Ubudlelwane obufudumele kunye nokubandakanyeka, ubuhlobo nothando yiyo yonke into yolu hlobo njengentsebenziswano. Umntu uza kweli hlabathi kunye nemisebenzi yakhe, kwaye ngenxa yokuba uya kwamkelwa ngokupheleleyo kwiintsapho zakhe, ukuba uya kukwazi njani ukudala ubudlelwane kunye nabahlobo kunye nabanye kuxhomekeke ekuphumeni kwakhe kunye nempilo.
Yiyiphi inxaxheba?
Kwimithombo yamandulo (kwisiLatini - isikhangiso kunye ne- fillis ), ukubambisana kuyamkelwa , kwinguqulelo yeYurophu, eli gama lithetha ukujoyina. Abantu ngokwemvelo yabo zizinto zentlalo, kwaye ngaphandle kokuxhaswa ngabanye abaxhamla ngokwenene, kunzima ukuphazamisa umntu kwaye uqaphele amandla akhe kuphela. Ingcamango yokubandakanya iquka iimfuno ezifana nale:
- unxibelelwano;
- nxaxheba;
- xha
- buhlobo;
- themba;
- kwamkelwa;
- uthando;
- u manyano;
- khu seleko;
- ngqalelo.
Ukubambisana kwiShyiloji
Ukubambisana kunye nokuqhotyoshelweyo ziimpawu ezifanayo ezibonisa uxhulumaniso oluqinileyo lwengqondo enomntwana onentsapho, eyona mthombo wobudlelwane bokuqala obunentsingiselo kuye. Isitayela semfundo sibeka isiseko sombono kwabanye. Ummeli oqinileyo-uthetha uhlwaywa, kwaye umntwana okhuliswe kwintsapho enjalo uya kuphesela ubuhlobo obusondeleyo. Ukwamukela umntwana, ukukhuthaza kuye ukuhlonipha , kunye nokuphuhliswa kweempawu ezinjengomnqweno wokuba novelwano novelwano, kudala isidingo esiphezulu sokuba akhe ubudlelwane obuhambelana nabantu.
Ukubambisana kwengqondo kuyisisiseko sokuba amazwi ka-psychologist waseMerika uHenry Murray athi:
- vuyela nabanye;
- ukufumana uthando;
- ukwenza ubuhlobo;
- sebenzisana nabantu;
- ujoyine amaqela ahlukeneyo.
Intlalontle
Ukubambisana njengemfuno yoqhagamshelwano loluntu luvela kwimvelaphi, xa abantu behlangene kwiimeko zobomi, nokuba ngaba yimfazwe, indlala okanye ukufa. Uvuyo kunye nempumelelo yoluntu: ukuhamba komntu kwiindawo, ukuphela kwemfazwe - kwakuyixesha lokubumbana. Kutheni umntu efuna ukubandakanyeka kwentlalo okanye ubambiswano? Kukho izizathu ezininzi:
- Ukuvavanya - ukuchaneka okanye ukungalungi kwemisebenzi eyenziwa kuluntu. Umntu udinga utitshala onomdla kuye ukuze ancede ukuphucula impumelelo kwindlela ekhethiweyo yomsebenzi.
- Uxhaso lwe-Instrumental - ufumana uncedo oluninzi, inkxaso evela kuluntu.
- Inkxaso yeenkcukacha - amava oluntu, aqokelelwa zizizukulwana, agqityiwe ngolwazi ukuba ahambelane njani nenye enye into.
Ukubambisana - Izizathu
Kwimiboniso ye-movie "Masidonse!" UHarineine Susan Sarandon uthetha i-monologue malunga nokuba kutheni abantu bevame ukuba kunye. Oku kubangelwa kukuba wonke umntu ufuna ubungqina bobomi bakhe obona yonke into eyenzekayo kwaye enika intsingiselo ebukhosini, ubungqina othi: "Ndiyabona!" Umnqweno wokubambisana kubangelwa izizathu:
- Imfuno yokuvakalelwa ngokufudumala ngokuthetha ngokufudumele;
- ukufumana ingqwalasela nokuvavanya impumelelo yabo;
- ukuphelisa ukungathandabuzeki xa uziqhathanisa nabanye;
- imeko yokuxhalabisa ngokwemvakalelo - umntu uzama ukuba kunye nalabo abangenakuvuyela kwaye banokunika inkxaso;
- ukuxhwaba njengento yokuzihlukanisa kwezentlalo kunzima ukuyiqonda, kunokukhokelela kwizifo ezinzulu ukuya ekufeni kwengqondo nangaphambi kokufa.
Isizathu sokuphumelela kunye nokubambisana
Umnqweno wokuphumelela kuluntu kubalulekile ukuba abantu bazifezekise. Isizathu sokubambisana kunye neempumelelo ziyahambelana kwaye kuxhomekeke kwimfuno yomntu ukuba uphumelele ngokuseka oonxibelelwano kunye nezibophelelo. Iingcali zengqondo ziye zabelwa ama-3 degrees okanye isistim sokubambisana:
- Ukubambisana okuphezulu kuyisisiseko sokuba samkelwe phezulu, kwaye ukwesaba ukukhutshwa kuphantsi. Iyabonakala kubantu abanomxholo oqhotyoshelweyo, kunye nomfanekiso wokubonakalisa okanye uhlaziyilo, isimo sengqondo sabantu be-sanguine. Abantu abanjalo bafuna ukunikwa ngqalelo kwabanye abantu, ukuzodwa kwabo kwamkelekanga, zonke iziphumo zivela kuphela ekusebenzisaneni ngokuthe ngqo nabantu.
- Umgangatho ophakathi (ophakathi) unxulumene namazinga aphantsi okufuna ukuwamkelwa kunye nokwesaba ukutshatyalaliswa. Aba bantu baziva bekhululekile kwikhampani enkulu kwaye yodwa.
- Ukubambisana okuphantsi kukuloyiko oluphezulu lokwenyulwa. Isizathu sokubambisana siphantsi. Ekubuntwaneni, umntu obhekene nolwazi olubuhlungu lokugatywa ngabazali okanye izalamane, ukuxhatshazwa. Ukuhlala kungaphantsi kweyona nto inobungqina obuvakalayo, kukho abantu abangenayo i-loneliness ekhululekile-banelisekile kwaye banokuvelisa ngobuchule: abalobi, izazinzulu, abaculi.
Ukubambisana kunye nokunyaniseka
Isidingo sokubambisana singabonakalisa kwinkonzo engathandekiyo kunye nokunyamekela abanye. I-Altruism-ukunceda ukuziphatha, iyisisusa esisisiseko somntu kwaye sinokulandelwa kakade kumntwana oneminyaka engama-3 ubudala, kodwa uthando oluqinileyo ngabantu lunceda ukuphucula njengomgangatho wobuntu obuqinileyo. I-Altruism iyimpawu yomntu onengqondo ephezulu nokubandakanyeka.