Kuyintoni ukuhlambalaza, kwaye nokuba ukuxolela oku - abantu abajongene nokungcatsha baphulukana kwaye baya kwimeko yokuphelelwa lithemba. Ukuxolela okanye kungekhona - konke kuxhomekeke kwimbangela yento eyenzekayo, kwaye ubuninzi beli qabane lixabana, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba ubuhlobo abuyi kuba yinto efanayo.
Yintoni ukuphikisa - inkcazelo
Ukuhlambalaza kukuchaza i-polysemy: unokutshintsha ilizwe, amaqabane, imigaqo, wena okanye wakho othandekayo, kodwa rhoqo elo gama lithwala umthwalo ofanayo we-semantic - ukuphulwa kokuthembeka nokuqonda, izibhambathiso kunye nezifungo. Iinkolelo ezininzi zonqulo zibona ukunyaniseka njengenye yezono ezibi kakhulu . Umntu ngamnye unengcamango yakhe yokungcatsha ngokusekelwe kumava adlulileyo.
Yintoni ekhohlakeleyo ubudlelwane?
Yintoni ekhohlakeleyo ekuthandeni ayifuni ukuphulaphula abantu abaninzi kwihlabathi. Intlungu yokukhungatheka yenza umntu ithuba elide lokufumana eli liva elibi kwaye ushiye umbandela olwalamano olulandelayo. Ukuphelelwa yithemba kumntu wesini esahlukileyo. Ubuqhetseba obusondeleyo ubudlelwane buhlala bubonakala njengokungcatsha kunye nokukhohlisa, nokuba yintoni isizathu, kuhlala kubuhlungu kumntu obatshintshile kuye.
Ziziphi izizathu zokungcatsha kunye nokuthengwa?
Ziziphi izizathu zokungcatsha kunye nokuthengwa zixhaphake phakathi kwesiqingatha esibuthathaka kunye phakathi kwesini esomeleleyo? Ngenxa yesiphumo sobabini, ezi mpendulo zivela:
- ubomi besini,
- "IiNveli zenkonzo" ezikhokelela ekunyusweni komsebenzi;
- ukugcina isimo phakathi kwamaqabane amashishini;
- ubunzima bexesha eliphakathi, xa ukulahleka kweentsingiselo kwenzeka, zonke izinto eziye zahlala - zinciphisa kwaye amadoda namabhinqa bafuna intsingiselo entsha;
- ukunyuka kweengqondo;
- ubulili (ukuziphatha okungaxhomekiyo).
Uhenyuzo
Kutheni ukunyaniseka nokungcatshwa kwintlanano yomtshato - amadoda nabasetyhini abavumi ukungavumelani. Amadoda asetshatileyo akholelwa ukuba isondo ngaphandle kwemvakalelo kunye neembopheleleko akusikho ukunyaniseka, kodwa ukususwa koxinzelelo, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo kubonakala ngokusemthethweni. Izizathu zokungcatsha komfazi zixhalabisa kakhulu, kuba abafazi banako ukuhlala bethembekile kwaye baxabise ukuzinza. Ukuba ukungcatshiswa kwenzeka, yile yeso sihlandlo sokucinga kunye nokujongana nenyaniso: yintoni engalunganga ngayo ubudlelwane?
Izimpawu zokukrexeza
Uninzi lweempawu zokungcatsha zihambelana, kwaye ungatsho njalo ukuba iqabane liguqulwa, kodwa ezi tshintsho zimele ziqaphele, kungcono ukubalaphula. Iimpawu zokukhohlisa:
- elahlekelwa ngumdla kubundlelwane obukhoyo, nosapho;
- iqabane liqala ukucaphukisa rhoqo;
- "Hamba" kwi-smartphone;
- ifowuni iyayeka ukulala kwindawo ebonakalayo kwaye imemori ichithwe ngokusisigxina;
- Ukulibaziseka ngokukhawuleza emva komsebenzi;
- Ukunyamekela imbonakalo, i-narcissism phambi kwesibuko;
- uhambo lwexesha elide loshishino;
- ukufumana ubungqina obuthile (ezinye izinto zabantu ezifumaneka kwizikolo, imoto).
Indlela yokusindiswa?
AmaSoviet anokuthethelela njani ukunyaniseka, kodwa yonke into yinto enzulu, ukuba abanye baya kusebenza, abanye baya kubangela ukuba banqatshelwe. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba iimvakalelo ezimbi ngenxa yokungcatsha: ukuphelelwa lithemba, ukuhlazeka, ukudana, mhlawumbi inzondo kunye nokudelelwa, umsindo kufuneka uhlale uphila, ubanike indawo, kwaye oku kuthatha ixesha. Ukuba ulwalamano lufanelekile ukulwa, kubalulekile ukuba uphume ngokukhawuleza kule miva ngokuthe ngcembe, inyathelo ngesinyathelo ukunika ubuhlobo ithuba lokuzalwa ngokutsha, ukhumbule inyaniso elula ukuba nabani na oya kuhamba.
Ubuphi uhlanga olungenakuxolelwa?
Yintoni ukukrexeza okungenakuxolelwa? Uphando lwezenhlalakahle lubonisa ukuba ukunyaniseka kunye nokungcatsha kwabaninzi kuyafana, kwaye kunzima ukuxolela kwaye ukulibala, kuba ukutshatyalaliswa komntu "umthengi omnye suku - uphinde uphawule" luzinzile. Njengomphumo wophando lwabesetyhini kunye namadoda, ukukrexeza akunakuxolelwa ukuba:
- ukuba iqabane lihambe "ukuya ngakwesobunxele" ngendlela yezinto;
- iimvakalelo zaphela, kwaye ukungcatshiswa akuyona into enxulumene nayo, kwaye iqabane lifumana impembelelo enamandla ecaleni;
- Umlingane kunye nokungathembeki kwakhe uzama ukucinga ukuba unetyala kwaye uxela yonke into kwisiqingatha.
Unokuthintela njani ukunyaniseka?
Ungakuphepha njani ukutshatyalaliswa kwintsebenziswano yentliziyo? Akukho sibini esitshatileyo singasigxina kulo, nangona umtshato uzinzile, ngokusekelwe kwithemba, uthando kunye nokunyamekela-ukuphazamiseka ngokukhawuleza kwentshiseko kunokutshabalalisa ngokucwangcisekileyo ngonxibelelwano lweminyaka. Iingcali zengqondo ziqinisekile ukuba ezi zilandelayo iingcebiso kunye nemithetho inokunciphisa umngcipheko wokugwenxa:
- Gcina umdla . Inyaniso elula ukuba abaninzi bayayikhohlwa. Bobabini abasetyhini kunye namadoda bayeka ukulandeleka ukubonakala kwabo, izambatho kunye neendwangu ezolukileyo aziyi kwandisa nantoni na.
- Ngokuqhelekileyo umdla . Yintoni edibanisa ngayo. Ukudityaniswa kokubambisana - kubalulekile ukufumana umsebenzi othabisayo bobabini - kukukhuthaza ukuxhamla.
- Yiba kwindawo yokuthetha . Thetha, cela, qwalela ingqabane, yenza isabelo sakhe kunye nosizi - ungabi namdla.
- Ukwahlukana ngocansi - ukungabikho kwezi zinto kwenza ukuba ubudlelwane bube bukhulu. Unokuhlala uzisa into entsha kunye ntsha ngocansi, into ephambili ayiyikiyo ukuzama.
- Thembela kumlingane . Umona omncinci kwimimiselo engqiqweni ingaba mnandi kumlingani - ubona ukuba abayithandanga. Iziganeko eziqhelekileyo ngenxa yeshwele zinokuyichukumisa iqabane ukuba lithengiswe ngokwenene.
Iifilimu malunga nokuphinga
Utshintsho lomthandayo luyavavanywa: uvakalelo lwehlabathi elingaphantsi lilahlekile, yonke into eyayibonakala ingagxininiswa ngaphambili, iyanyuka kwaye indlela ubuhlobo buya kukhula ngayo buxhomekeke kubini bobabili. Indlela yokujamelana nentlungu kunye nokudumala? Oku kunokukunceda ukujonga kwiindawo ezahlukileyo zokujonga kwaye uqonde ukuba kutheni iifilimi zenziwa ngokukrexeza:
- " Omnye uMama ." U-Kate Jennings wayekholelwa ukuba yena nomyeni wakhe uBilly babenomdla obatshatayo, badibana nabo besesikolweni. Kodwa kwenzeka isiganeko esingathandekiyo kwaye uKate uyabona ukuba umtshato wabo noBilly ungamanga ukususela ekuqaleni: yonke le nto umyeni wayeneenkcukacha ezininzi kunye nentsapho ehlangothini.
- Loft . Ubomi bomtshato obatshatileyo buxhamla abahlobo abahlanu kwiintlobo zesondo, ngenxa yoko baqeshisa indlu baze bathathe isigqibo sokuba bathathe iindwendwe zabo apho. Inkohliso ayikho into efanelekileyo.
- " Ukungalunganga / ukungathembeki ". Ubomi bentsapho obonwabileyo uConnie Sumner uyaqhaqhafaza xa ehlangana nomngane osemncinci kunye nentlanganiso yakhe ibe yintando enobudlova. U-Edward ungumyeni kaConnie, uqala ukummkrokra aze enze isigqibo sokumlandela.
- " Ilungelo" lokushiya "/ Les infidèles ». Yintoni ekhohlakeleyo? Amabali amathandathu, nganye ebonisa indlela yokukrexeza ngayo ngendlela yayo.
- " Ixabiso lokwahlukana / ukuchithwa ". Ubomi bentengiso ye-arhente uCharles Shayn uyisigxina kwaye ifana ne "Usuku lweGroundhog": indlu isebenza. Ukungabi novuyo, intombi yesifo sikashukela-konke oku kukhokelela ekubeni intlanganiso yithuba kunye noLucinda othakazelisayo endleleni eya emsebenzini iqhubezela uCharles ukuba amngcatsha, kodwa uya kufuneka ahlawule ngokupheleleyo.