Ukuqulunqwa komlingiswa

Akusiyo imfihlo kunoma ubani ukuba umhlaba wangaphakathi lomntu uyinto ehlala ishintsha ubomi. Umzuzwana nje kunokusenza sihluke ngokupheleleyo kunokuba sasinomzuzu ngomzuzu. Kwaye ke, into ephakathi kwethu ibonakaliswe ekuziphatheni kwethu. Ngokukodwa, ibandakanyeka nomlingisi. Zonke iziganeko esizifumanayo zichaphazela indlela yethu yokuziphatha. Kwaye bekungekho mpazamo ukungayihoyi iimeko kunye neendlela zokwakheka komlingiswa. Ubuncinane ukuze kuqondwe indlela kunye nokuba siphi na le okanye ezinye iimpawu zobuntu ezivela kuthi.

Uphuhliso kunye nokwakhiwa komlingiswa

Umntu unokuthi ngokuqinisekileyo ubizwa ngokuba ngumntu wobuntu. Olu luhlobo lwesiseko, oluvumela indlela ethile yokuphendula kwimibonakalo eyahlukeneyo yobomi. Ingxaki yokubunjwa kwamacandelo iye yaqwalaselwa yenzululwazi iminyaka emininzi. Ngokuqhelekileyo kukholelwa ukuba le ngcamango yempawu ngamnye yomntu yafunyanwa nguYulius Bansen kuqala, owayejonga umlingiswa njengento ethile yobuntu. Emva kwakhe, izazi zeengqondo ngegama lomhlaba (Freud, Jung, Adler) ziqwalasele ukubunjwa komlingiswa wendoda njengenkqubo engapheliyo kwaye ibangelwa yizesondo okanye ezinye izizathu. Nanamhlanje, umbuzo wukuphi uhlobo lwesimo, i-anthropologists nazo zibandakanya. Into yokuqwalasela kwabo ingqalelo kubaluleka komlinge ngamnye.

Izinto ezichaphazela ukubunjwa komlingiswa

Ukuqulunqwa nokuguqulwa komlingiswa yinkqubo ethatha inxalenye ebalulekileyo yobomi. Ukuba nempawu zobuntu eziphathekayo ezidluliselwa kwizityalo ezivela kubazali, umntu ngonyaka emva konyaka, njenge-anyanisi iqala ukugqithisa ngeendlela ezahlukileyo zeempawu kunye neempawu ezenziwe ngokubanzi phantsi kwefuthe lemeko yentlalo apho likhula kwaye likhule. Yingakho iindlela zokwakheka komlinge zinomdla okhethekileyo kwizengqondo zengqondo. Kwaye, nangona le nkqubo inomlingisi ngamnye, umgaqo wesiqhelo awukhange ukhanselwe. Kwaye iinqanaba eziphambili lomgangatho wemibala zilandelayo:

  1. Ibanga elilodwa apho impembelelo kumntu ozayo womntu uqala ukubizwa ngokuba nzima kakhulu. Kwezinye iingcali zengqondo le nkqubo ichazwa malunga nokuzalwa, kwabanye - mhlawumbi ukusuka kwiminyaka emibini. Kukho nawuphi na, kubalulekile ukuba sikhumbule ukuba ixesha elivela kwiminyaka emibili ukuya kweyishumi lixesha lokumkela okhethekileyo lomntwana kwinto etshiweyo kunye nendlela abadala abaziphatha ngayo. Kwakhona, musa ukulibala malunga neendlela zokwenza izinto eziphathekayo ezibeka uphawu kwibala elizayo. Oku kubandakanya ukuziphatha.
  2. Into elandelayo echaphazela ukubunjwa komlinge osele kwiminyaka yokufunda esikolweni, ngokuqinisekileyo, inqanaba lokuthatha inxaxheba komntwana kwimisebenzi yeqela kunye nemidlalo. Xa unamava amaninzi ukusebenzisana okunomntwana unomntwana, bhetele kuya kuphuhlisa iimpawu ezinjalo njengentlalo, ukuchaneka, ukuzithemba, njl njl. Kodwa kukufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba ezinye iindlela zokuzibandakanya zinokuthi zonakalisa ukuthambekela kwezinye izici.
  3. Kwisikolo, malunga neminyaka engama-7 ukuya kwe-15, inxalenye yesimo somntu yenziwa. Ukuphuhliswa kweempawu ezithile kuxhomekeke kwinqanaba lokuzithembela komntwana osemtsha, isimo sengqondo sootitshala kunye noontanga kuye, kunye nempembelelo yeendaba (i-Intanethi, ithelevishini, njl.). Ukufikelela kwiminyaka eyi-15-17 umntu sele sele eneempawu ezithile zangaphakathi eziza kuhlala zingatshintshi ebomini bakhe. Ukuzilungisa ziyakwazi kuphela umntu ngokwakhe ngenxa yokuphuhliswa rhoqo kwaye asebenze ngokwabo. Ukongezelela koko, zombini kwicala elihle (umsebenzi, ukuzifundela), kunye nokungahambi kakuhle (ukutshaya, ukusetyenziswa kakubi kotywala).
  4. Xa uneminyaka eyi-25-30, ukubunjwa komlinganiso kubandakanya ukuhamba "kubuntwaneni" (maximalism, ukuqonda, njl njl) kunye nokuvela koqhagamshelwano olunengqiqo (uxanduva lwezenzo zomntu, ukuqonda, njl).
  5. Emva kweminyaka engu-30 yokuguquka komlingiswa, njengomthetho, akusayi kwenzeka. Umnye umzekelo ungagula ngengqondo okanye uxinzelelo. Xa uneminyaka engama-50, abantu, njengommiselo, sele bahlula ngeentlobo ezahlukeneyo zeengcinga kunye namaphupha kwaye baqala ukuhlala ngokusemgangathweni "apha napha." Umdala umntu uba, iindawo ezingakumbi kwimibilini yakhe yokuphila ziqala ukuhlala. Ngokukodwa kubalulekile ukuqala kokuguga.

Ngaloo ndlela, ekuqaleni kobomi, isiseko sinempembelelo yentsapho kunye nokusingqongileyo kwimeko yoluntu. Kodwa omdala umntu uba, ikamva elixhomekeke ekusebenziseni wena kunye nehlabathi lakho langaphakathi.