Ukuba umntu ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumfazi wakhe, akanakwenzeka ukujonga abanye besetyhini kwaye aziphathe ngendlela ebusweni kwintsapho. Indlela yokwenza umyeni ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumfazi wakhe, unokufunda kwiziphakamiso zeengqondo zeentsapho.
Indlela yokwenza intlonipho yindoda kwaye imxabise umfazi wayo?
Umba wokulondoloza uthando kunye nentlonipho kwintsapho akukhona kuphela kwabesetyhini abaqhelekileyo. Kwaye nabafazi abanobuhle, abaphumeleleyo nabanamakhono abanokushiywa ngabayeni babo. Kuvela ukuba akukho ziqinisekiso zokulondoloza uthando iminyaka emininzi. Nangona kunjalo, umfazi angathatha amanyathelo athile ayenze umyeni wakhe abe noloyiko lokulahlekelwa nguye.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba zivakala kangakanani, amadoda ahlala esaba ukulahlekelwa ngabasetyhini abangaqhelekanga, abahlala kuyo yonke imeko. I-psychology yowesifazane ihlelwe ngendlela enokuthi ihlale ishintshana kumntu, njenge-liana, ejikeleza umthi onamandla. Kwaye emva kwexesha, umyeni wakhe uqala ukumcaphukisa, uyayeka ukuqonda umfazi wakhe njengomntu, kwaye, ngokufanelekileyo, ukuhlonela nokuxabisa.
Ibhinqa lifanele liyiqonde, kodwa ungayicinezeli impumlo uze unike umyeni wayo ngetyala. Indoda mayibe negunya elingenakuphikiswa, onke amagama okugxekwa okanye ukungavumelani angenziwa kuphela ngasese. Inhlonipho yomntu yintsika yesibili emva kokuthandana, apho intsapho igcinwa khona, kwaye ngowona wesifazane oqala ukuyiyakha, owathi wagqiba ukufumana impendulo kumbuzo wendlela yokufundisa umyeni wakhe ukuba aqonde umfazi wakhe.
Ukuze kuqinisekiswe izinto ezibangela ukuba indoda ixabise, iintsapho zeengqondo zeluleke ukuba zijonge ngokubanzi kwintsapho yomyeni. Akukho mfihlo yokuba phantse amadoda athetha umfazi, egxile kumama. Ngoko ke, baxabisa kakhulu abo bafazi abaphethe iimpawu ezifana nomama wabo. Kwaye ukufaneleka kwezi zinto kunokuhluke ngokupheleleyo - kwi talente ye-ovini ukuya kuma-pie akhangayo kunye ne-cutry cutlets okumnandi ukuqonda imidwebo nemifanekiso.
Ukongezelela, inhlonipho yamadoda kunye nalawo mabhinqa aqhubekile ngokufanelekileyo kwimimandla yindoda. Ngokuqinisekileyo umyeni uyaziqhayisa ngokuxelela abahlobo ukuba umfazi uqhuba imoto ngokugqibeleleyo kunye kunye naye "ogulayo" kwiqela lakhe lebhola lebhola. Nangona kunjalo, kwaye ukuxhomekeka kwimiba yabantu akuyimfuneko - ukuba umfazi ngokwakhe ulungisa isiseko kwaye utshintshe i-gasket kwipompo, umyeni wakhe unokuvakalelwa ngento engenamsebenzi.
Kwaye iingcali zeengqondo zinika icebiso elilodwa jikelele ukuba ligcine umdla wabantu: bayancoma ukuba ibhinqa lihlale kumntu ngandlela-thile lingenakufikeleleka, imfihlelo. Abameli besondo esomeleleyo basoloko bezingeli, ngoko ke xa "ixhoba" libanjwe, bayaxhalabisa kwaye bajonge ngeenxa zonke. Yaye ukuba loo nto ibhinqa, indoda iya kuyika ukumlahleka kwaye ayiyi kuvumela amehlo akhe phantsi kumfazi wayo. Ziziphi ezinye iintombi ezilapho ...
Indlela yokwenza umntu enze izipho?
Bonke abafazi bafuna ukuziva bebathandekile, kwaye amadoda ayazi kakuhle kakuhle. Nangona kunjalo, abahlala beqaphela ukuba ibhinqa lingaziva lilahliwe kwaye lilolo ngaphandle kwezipho. Kwaye akukho mcimbi ongenakuqwalaselwa njengomnqweno wokufumana isipho somdla. Esi siqhelo esivamile, esivela kula maxesha xa umntu egcina uthando kunye nomdla wentombazana yaphoqeleka ukuba ihlale ikhupha indawo yokuhlala. Kwaye kunqweneleka kakhulu,
Nazi izicatshulwa zengqondo eziza kukuxelela indlela yokufumana umntu ukuba enze izipho:
- Izipho azinakunxuswa, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kubalulekile ukunyathelisa ngokucophelela ukuba umntu uyazi into enokuyithokozisa intanda yakho;
- kufuneka ujabule kuwo wonke umntu, nokuba isipho esingabalulekanga, umntu uya kuvuya kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo akayi kufuneka ukuva le mizwa;
- Izipho akudingeki nje ukuba zilinde, kodwa kwakhona ukunika - othandekayo uya kuvuyela ukufumana into ekhethiweyo entliziyweni.