Iindaba ezingalindelekanga zokungathembeki kweqabane lingakhokelela ekubeni umfazi okhohlisiweyo abe yintlungu okanye amenze amanyathelo angenangqiqo. Indlela yokusindiswa kokungcatshiswa komntu othandekayo - cebisa ingcebiso yesazi sengqondo. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka kukhunjulwe ingqalelo ukuba izenzo zengqungquthela "ezinzima" kunye nezinguqu ezingapheliyo ziyahluka.
Indlela yokusindiswa ukutshatyalaliswa kwendoda yakhe - iingcebiso zengqondo yengqondo
Iindaba ezingalindelekanga zokuhlambalaza, eziwela phantsi "njengekhephu entloko," izazi zeengqondo zichaza ngokuthi "zibukhali." Ulwazi malunga noshintsho olunzulu lukhokelela umntu ukuba abe ngummandla ogqithiseleyo: ubuchopho bakhe buphazamiseka ngokukhawuleza ngeengcamango neemvakalelo ezahlukeneyo. Intlungu ebuhlungu yengqondo ingabangela umonakalo omkhulu kwinkqubo ye-nervous, okokuqala oko kuyimfuneko ukuba "uqalise". Phuma kwi-stupor, ukuphosa ngaphandle ukuphazamiseka kunye noxinzelelo kuya kunceda:
- umsebenzi wemoto - usebenza, ugxuma;
- ukubetha umtya okanye izitya;
- ukukhala;
- ukukhala.
Iingcali zengqondo azicebisi ukuba zizinqande kwaye zigcine intlungu ngokwazo-ezi zihlwele izifo ezibi, kungekhona nje inkqubo ye-nervous, kodwa i-somatic.
Isinyathelo esilandelayo kumfazi okhohlisayo kukufumanisa umsebenzi ukwenzela ukuzalisa ukungenamsebenzi owenziwe. Ukuba awusayidingi yonke imini kunye neveki ukuba uzinike ukupheka, ukuhlamba nokutshiza, ungakwazi ukufunda ulwimi lwangaphandle, uqale ukuya kwindawo yokuzivocavoca kwaye udla ukuphuma kwindalo.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba sisiphi isigqibo esiya kwenziwa - ukuba senze inxaxheba kunye nomthengisi okanye cha, umfazi kufuneka asebenze ngokwakhe. Kwaye oko akufanele kube yinto yokuzikhupha ukuba uzive 'uhlwempuzekile kwaye ungonwabi', injongo ephambili - ukufumana amaphulo okuphuhlisa, wenze ubomi bakho bunomdla nakwiimeko zokuqhawula umtshato.
Indlela yokusinda ukungathembeki rhoqo kwendoda yakhe - iingcebiso zengqondo yengqondo
Ngokuqhelekileyo - engapheliyo-ukutshatyalaliswa komyeni wakhe kubangela ingozi enkulu kwi-psyche yowesifazane. Kukholelwa ngokubanzi ukuba ukuba iqabane lijongene ne-"left left", ngoko lifanelane naye. Nangona kunjalo, ininzi loo ntsapho ibanjwe kunye nabantwana kunye nemali. Iimeko zinzima kakhulu xa umfazi ethanda ngobuqotho indoda engathembekanga.
Ibhinqa, ukuba ithe yagqiba ukuhlala nomyeni ohambayo, kufuneka inciphise ukuxhomekeka komzimba kunye nokuxhomekeka kwindoda kumntu. Ukuzimela, ukuzimelela kunye nokwaneliseka kwintokazi iya kuba, ingxaki engaphantsi kwayo iya kuba nayo. Ukongezelela, kukho ithuba lokuba "iqabane elitsha" liza kuphinda litsalane nomyeni wakhe. Kwaye ukuba oko kungenzeki, enye indoda ingabonakala ngendlela yowesifazane, oya kumxabisa.