Abazali abaninzi abazange bahlangabezane neemeko apho umntwana eqala ukuzibetha intloko, ubuso okanye iindlebe. Kodwa xa kwenzeka, oomama nootata baqala ukuxhalabisa kwaye kaninzi abazi ukuba benzani. Asithathi njengomzekelo omncinci abantwana abasenyangeni yokuqala yobomi, bayenza ngengozi.
Kutheni umntwana ezithinteleyo?
Esi sihlandlo sinokuthi sisabele kwisiganeko okanye ukuvuselela. Ngoko, ukuba kukho ukuhlala kuxabana kwintsapho, umntwana unokubonisa umdla wakhe ngale ndlela. Oku kubonakala ngakumbi ngexesha leengxaki - kwiminyaka emibini okanye emithathu. Kule minyaka, abantwana abakwazi ukulawula ngokupheleleyo iimvakalelo zabo. Kwiimeko ezixinzelelekileyo, zihlala zisebenza ngamandla okanye zichasene. Kodwa kwenzeka ukuba umntwana uvakalisa isimo sakhe sengqondo, azibetha.
Ukuqonda isizathu sokuba umntwana azibethe, kuyafuneka kwakhona ukucacisa uhlobo lobuntu kunye nomlingana womntwana. Mhlawumbi uvalwe kwaye ugxininise kuye.
Abanye abantwana bazama ukuphatha abazali babo. Ukuba umntwana uyaqaphela ukuba xa ezibetha, unina ulungele ukwenza nantoni na ayifunayo, unokuzibetha ngamabomu.
Kwenzeka ukuba umntwana uziva enetyala, ngoko uqala ukuzibetha, uzijezise ngale ndlela.
Kuthekani ukuba umntwana uyazibetha?
Abazali bafuna, ngaphezu kwazo zonke, ukuba bagcine iimeko apho oku kwenzekayo kunye nokuzama ukuphelisa izinto ezinomsindo. Umama onomdla unokukwazi ukubona oko kubangela ukuba umntwana wakhe azibethe ebusweni okanye entloko. Zama ukungenise umntwana ukuba abe novuyo olugqithiseleyo okanye ukucaphuka.
Jonga indlela ophendula ngayo ekuziphatheni komntwana. Musa ukuzalisekisa ngokukhawuleza zonke iimfuno zayo. Kumele unike umntwana ukuba aqonde ukuba ukuba uya kuzibetha ngokwakhe, akayi kuzuza nantoni na kuwe.
Musa ukusola umntwana, umzekelo, ukuba uphazamise abazali okanye uziphathe kakubi. Ingqiqo ehlala ehlala ingenza ukuba umntwana azingqine. Ngokuqhelekileyo xelela abantwana amazwi omthandayo, badumise. Abazali kufuneka bazame ukudala umoya ozolile, onobungane kumntwana.
Ukuba, nangona zonke iinzame, awukwazi ukujamelana nale ngxaki, kwaye umntwana uyaqhubeka ezishaya entloko, ubuso okanye iindlebe, fumana umntu onokukunceda. Kungaba, okokuqala, abantu abasondeleyo, oogogo nomkhulu, abahlobo abahle oba thembileyo. Ukuba umntwana uya enkulaneni, unokuthetha nomfundisi. Kwiimeko ezinzima, qhagamshelana nomntwana okanye intsapho yengqondo.