Kungakhathaliseki ukuba sinokuzikhusela njani ekuxinezelekeni, bayaqhubeka bekhupha, kwaye ukuphazamisa nokuphumla kwengqondo ephelelwe yinto ayinakwenzeka. Kwaye sinokubangela ntoni? Ukuxinezeleka! Yaye uya kuhlangabezana njani nawe? Asiphathwa unyango kwiingcali, kwaye asisoloko sinamandla okwabelana ngesingxaki nomfokazi, ngoko kufuneka sicinge ngeendlela zokuphuma phantsi kokudandatheka.
Ukudandatheka okanye ukufuna ukutya?
Ngaphambi kokuba ucinge indlela yokujamelana nokuxinezeleka ngokwakho, kuyafaneleka ukuqikelela ukuba ngaba unayo le disorder. Abantu abaninzi basebenzisa igama lokudandatheka, bengayazi intsingiselo yalo, kuthiwa ukuxinezeleka okuqhelekileyo ukukhathala kunye nomoya obi. Ukunyanzeliswa yimeko enzima kakhulu, uphawu lwayo oluphambili ukusilela kwesifiso namandla okukwenza nantoni na. Oku kusebenza kumsebenzi, kunye nokuthintana nabathandekayo, kubandakanywa ukunqanyulwa kwazo zonke iifowuni. Umntu ojongene nokudakumba akanqweneli nokuba azinakekele, kwanokuba imfuneko yokuphuma ebhedeni ibonakala ngenyameko, kuba yonke into ayinangqiqo. Ukuphulwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo kokulala, kwiimeko ezibuhlungu, kukho imizwa yokuzibulala.
Izizathu Zokudandatheka
Unokuhlangabezana njani nokudandatheka ngaphandle kokwazi isizathu? Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukujongana nayo, qokelela uze uzame ukuqonda oko kubangele eli gama. Kucacile ukuba imbangela yokudakumba okukhulu kunye noxinzelelo olulodwa. Kodwa ngubani kanye kanye?
Ziphulaphule, emva koko uqala ukukhangela ubomi ngale ndlela. Mhlawumbi emva kokucinga malunga neengxaki, uya kubona ukuba akubaluleke kakhulu, ixesha lidla ngokubaluleka ngokubanzi, kwaye uyaqhubeka ulila ngenxa yezinto ezilahlekelwe yintengo kuwe nge-inertia.
Ukongezelela, ukudakumba kungabangelwa ukungabikho kwintsholongwane engapheliyo nayiphi na inguqu, ubomi bodwa. Iingxaki zempilo, ukusebenza kumda wamathuba, naye, kunokubangela ukudandatheka. Ngamanye amaxesha, kubonakala ngathi imeko enjalo iye yavela ekuqaleni, kodwa oku akukwenzekayo, okanye awukwazi ukuhlukanisa isizathu, okanye ukuhlaziywa kwamanani, umzekelo, waqonda ukuba awukwenzi oko uthanda ukukwenza. Ukuba isisombululo sagqityiwe, siphumelele kakhulu, isinyathelo sokuqala ekulawuleni ukuzinyamezela senziwa.
Indlela yokujongana nokudandatheka?
Xa ujongene nesizathu sokudakumba, kufuneka uqaphele ukuba le meko yesikhashana, mhlawumbi, ngoko umzimba usitshela ngemfuneko yokuphumla, ukuphefumula. Ngoko mamela, kholelwa ukuba ukudakumba kuya kudlula, ihlabathi liya kubuyela kwipende, mhlawumbi awukhumbuli ukuba ebomini bakho kwakukho ixesha elinjalo. Kodwa kulungele ukukhumbula ukuba ngokukhawuleza ukuphelisa ukuxinezeleka, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uzama kangakanani, ngeke kusebenze, kuthatha ixesha. Ngendlela, ngokunyamekela, unokufumana njani uninzi lwexinzelelo xa ungenzi nto? Kakade, akukho nto iya kusebenza! Ngoko ugqibe ukulala embhedeni uze uqhubeke nokwenza oku kulandelayo:
- Ukuba ukudakumba kubangelwa ukuxinwa okanye ukugqithisa, ukuphumla kuyadingeka, kwaye akunjalo ukuba yinkimbinkimbi, ihlala ilala ngokwaneleyo, nangona ihlala idelelekile, isisongela. Ukuba awuyi kulala, sebenzisa izidalwa zendalo zemvelo - motherwort, valerian. Thatha ibhotile epholileyo, ufunde ukucamngca, ungene ngemvume echibini. Kwakulungile ukuba uqale ukwenza into ngezandla zakho - ukudweba, ukukhupha kwiintlobo, udibanise, ulungise ekhaya, utshintshe indlela yokugqoka.
- Zizithabathele, upende umhla wakho ukuze kubekho ixesha lokulala nokutya. Yiya kudansa, i-yoga, uye kumakhonsathi, imiboniso kunye neendawo zokudlala, udlale iibhilididi kunye nesitya, gxuma ngeparachute.
- Naka ingqalelo kwimpilo yakho, zibandakanya izithelo kunye nemifuno ekudleni, qala ukuthatha amavithamini.
- Ziqonde ngokwakho, fumana umsebenzi ozisa uvuyo. Ukukhangela ngokwakho kuya kunceda ubuchule, iincwadi, iifilimu, ukunxibelelana nabathandekayo okanye "ukuthetha intliziyo ngentliziyo" kunye nedayari yakho.
Yaye nokuba njani ukuba ungeke ukwazi ukulahla ukuxinezeleka okukhulu kwaye unyango ngeemvakalelo ezintle kunye nokuphumla akuvelisi iziphumo? Idilesi yesazi, isimo sokudandatheka sisiphi na umntu onoyolo akwenziwanga okanye enze.