Umtshato ubumbano lweentliziyo ezimbini, ezisekelwe ekuthandeni, ukuqonda kunye nokuhlonipha. Nangona kunjalo, ubomi buninzi kwaye buhlala bubonisa ukuxhamla. Akukho mitshato efanelekileyo, bonke abantu bayaphikisana, baxabana, ngamanye amaxesha siva inqaku elibuhlungu: "Asiqondani nomyeni wakhe." Indoda nomfazi onomanyano banokungafani namaphupha ahlukeneyo, umdla kunye nemibono ebomini. Iingxabano kunye nokungaqondani kuyinkathazo kubantu abaninzi, ikakhulukazi iintsapho ezincinci, abangazange bafunde ukunqoba ngokwaneleyo iingxaki zobomi baze bafumane ukunyaniseka. Iziqabane ezininzi aziyazi ukuba zenzeni ukuba akukho ukuqonda phakathi kwentsapho.
Ingxaki yokuthula
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafuni ukuxabana, abafazi bayayinaki ingxaki, bavala amehlo abo, becinga ukuba baya kuziqhayisa ngokwabo, bakhethe ukukhuseleka-ukuthula. Abasetyhini baqala ukucinga malunga nendlela yokuhlala nabayeni babo, ukuba akukho ukuqonda okufanayo. Ezi ngcamango, izikhalazo nokungaqondani ziyaxilongwa kwaye ziqale ukuziveza ngokucaphukisa kunye nokunganeliseki. Indoda ivakalelwa utshintsho kulwalamano kwaye iqalisa ukuphazamiseka, kodwa ayikwazi kwaye ayiyazi into eyenza umfazi wakhe amcaphukise kwaye yintoni isizathu senguqu.
Ngokukhawuleza okanye emva koko iintsuku ezinokuthula ziphela kunye nokuxabana. Kwaye akusoloko isiqabane sinokuqonda ukuba kutheni konke kuqalisiwe, kuba imoto yonke yezibambiswano kunye nezikhalazo ziye zaqokelela. Isizathu esona sizathu salolu hlobo kukuba ukungabikho koqhagamshelwano emtshatweni. Amadoda amaninzi awanakho ukuqwalasela iingxoxo zabasetyhini kwaye abahlali baqonda iingcebiso, bathanda ngokuthe ngqo kwaye kaninzi abazi kakuhle ngezikhalazo ezikhoyo. Umfazi uyazibetha ngeengcamango: "Kutheni umyeni wam engandiqondi?". Njengomphumo wamava kunye nezikhalazo, umfazi uhlala ehluleka ukwenza izibango zakhe ngaphandle kweerhafu kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ahlambalaza. Ngoko ke, isiseko sobudlelwane obuhle kukukwazi ukuthetha.
Kuthiwani ukuba umyeni wam akanalo ubudlelwane?
Ulwalamano phakathi kwabatshatileyo kufuneka lubekelwe ngokuvisisana kunye nokuhlonipha, ukuze kuphephe ukungaqondani okungadingekile kunye neengxabano. Abantu bakuthola kunzima ukugqithisa ngokufanelekileyo isimo sabo sengqondo, ukunqanda imvakalelo engaphezulu. Ngenxa yoko, kukho iingxabano ezingokomzwelo, ngokuphindaphindiweyo ziqhubela ingxabano. Izwi ngelizwi - kwaye ingxabano ayinakuvalwa, intetho eqhelekileyo ikhula ibe ngumlambo wecala, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ihlambalaza. Emva kweengxabano, abafazi abazi indlela yokufumana ukuqonda kunye nomyeni wakhe.
Ukunciphisa iimeko ezinjalo, kuyimfuneko ukufunda indlela yokulawula iimvakalelo zakho, kwaye kuyinqweneleka ukuqala ingxoxo ngokusekelwe kwimigaqo elandelayo:
- uzame ukugwema ukugwetywa nokugxeka ngokukhawuleza;
- Incoko kufuneka ibe nokuzola, ngaphandle kokuhlambalaza nokuhlambalaza;
- abalawuli - siyavuma,
- Asicaphukisi kwaye asikhubeki, sibheke into eyakhayo.
Indlela yokufikelela ekuqondeni nomyeni wakhe?
Kuyinto enqwenelekayo ukuthetha ngeemfuno zabantu ngaphandle kokugxekisa ngokucacileyo iqabane lakho. Ukuba ngumcimbi wexesha elichithwa kunye nabahlobo, ngoko kukufanelekile ukucacisa kwangaphambili imisebenzi ethile kwaye uvumelane. Umzekelo, ukuba umyeni okanye umfazi ulwa neentlanganiso rhoqo kunye nabahlobo, uyavuma ukuba uya kudibana nabo, umzekelo, kwi-cafe okanye kwi-salon yoMgqibelo ngoMgqibelo. Kwaye kungcono ukulungelelanisa amaqela entsapho kunye, ukuze iqabane okanye umyeni unokuqiniseka ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngabahlobo.
Uluhlu lweengxaki
Xa sithetha ngezisombululo ezinokwenzeka kwiingxaki ezivela phakathi kwabatshatileyo, simele kuqala sivulele iqabane. Kodwa musa ukukhawuleza. Iimbambano ezininzi ziphela, kuba elinye icala likhetha ukushiya amabango alo. Oku kungakhokelela ekuxabaneni kwixesha elizayo, kuba ingxaki
Ukuze ugweme imeko enjalo, kubalulekile ukucacisa ngokucacileyo ukuba yeyiphi imicimbi yobomi bentsapho ebalulekileyo, kwaye kuya kuba nzima ukuwenqaba. Enyanisweni, ukuchaza uluhlu lweemigaqo ebalulekileyo, kuyinqweneleka ukuzinqanda kwaye ukhethe ezibaluleke kakhulu, ezo zinto ziyimfuneko yonwabo. Kwabakho umntu onokuthi: ukungavumeleki kokungcatsha , ukuhlaselwa, amaqela ahlala rhoqo kunye nabahlobo, utywala, njl. Yona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kwaye ibaluleke kakhulu! Kwaye nakwezinye izinto, umtshato unyanzelisa.
Kakade ke, akuzona zonke iingxaki ezilula ukuzisombulula, kule nkqubo inqweneleka ukuba ube ngumonde kunye nesigulane.