Umhla kunye nomntu, kwaye ngokukodwa owokuqala, uyonwabele nayiphi na intombazana, emva kokuba konke kuxhomekeke kuye ukuba ubuhlobo obusondeleyo buya kuphuhliswa njani. Ulungiselela njani umhla wokuqala kunye nomfana, indlela yokuziphatha ngayo, into onokuyenza, kwaye ungenzani na? Malunga nendlela angayonakalisi ngayo umhla wokuqala, siya kuthetha namhlanje.
Ukulungiswa kwangaphambili
Ngaliphi na iminyaka, sigcina ingqwalasela enkulu ekukhethweni kweengubo, kwaye umhla wokuqala awunjalo. Yintoni enxiba ngayo kule ntlanganiso, ukuze loo nto inqwenele kwaye ingabonakali ihlunu kuye? Ngokuqinisekileyo, sifuna ukuthandwa, kodwa isondo asiyona imilenze evulekileyo kunye nesifuba. Ngomhla wokuqala, umfana uya kuba yinto eqikelelweyo yokuqiqa iifom zakho ngaphantsi kwendwangu ehambayo - uya kubeka umgca iimbumba, kwaye akayi kubonisa kakhulu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, iimpahla kufuneka zikhethwe ngendlela efanelekileyo njengoko kunokwenzeka, kodwa ugxininise isidima sakho. Kodwa akuyimfuneko ukuwela kwelinye icala, nokuba nomfanekiso omhle kakhulu awuyi kunxiba isambatho sesigodlo, ngoko ayiyi kuba yintsebenziswano enkulu ukusuka ekuthobeni. Kwaye ke, iingubo zakho kufuneka zifanane nomhla weentlanganiso. Vumelani, kuluhlaza ukubonakala kwipikiniki, egqoke ingubo yokuhlwa kunye nezithende eziphezulu.
Ngokumalunga nokuzenzela, into ephambili apha akuyikuyidlula. Kungcono ukhethe umfanekiso onqandulileyo-onqatshelwe. Akukho imfuneko yokwenza i-sexy-making-up okanye ukupenda izipikili kunye nombala we-lacquer color. Ngoku umsebenzi wakho awunakunzima ukumnqoba umfana kunye nokukhanya kwakhe kwangaphandle (ukuba ubiza wena ngosuku, ngoko umtsalisa kwangaphandle), kungakanani ukumqinisekisa ukuba kunomdla ukuchitha ixesha kunye nawe, ukuba unqobe ngendlela yakho yokunxibelelana.
Indlela yokuziphatha xa udibana nomntu?
Yintoni ongayithetha ngomhla wokuqala, yiyiphi icebiso eliya kuba khona? Kukho imigaqo yokuziphatha engaqinisekanga kunye nomnye wabo-intombazana ayifanele kuthwale ngexesha elithile ngamava kunye neengxaki zakhe, awukwazi kakuhle kakuhle, kwaye ke ulungele ukulungelelanisa. Emva kwakho konke, unomdla kakhulu ukuthetha nomntu othungayo kuwe kwaye akazami ukukulayisha ngeengxaki zakho.
Yintoni ongayibuza ngomhla wokuqala? Ewe, yintoni enomdla ngokwenene. Akulula ukudlala umdla, kwaye emihlanu okanye imizuzu eyishumi loo midlalo iyabakhathaza zombini. Ngoko ke, zama ukuthetha ngezihloko wena kunye nomnxibelelwano wakho onomdla kuzo. Yaye uqaphele ukukrakra okugqithiseleyo ngenxalenye yakho, kuba siyazi ukuba, ngamandla abo onke, amadoda athathaka. Ngoko ke, sizama ukuthetha ngokuzithemba (intombazana enomxholo ongaphakathi iveza umdla kunye nomnqweno wokuwina), kodwa ngaphandle kokuhleka usulu. Ewe, libale malunga ne-vagaries - amaxesha amaninzi umfana uya kukunika ukuba unobandakanyeka kakhulu, kodwa ukugubha rhoqo akuyi kukuhlobisa, kwaye akayi kwandisa uvuyo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo amantombazana ayazibuza ukuba kulungile ukubanga okanye ukulala nomfana ngosuku lokuqala. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kuya kuwe, kwaye mhlawumbi umfana uya kuba mnandi kakhulu kangangokuba ufuna ukuqhubela phambili kubudlelwane obusondeleyo. Kodwa kungcono ukuba ungenzi njalo. Yaye ingongoma apha ayikho kwimimiselo yokuziphatha (nangona ukuba inamandla, ingcamango yobudlelwane obusondeleyo ngomhla wokuqala ayisayi kukuvakashela), kodwa kwizinto ezikhethileyo zembono yendoda. Amadoda ngokwemvelo ngabazingeli, aboyisa. Yaye ukuba uyayibona inkolelo esele ikhona kwiintlanganiso zokuqala, ke lowo olandelayo akayi kulandela. Kutheni, emva kokuba zonke izikhundla zinikezelwe kwaye zinikezele ngokuzinikezela?
Okona kubaluleke - kube yendalo. Awunayo ukukopisha indlela oziphethe ngayo kumdlali wakho oyintandokazi okanye udidi oluvela kwinqaku (iincwadi, manga), uhlukile, kwaye zikhulu. Khumbula indlela umntu osisidenge ebheka ngayo xa ezama ukubonakala
Ngubani ohlawula ngomhla wokuqala? Nantsi yonke into elula, ngokwemiqathango yokuziphatha, umntu omenyiwe uyahlawula. Kodwa ukuba isigqibo sokuya phi na sasihlangene (ibinzana elithi "ndiyakumema" alizange lizwakale), ngoko wonke umntu uya kufuneka azihlawule.
Khumbula, iimpazamo ngomhla wokuqala kukho intombi kunye namakhwenkwe. Kwaye ukuba emva kwendibano kwakungekho ukuqhubeka, musa ukuzigxeka, mhlawumbi akuyiyo indoda yakho.