Kutheni ukunyaniseka kwimiba emininzi ephazamisa ubuninzi beendawo zobuntu. Ngaphandle kokunyaniseka kwabo, abathandekayo, abantu, uluntu, umsebenzi wabo kunye nelizwe, umntu akanakucingwa njengomntu okhulileyo kwaye akhule ngokomoya.
Yintoni ukunyaniseka - inkcazo
Ukunyaniseka kungokwakhelo lwemiqathango yokuziphatha nokuziphatha - lubuhle obubonakaliswe ngokunyamezela nokungaziphathi kakuhle iimvakalelo kubudlelwane, ukusebenza komsebenzi kwiintsapho, kuluntu, kwi-Motherland. Ukunyaniseka kunye nokungcatshwa ngamacala amabini kwintlawulo enye kwaye ukuba ukunyaniseka kukunyaniseka, ukuhlala isigxina, ukuqina, ukungafihli kunye nokholo, ngoko ukunyeliswa kukuphulaphula ukunyaniseka. Kukholelwa ukuba izilwanyana eziphezulu (izinja, iikati) nazo zingathembeka kwaye zizinikezele kubaphathi bazo.
Ngaba udinga ukunyaniseka kumntu wanamhlanje?
Ukunyaniseka kunye nokungcatsha ziingcamango ezimbini eziphikisanayo, malunga nokulungileyo nokubi. Umntu wamanje sele ekhokelwa kakhulu yimigaqo kunye nemilinganiselo yexesha elidlulileyo, kodwa ukunyaniseka yinto umntu afuna yona. Ukunyaniseka nokukhohliswa akunakwenzeka ukushiya nabani na ongathandekiyo, ukunyaniseka kushiya yonke into ebhalwe emphefumlweni. Umntu okhohlisayo utheka ukuthembela, uvale ngokwakhe okanye, ngokugqithiseleyo, uqala ukuphindezela, ukulungelelanisa ngokumsebenzisa nokumngcatsha.
Ngaba ukuthembeka kusoloko kulungile?
Kutheni kukho ukhetho phakathi kokunyaniseka kunye nokungcatsha yizizathu ezenza umntu enze lo khetho. Yintoni abantu abakhokelwa ngayo ngexesha lokungcatsha okanye ukungcatshiswa, kunokuphelelwa lithemba okanye ukuzondla ngokuzinzileyo ekujonganeni nosongelo lobomi, akukho mntu uyaziyo. Abantu banqwenela ukugweba, bebona kuphela intonga ye-iceberg, bengacingi ukuba ngokwenene kubangela umntu ukuba enze ukhetho olunjalo, ngoko nokuba ukunyaniseka kuhlale kulungile - impendulo yalo mbuzo iya kuba yinto ehlukileyo kumxholo othile imeko:
- kwintsapho apho omnye okanye bobabini abangasathandani kwaye baphile abantwana - ukuthembeka kufana nomthwalo, endaweni yokonwaba kwakhona, nakuba abanye;
- Ngokuqhelekileyo umfazi okanye umntu oba ngumhlolokazi ubeka umnqamlezo kwaye uhlala kunye neenkumbulo zentlalo esele idlulileyo - ukunyaniseka akusoloko kuthuthuzela kwaye kulungile.
Ukunyaniseka ngothando
Xa zibini zithandana, abanye bayeke ukuhlala. Kwinqanaba ngalinye lexesha lokuzonwabisa linye lingathatha amaxesha ahlukeneyo. Uthando aluhlulelwanga kwizilingo, umntu uyadlula ngaphandle kokuguqula ngokwabo kunye nabathandekayo, umntu unesidingo sokubonakalisa omnye "Ndingakwenza ngaphandle kwakho!" Ukudlala kwiimvakalelo ngokunyaniseka. Uthando alufani, ngamanye amaxesha ukutshintsha akupheli ukuthanda, kodwa kunzima kangakanani ukukhohliswa. Ukuthembeka nokuthandana kukuthintana njani - kule mibini yothando ethandanayo ehlala ndawonye iminyaka emininzi, phendula ngale ndlela:
- Uthando nokuthembeka kuhamba ngesandla;
- xa imeko ibangela ukungcatshiswa, ukuziva ukuba kuya kubangela intlungu kumntu omthandayo kuyisichukumisayo kwaye ayivumeli ukuhlaselwa;
- Ukunyaniseka kwothando kuthatha abatshatileyo okanye abantu abanothando ngokomoya, benza konke.
Ukunyaniseka kubuhlobo
Ukunyaniseka kunye nobuhlobo bunxulumene njani? Ngokusondeleyo - ubuhlobo bokwenene abucingeki ngaphandle kokunyaniseka nokuzinikezela. Into ebunqabileyo kakhulu, xa ubuhlobo buchitha uvavanyo lwamaxesha kwaye abantu bangabangani bobubomi-esi siyisipho esibalulekileyo esifanele simthande. Ukunyaniseka kumhlobo kukuba:
- kusondele kwixesha elinzima;
- ukubonisa ukunyaniseka nokukwazi ukugxeka ngokukhawuleza ;
- ku nya niseka;
- ukubonisa ukuthatha inxaxheba, ukuxhamla, xa kunceda uncedo.
Ukunyaniseka kumatyala
Yintoni umsebenzi nokunyaniseka, ngaba kukho into edibanisa le miqondo? Ukunyaniseka kunye nomsebenzi kusebenza kuzo zonke iindawo zobomi bomntu. Abantu babandakanyeka kwiindima ezahlukeneyo zentlalo:
- yintsapho;
- ngumhlobo;
- ngummi welizwe lakhe;
- ingcali kwintsebenzo ethile;
- ilungu loluntu.
Yaye nganye yeendima iquka, ngaphandle kwezihlandlo ezimnandi, ukugcinwa kwezibophelelo ezithile, izikhokelo ezikhokelwa yimpembelelo yendlela okufanele ilungele ngayo. Ukunyaniseka ekusebenzeni kule mimandla kubonakaliswe ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, kodwa ngokubanzi unomnqweno wokuvumelanisa nawe kunye nezo xabiso ezingatshintshi kangangeenkulungwane:
- Kwintsapho, ukunyaniseka kumsebenzi kubonakaliswe kakuhle eBhayibhileni, ukudibanisa ngomtshato, indoda kunye nentombi ithembisa ukuba "intlungu kunye nenjabulo", ukulawula ngokubambisana noqoqosho nokukhulisa abantwana.
- Ukunyaniseka kwilizwe lakhe kunye nelizwe lithatha uxanduva xa kwenzeka kwimikhosi okanye kwimimandla engxamisekileyo ukubonisa ukuthanda ubuzwe nokuza kuhlangula, ukukhusela ilizwe lakubo nangenxa yeendleko zobomi babo.
- Ukunyaniseka kunye noxanduva lwabantu luqulethwe ngumnqweno womntu ukuphucula ubomi babantu, imeko yezinto eziphilayo ngezenzo ezithile, izenzo kunye nokufumanisa.
- Ukunyaniseka phakathi kwamazwe ahlangeneyo kusemsebenzini kunye noxanduva lweenkokheli zombini komnye nomnye: uncedo oluxhamlayo kwiimeko ezinzima, uncedo ekuphuhlisweni kwezentengiselwano.
Ukunyaniseka kumsebenzi
Ukunyaniseka kobugcisa bomntu kubandakanya uthando olukhethiweyo kunye nokuzinikezela. Kukho ubugcisa obuninzi, ngaphandle kokunyaniseka nokuzinikezela okungekho nto ekhoyo kule ndawo. Ngokomzekelo, ityala lonyango lifuna ukubuya okukhulu kwamandla, ixesha, ugqirha omuhle akayiyo ngokwakhe. Abantu abanobuchule abathembekileyo abazicingeli ngokwabo ngaphandle kwabo, bahlala bexakeka, abantu abanjalo babizwa ngokuba zizikhanyiso zendlela ekhethiweyo kunye nobomi babo abazinikelayo kule ndlela. Inzuzo yomntu apha idlala indima yokugqibela.
Ukunyaniseka kuwe
Yintoni ukunyaniseka kuwe? Kwiinkulungwane ezidlulileyo, oku kuthetha ukunyaniseka kwimigaqo kunye nokuhlonipha, ukuxhomekeka kwintliziyo yangaphakathi, umntu akakwazi ukwenza ngendlela eyahlukileyo kwaye wayekhokelwa yimigaqo yangaphakathi, kwaye namhlanje kukho abantu abanjalo. Kodwa ukunyaniseka kuwe akukuphela nje kobuqu bobuqu obufanelekileyo, kukho abo baqinisile kubo ngokwabo kubonakaliso babo obubi kakhulu - kuba nobuqili, ukukhohlakala, ukusetyenziswa kweendlela ezingekho phantsi kweendlela zabo.
Ubonisa njani ukunyaniseka kuwe:
- Inkqubo yokubaluleka kwintlawulo yesikhokelo sabantu isenzo kunye nezenzo;
- akukho mfuneko yokubonakalisa into kumntu;
- iingxaki zixazululwa ngokuthatha uxanduva, kungekhona ukuphepha;
- kukho isivumelwano sangaphakathi sokuba wonke umntu ukhululekile ukwenza njengoko ebona kufanelekile ngaphandle kokugwetywa;
- zihlonele wena nabanye.