Uninzi lwabaguquli beliphupha bavuma ukuba ukubona umkhosi ephupheni, uqikelele ukugqithiswa kweengxabano. Nangona kunjalo, kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo ezifanele ziqwalaselwe xa zichaza iphupha elinjalo. Umzekelo, ukuqonda ngokucacileyo oko impi ephuphayo, ulwazi olulandelayo luya kunceda: nokuba ngaba abantu babenomdla, ngaba umntu ngokwakhe naye unelungelo lokuthatha isenzo somkhosi kwiphupha, ingaba izenzo zamagosa ezahlukahlukeneyo zaqhutywa okanye cha.
Ziziphi izithembiso eziphuphayo ngabantu basempi?
Ukuba abantu abaphuphayo babengazixhobi kwaye babengabonakali ubugwenxa, umntu kufuneka alindele ukuba imeko yongquzulwano iya kwenzeka kungekudala, kodwa ixazululwe ngaphandle kokulahleka kunye nokudumala. Xa kukho ukulwa ephupheni, sinokuthi ingxabano iza, imiphumo eya kuba yinto engathandekiyo. Ukuphazamiseka nokuxabana okuqhubekayo, apho kungenakwenzeka ukuba umntu aphumelele ukunqoba, kufuneka alindele ukuba ezi zenzo ziphelile. Kodwa ukuba umkhosi ephupheni uthathe inxaxheba ekuchaseni kunye nokuphumelela, umntu unokulindela uhlobo oluthile lweendaba ezivuyayo, okungakumbi ezinxulumene nomsebenzi okanye iimali.
Umfazi omncinci ongatshatanga obona umkhosi wemikhosi ephupheni unokukhawuleza ukufumana umqhubi. Nangona kunjalo, akuyimfuneko ukubala kwixesha elide lobudlelwane, loo mbono ayithembise intsapho yolonwabo okanye umtshato , kodwa kunokuba ithi le fan ingaba ngumphathi, kungekhona indoda.
Zama umfaniswano wempi ephupheni, uqikelele ukuqala kweqela elimnyama ebomini. Kukholelwa ukuba esi sisilumkiso esichazela umntu malunga nesidingo sokuhlanganisa yonke imikhosi yakhe ukunqoba iingxaki. Ukuchazwa okufanayo kwesiqendu, apho umfana efumana i-samani kwi-draft, okanye engena emkhosini.
Ukuba iphupha liphuphile ngomfazi otshatileyo kunye nabantwana abadala, oko kuthetha ukukhathazeka kwabathandekayo bakho.