Ubume bentsapho buboniswe kumaphepha, banomdla kwi-intanethi yodliwano-ndlebe, nangona xa kubhaliswa kwiindawo ezininzi kufuneka kubonise le ngcaciso. Unokuthetha kangakanani igama elithi "utshatile" malunga nomfazi?
Yintoni imeko yomtshato?
Kukho iimeko ezilandelayo zomtshato: ongatshatanga, oqhawule umtshato, otshatileyo. Icala elisemthethweni lale migaqo liyacaca kubo bonke abantu, kodwa yintoni imeko yomtshato yomqeshi ekuqeshweni yinto enkulu.
Ingaba imeko yomtshato iya kuthetha ntoni kumqeshi?
Kubonakala ngathi indlela engcono yokufumana umsebenzi kwigrafu ukutshata isibini esitshatileyo. Kodwa hayi, ukungabikho kwintsapho kunokuba yindoda kuphela-umqeshi uya kuqwalasela ukuchitha iintsuku nobusuku emsebenzini. Kodwa ukususela kumfazi osemtsha engatshatileyo elinde ukhenketho olumanyeneyo: ukutyelela rhoqo-umtshato - umyalelo. Kwaye ukuba umfazi uneminyaka engaphezulu kwengu-35 ubudala kwaye engazange atshate, oko kungenakukhangela kumqeshi - ngokukhawuleza isizathu silolu hlobo olubi lomenzi wesicelo?
Abafazi abatshatiweyo abangenawo abantwana abasesikweni esingcono - balindeleke ukuba bahambe ngokukhawuleza kwinqumlezo, kwaye abafazi abanomntwana omncinci abafuni ukuthatha umsebenzi, kuba bahlala bekhefu lokugula ngenxa yokugula komntwana.
Umfazi osemtshatweni womtshato akayiyona into enhle kakhulu kumqeshi-ukungathandi ukuzalisa ngokusemthethweni ubudlelwane kunokubonisa ukungazinzi nokusebenza.
Ngaloo ndlela, umviwa ofanelekileyo ngumtshato oqhawule okanye umfazi otshatileyo onomntwana omdala.
Ungatshintsha njani isimo somtshato kumaphepha?
Ekubeni sifumene ukuba ukubhaliswa komthetho kubambiswano kubalulekile, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukugcinwa kwazo zonke iziko. Ukuphela kwesatifiketi somtshato akusiniki ilungelo elipheleleyo lokubhala igama lomlingo "utshatile" kumbuzo wesimo somtshato. Kufuneka kwakhona ukuba ufake uphawu kwipaspoti.
Ukutshintsha isimo somtshato kwipasipoti kufuneka usebenzise kwiofisi yepaspoti kwindawo ohlala kuyo. Ungakulibali ukuba ukuba utshintshe ifani yakho, kwaye ipasipoti iya kuguqulwa.
Umtshato awukho imeko yomtshato!
Kodwa amaxwebhu ngamaxwebhu, kodwa asihlali kumaphepha. Kwaye umtshato ungaphezu kwephawu kumpasipoti. Sava, mhlawumbi, ibinzana: umtshato awukho isimo somtshato, kodwa ingcamango "Yenkalipho". Ngale nto asikwazi ukuvumelani, kunzima ukubeka ingcongolo kumnwe wakho, kodwa ugcine apho ukuze uphile. Ibhinqa idinga isibindi nesibindi sokwakha ubudlelwane obuthembayo kwintsapho kwaye igcine uthando lweminyaka ezayo. Kodwa uxanduva lweentsapho ezivuyayo alukho kuphela kumalungu afanelekileyo amancinci, kufuneka uncedo lomlingane apha. Nangona, konke kuxhomekeka kweso sibini, umzekelo, izazi zeengqondo zihlukanisa iintlobo ezininzi zeentsapho.
- Ubudlelwane, esathetha ngawo, xa uxanduva lomtshato lugqithiselwa ngokusemthethweni phakathi kwabatshatileyo, izazi zeengqondo zicinga ngokusondeleyo. I-Union of Companions ihlala ihlala iphela, kuba ifuna iimpikiswano kungekhona ukuzithemba, kodwa ukugqiba indlela yokuhambisa intsapho. Uthando emtshatweni ololo hlobo lugxilile, kungabikho ukuzithoba ngokupheleleyo kwiqabane.
- Olunye uhlobo oluqhelekileyo lwentsebenziswano ngumtshato oxhomekeke kuyo - omnye wabatshatileyo uziva uxanduva lomnye kwaye uyanyamekela zonke iingxaki zakhe. Indoda ayisoloko idlale indima yomlondolozi, ekugqibeleni amantombazana ayanda kuba yintsika yentsapho.
- Kukho iintsapho apho abafazi bazama kakhulu ukugcina ukuzimela kwabo. Baya kuphila ngokuzimeleyo baze bavumele ukuba babe neentlanganiso ezimnandi "kwicala".
- Akunqabile kakhulu ukuba kukho imibambano apho esi sibini sihlala siqonde ukuba ngubani oyintloko yentsapho. Iingqungquthela kule ndawo zihlala zihlala. Imitshato enjalo ayidla ngokukhawuleza, ngokuphindaphindiweyo isibini sithatha iindlela kunye nokungaphumeleli ekufumaneni ukuba ubani omele abe yindawo ehamba phambili.
- Olunye ulwalamano oluncinci lubudlelwane apho abatshatileyo bakholelwa ukuba bafanele babe ngabanye, bengenalo ilungelo lokuphila kwabo. Nanku, ukuxabana akuyinto engavamile, kuphela isizathu sokuba nomona.
Njengoko ubona, ibinzana elifutshane malunga nesimo somtshato libhekiselele kwiimeko eziyiyo ngokwenene. Ngoko ungacingi ukuba bonke abafazi abatshatileyo bayonwabile kwaye babanjwe, kunye ne-razvedenok-losersers.