Ukuba umntu akanakuvakalelwa, unokufa okanye ugula kakhulu. Ukubaluleka kokuba namava anjalo kakhulu kangangokuba nokuba ukungabikho kwabo kungaholela kwimiphumo emibi. Le meko kuthiwa ukunyuswa kwengqondo, ukuhlaziywa kwabantwana abadala kunye nabantwana ngokuqhelekileyo kuba yithuba lokutyelela kwengqondo yengqondo okanye kwesazi sengqondo, kuba akunakwenzeka ukuphuma kwimeko ngokuzimeleyo.
Ukunyanzelwa ngokomzwelo
Leli gama elithi "ukunyanzelwa" lingahambi kakuhle, lingahunyushwa ngokuthi "ukunyanzelwa, ukunyamekelwa, ukutshatyalaliswa", kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo kusetyenziselwa ngentsingiselo "yokuthintela". Ngaloo ndlela, ukunyanzelwa kwemvakalelo kukuba akunakwenzeka ukufumana amava adingekayo.
Izizathu zokwehliswa kwengqondo zihlukileyo: kubantwana oku kubakho imfundo engafanelekanga (ukulungiselela iimfuno zabo zomntwana, ukungafundanga ihlabathi lakhe), ukungahlali kwabazali okanye intsapho engaphelelanga; kubantu abadala - ukulahlekelwa ngumntu othandekayo, umsebenzi, olunye ukutshatyalaliswa okukhulu okanye uluhlu lwezinto ezincinci kodwa ezide.
Iziphumo zaloo mingcipheko ziyamangaliswa yiindidi. Ukuba oko kwenzeka kumntwana, ngoko ilahlekelwa ngumsebenzi wayo, inzala kwinto eyenzekayo, eya kuchaphazela ukuphuhliswa kwayo. Kwakhona kunenxaxheba ekuphuhlisweni kweengxaki , izifo ze-psychosomatic kunye nezifo zengqondo. Ukunyanzelwa ngokwemvakalelo kubantu abadala kungakhokelela ekukhathaleleni, ukungakhathazeki, ukulahlekelwa ukholo ngokwamandla akho. Enyanisweni, abadala bayakwazi ukulungelelanisa ukuziphatha kwabo, ngoko akusoloko kusweleka kweempembelelo kuthintela ukuziphatha. Abanye abantu abaphikelelekileyo abasayi kuphendula ixesha elide, bezama ukuhlawulela umvuzo wokunyanzelwa kwemvakalelo, kodwa oku kuya kuba yinkqubo ebalulekileyo kwixesha elizayo.
Iziphumo zokunyanzelwa
Gcwalisa ukungabikho kwemvakalelo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo:
- abantwana bafuna ingqalelo kwiontanga okanye kwabanye abantu abadala;
- baxakeke okanye bahlale bexhalabile, bakhetha ukufuna induduzo kwiincwadi okanye ukucinga kwabo.
Kwiindlela ezininzi zokunconywa kwembuyekezo:
- umnqweno wokwandisa isondo sakho sesentlalo;
- ubomi obunokuziphatha ngokwesondo;
- khangela uphando olutsha ngaphantsi kwefuthe lezinto ze-psychotropic;
- izinto zokuzonwabisa.
Enyanisweni, akukho mntu ukhansele iincwadi, umculo kunye nezinto zokusebenza, ekutholeni abaninzi banokufumana induduzo kubo, kodwa ukuba ukulamba kwindlala kukhula, ngoko nangoko igalelo lifunwa ngamandla, kwaye ngoko ke iindlela ziya kuba zikhuselekileyo ngaphantsi.
Ngoko jonga kwakhona ngokwakho kunye nabathandekayo bakho, musa ukuwayeka ukufudumala kwabo nothando lwabo ? Yaye ukuba uthe wabuhlungu, ke ufuna ngokukhawuleza isizathu sokuba ungabi sivakalisi esiqhelekileyo kwiifommesi kunye noogqirha abanonophelo kwiprofayili encinci.