Kutheni abafazi beshintsha?

Ubuqhetseba ebomini kwindoda kunye nomfazi okwenzekayo kwimeko xa benganelisekanga kunye nolwalamano kunye nesiqingatha sabo sesibini. Kwaye, ukungonelelwanga kungekhona nje ngesondo kuphela.

Ngokutsho kophando loluntu oluqhutyelwa eYurophu nakumazwe angaphambili e-CIS, abaphandi bafumanisa ukuba abafazi bashintsha ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunamadoda. Oku kuphakamisa ukuba abafazi abanelisekanga ubomi babo. Iingcali zezobuhlanga, nazo zikwazi ukuchonga izizathu eziphambili zokungcatsha kwabasetyhini abasetyhini:

1. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ibhinqa elitshatileyo lifuna umthandi ngokuzimela. Omdala umfazi uba, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ahlale ekhangayo kwaye efuna. Xa ulwalamano nomyeni luphela, ebomini babesetyhini abathile abatshatileyo abathandayo bavela.
2. Ulwabelana ngesondo nomyeni wakhe kuyeka ukuzisa ukwaneliseka kumfazi.
3. Inkxalabo ebudlelwaneni phakathi kwabatshatileyo.
4. Isidingo sentshukumo entsha, ngokugqithiseleyo, gungqa.
5. Intlanganiso engalindelekanga kunye nomthandi wangaphambili. Abanye abesifazana, nangona bangalindelekanga, baqala ukuguqula amadoda abo kunye nabangaphambili.
6. Ukungaboni ngqalelo kwendoda kumfazi wayo, indlela aziva ngayo, ukubonakala.
7. Indoda inikwe umsebenzi wakhe okanye umdlalo, kwaye loo mfazi uziva enesizungu emtshatweni naye.
8. Inqumbo yomyeni wakhe.

Umfazi watshintsha indoda yakhe kunye nomfazi

Ukuba loo mbono ethi "Umfazi nomthandi" uye waziqhelanisa nabantu banamhlanje, ukungcatsha kwintombi ebhinqileyo kwamaninzi kuseyihloko yesibindi. Kwabaninzi abantu, akusiyo imfihlelo ukuba kutheni umfazi egqibe ukulala nomfazi. Iingcali zengqondo zakwazi ukubonisa ukuba kutheni abafazi batshintsha amadoda kunye nomfazi:

• ukungabikho kokuqonda kwabantu. Abasetyhini, abade beba neengxaki zokungaboni kakuhle kunye namadoda, baninzi bafumana iindlovu. Ngokuqhelekileyo amadoda akakholelwa ukuba umfazi uqhatha umfazi;
• umdla. Umnqweno wokufuna ukwazi, nokuba, isizathu esivakalayo sokungcatsha komfazi. Okwangoku, sithola ulwazi oluthe xaxa malunga neentlobo zesini-zesini ezivela kwiimidiya, iincwadi, ii-movie. Uninzi lwezesondo ezifanelekileyo zithintana nomfazi ukuba anelise umnqweno wakhe;
• unxanelwe ukuvakalelwa kwintsha. Ipesenti ethile yabesifazane abatshatileyo (ngokwezentlalo-ntsapho ukusuka ku-7 ukuya ku-10%) abacingi ukuba ubomi babo bulinganiswa. Bafuna iziganeko ezibangelwa igazi, abaqhelana nabo kunye nokudibanisa. Abafazi abanjalo bahamba ngokubanzi kwimicimbi eyahlukeneyo ngaphandle. Kubandakanya, kunye nokulala ngeshini.

Bangaphi ipesenti yabafazi abaguqukayo?

Kwilizwe ngalinye eli nani lihluke - kuxhomekeka kwindlela utyunjelwa ngayo uluntu kunye nomthetho kubhekiselele ekukhoselweni kwamakhosikazi.

Emazweni aseYurophu, eU.SA, nakwiRashiya, eBelarus nase-Ukraine, malunga I-42% yabasetyhini abatshatileyo bakhohlisa amadoda abo. Kule, ngaphezu kwesahlulo sinomthandi unomphela. Izazi zezenkolo zikholelwa ukuba lo mfanekiso ukhulu kakhulu ngenxa yokuba kule mihlaba akukho mithetho ijezisa abafazi abatshatileyo ngenxa yokugwenxa. Kwakhona, indima ebalulekileyo idlalwe kukubaluleka kwehlabathi lonke ekubhekeleni into yokukrexeza.

Kwilizwe lamaSilamsi, ipesenteji yabasetyhini abaphandayo. Ubuqhetseba kula mazwe bujeziswe ngokukhawuleza, ukuya kwisigwebo sokufa. Ehlotyeni ka-2010, umshicileli wafumana ibali elikhulu elincinci malunga nendlela abalawuli basekhaya baseSomalia babulala ngayo ibhinqa ngobudlelwane nomntu otshatileyo. Umfazi waseSomalia waxutywa ngamatye ngenxa yokugwenxa. Kwakufana nokufa okufanayo kwindoda eyayinxulumene naye.