Uthando lokuqala ngonaphakade luhlala lulumemori, kokubili kwabesetyhini kunye namadoda. Abantu abaninzi bakhumbula eli xesha njengento eqaqambileyo kwaye inomdla, kwaye ezinye ixesha elide lihlushwa kwaye lixhala malunga nokuba kunokwenzeka ukuba utshintshe into kwaye ulondoloze iimvakalelo okanye cha. Inani elikhulu labantu banomdla kwinto enokuyenza ukuba andinakulibala uthando lokuqala. Umoya onjalo uyingozi, kuba elidlulileyo alithinteli ukuba uqhubeke kunye nokwakha ubudlelwane nabanye abantu.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukulibala uthando lokuqala?
Ingcamango yokuba ixesha lokuphilisa linyanzelekanga, kuba oko kubaluleke kakhulu isimo sengqondo esikuvumela ukuba uphathe umntu ngokwahlukileyo. Iingcali zengqondo zicebisa ukuba zizenzele zona, zicinge, kutheni ukuba ubudlelwane bokuqala banganiki ukuphumla, mhlawumbi, awuzange uthathe isigqibo ngento yakho nomthandi wakho kwaye ungayifaki indawo yokugqibela. Cinga ngezizathu zokwahlukana, kuba into ayizange ifane nomntu ukuba uyahlula. Ngethuba lokudabuka, khumbula iziganeko ezingathandekiyo ezazisa iintlungu. Ulwaphulo olunjalo luya kwenza ukuba libale ulwalamano oludlulileyo.
Iingcebiso malunga nokulibala uthando lokuqala lomfana:
- Kwezinye iimeko, ukudibana nomntu owayengumthandi wangaphambili kukunceda, kwanxibelelwano olufutshane luya kucacisa ukuba umntu utshintshile kwaye iimvakalelo zangaphambili awunayo. Imemori kunye nenyaniso yimiba emibini engahambelaniyo.
- Ukulibala okokuqala uthando oluthile luya kunceda, njengoko iimvakalelo ezintsha kunye neemvakalelo zicacile kwaye zinamandla. Ngalo msebenzi kuya kunceda ukujamelana nemimandla eyahlukeneyo, umzekelo, unokufumana umdla wokuzonwabisa okanye uhambe uhambo.
- Musa ukuhlala ekhaya, kwaye ungagxini kwiingcamango zakho ezibuhlungu, njengoko oku kuya kulukhuphaza nje imeko. Sebenzisa ixesha kubantu, qhagamshelana nabahlobo bamandulo uze wenze izihlobo ezintsha. Mhlawumbi phakathi kobuso obutsha uza kufumana indawo ebalulekileyo kunokuba uzive.