Naliphi na intombazana eyazi: into eyona nto ilukhuni ukwenza ukunyuka kwesisindo , yenza isigqibo esivela ngoku ngoku - indlela entsha yobomi. Unokuzama iindlela ezahlukeneyo, kubandakanya - ukuqinisekiswa kokulahlekelwa kwesisindo. Kodwa ungacingi ukuba iziqinisekiso zifana namagama emilingo apho uya kukhula khona. Baya kukunceda kuphela ukususa iibhloko zakho zengqondo kunye nezicwangciso ezingalunganga ezifana "Andiyi kukhululeka." Ngokukhawuleza xa uqala ukukholelwa kwisiphumo, kuya kuba lula ukuba ufezekise!
Ngubani ofuna iimpawu ezintle?
Umzimba wethu unobunye obuyinkimbinkimbi ye-psyche kunye negobolondo yangokwenyama, edibanisa kumgangatho ophantsi. Ukuba unesiqiniseko sokuba awunawo amandla, kwaye awukwazi ukunciphisa umzimba - unikezela umzimba wakho isimo sengqondo abangenayo injongo yokuya kwiinjongo zabo. Kwaye ekugqibeleni kuvela ukuba "uphula" okanye ungaqali ukudla okulungileyo. Kodwa iziqinisekiso ezintle zenzelwe ukukunceda utshintshe izimo zengqondo zangaphakathi, kholelwa kwiinguqu kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, zilungelelanise imvelo yakho kubo.
Ufuna nje ukuqinisekiswa okuchanekileyo ekulahlekeni kwesisindo, ukuba uvuma njalo iingcamango ezinjalo:
- "Ndicinga njani ukuba kufuneka ndilahle yonke into ehlekayo, i-mood yangoko ihla";
- "Iimodeli zikhuni kwaye zivela ezi zinto zimbi";
- "Ndinelifa lolo hlobo";
- "Andizange ndibe mnxweme, kwaye ngoku andiyi kukhululeka";
- "Andinakuze ndiyinqabe";
- "Ndifuna ukunciphisa umzimba, kodwa ke akukho nto yokwenza oku," njl.
Kutheni ezi ngcamango ziwonakalisa? Kulula. Ukuba ugweba iinkwenkwezi okanye iimodeli, uthi kwinto yokuqonda ukuba "yincinci imbi!", Kwaye umzimba uyabalazela ukumelana nemilinganiselo yokulahlekelwa kwesisindo. Ukuba uthi kuwe "Andiyi kuphinda ndilahlekelwe ngumzimba," umzimba uyawuqonda nje njengelinye iqela! Kwaye ukuba ufuna izizathu kwaye ungaqapheli ukuba iingxaki zakho zivela ekudleni okungafanelekanga kunye nokuphila kwindlela yokuhlala, uhlala uzilungelele ukuba akukho nto incike kuwe, kwaye akukho nto ifanelekile ukutshintsha - ayisayi kusebenza.
Ukuze ulahlekelwe isisindo, kufuneka uzinze iinjongo ezichanekileyo, unike ixesha elifanelekileyo (ukuqheleka, ukulahlekelwa kwesisindo sempilo kuya kwisilinganiso se-4 kg ngenyanga, 1 kg ngeveki, ngokulandelanayo). Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu - ukuba uqaphele ukuba ubunzima bakho bunzima, kwaye ukuba ulungele ukulungisa imeko ngeendlela zonke, kuba ukufezekisa injongo yakho kubaluleke ngaphezu kobuthathaka besikhashana ngaphambi kwekhekhe.
Imizekelo yeziqinisekiso zokulahlekelwa kwesisindo
Ngoko, iziqinisekiso ezinamandla zizithethi ezintle ezifanele ukutshintsha isimo sengqondo sakho esibi. Bafanele bakuthande. Phinda ubhetele ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngamaxesha amaninzi ngosuku - umzekelo, kusasa nangokuhlwa.
Ngoko, zeziphi iziqinisekiso eziza kukunceda ulahlekelwe isisindo?
- Kulula ukuba ndilahle ukutya okumazi.
- Ndiya kuthoba kwaye ndikhangeleke imihla ngemihla.
- Ndiyicima ngokulula ubunzima obunzima.
- Ndiyintle apha kwaye ngoku, kodwa ndiphucula.
- Ndiyathanda ukungena kwimidlalo.
- Ndiyathanda izithelo ezintsha, imifuno kunye nokutya okunempilo ngokubanzi.
- Nsuku zonke ndiyabona ukuba ndiba ngumncinci.
- Ukulahlekelwa isisindo kulula kum.
- Ndiyinto enhle kunanini ngaphambili.
- Ndivuyiswe ukuba nomzimba omhle kunye omhle.
Olu luhlu lunakho kwaye lufanele longezelelwe ngezo nkcukacha ezichaphazelekayo ngqo. Kufuneka zifihle ngokupheleleyo iingcamango zakho ezimbi ezilahlekelwa ngumzimba kwaye kunzima kwaye zibuhlungu, kwaye awuyi kuze uphumelele. Njalo xa uzibamba kule ngcamango, khawukhumbule ngokuqinisekileyo ukuqinisekiswa okufanelekileyo. Kungekudala uza kuqeqesha ukuqonda kwakho, kwaye iya kukholelwa ngamazwi akho, kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ukulahlekelwa isisindo kuya kuhamba ngokukhawuleza kwaye kulula. Eyona nto ingcono kwaye rhoqo usebenza kuwe, ngokukhawuleza uza kufumana iziphumo.