswa akuyiyo kodwa ingcinga zethu. Ngendlela elula kwaye enamandla kakhulu, sinokuchaphazela ingqondo engqondweni. Khetha ukuqinisekiswa okuza kubonisa iimfuno zakho, kwaye uphinde uphinde uphindwe kaninzi. Kubalulekile ukwenza loo magama ngokuchanekileyo.
Imigaqo yokudala iziqinisekiso
- Ukuba ufuna ukutshintsha ubomi bakho ukuba bube bhetele, ngoko kufuneka ucwangcise iingcamango zakho ngendlela efanelekileyo, ngaphandle kokusebenzisa isiqwenga "kungekhona."
- Ufanele ukwakha ubungqina kwixesha langoku, umzekelo ndimthanda.
- Ukuqulunqwa ngokukodwa kweminqweno yakho kubalulekile - yilezi ziqinisekiso ezingabangela ukuvakalelwa.
- Ukuqinisekiswa ngalunye kufuneka kukukhathalele kuphela, kunye neemeko zemicimbi yakho. Ukuba lujolise ekuphuculeni imicimbi yomnye umntu, ukuqinisekiswa okunjalo akuyi kusebenza.
Kubalulekile ukuphinda ibinzana ngokuzithanda. Ngokomzekelo, kuyakunceda ukuphinda iziqinisekiso ezilandelayo:
- Ndiyamthanda;
- Ndiyamthanda umzimba wam;
- Umzimba wam uthanda ukuphilile;
- Uthando lujolise entliziyweni yam;
- yonke iseli yomzimba wam uyathandwa;
- Ndiyithanda ngenxa yokuba ndingubani;
- Ndingaba yinto endiyifunayo.
Ukutshicilela imihla ngemihla ngokwakho okanye ngokukhawuleza kwindlela efanelekileyo yokufezekisa iinjongo, ulonwabo nothando. Ngenxa yoko, ebomini bakho kuya kuba nemizwa emihle kunye neemvakalelo, kwaye kunye kunye nothando kunye nokuqonda, ukuzithemba kuya kuza kuwe.
Iimpawu ezixhamle kakhulu zokunyusa ukuzithemba. Ukuzithemba okuphezulu kukusekelwe kwiinguqu ezintle. Ukuba umntu akakholelwa kuye, akazithandi yena, kwaye akanakuvakalelwa kukuba uyakufanelekela ebomini, akayi kufumana nantoni na. Zonke iingcamango zethu zingazaliseka. Ngako oko, akukho mzekelo unako ukugxininisa ekubeni unobungozi okanye ungalindelanga nto ebalulekileyo ebomini.
Vumela ukuba ube ngokwakho, kwaye ngoko uya kuthanda ngokuqinisekileyo. Ufanele ukwazi ukuba ungumntu oyingqayizivele. Ngoko endaweni yokuhlakulela iimpazamo zakho, gxi ninisa isidima sakho, ukwandise ukuzithemba kwakho ngokuqinisekiswa, ukuphinda: Ndiyintle. Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uza kukhangela ngokukhawuleza ukubonakala kwakho ngaphesheya.
Kutheni kungenako ukuqinisekiswa ukusebenza?
- Okokuqala, kunokwenzeka ngenxa yokuba ungasebenzisa igama elithi "unako" kwinqanaba elakhiweyo. Emva kwakho konke, ingqondo yakho engqondweni iyazi ukuba unako, kwaye ngoko le nto ayifuni ukuba ifakwe kwisigunyaziso.
- Okwesibini, ukuba awuphindaphindi ngokuphindaphindiweyo, baya kuyeka ukusebenzela.
- Musa ukulibala ukuba amabinzana kufuneka abe ngethuba langoku, kungekhona kwikamva.
- Ukuba awukholelwa oko utshoyo, ukuqinisekiswa kubangelwa ukungqiniswanga, ngoko mhlawumbi abayi kusebenza.