I-Hysteria esitolo: "Thenga!"

Izitolo zanamhlanje kunye nevenkile zizaliswa ngeentlobo ezininzi zeempahla, ngoko kunzima ukuba ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukwenza ukhetho olufanelekileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha isantya sezonka siba ngumonakalo wemali eninzi kunye nokuthengwa kwezinto ezingekho mfuneko kakhulu. Isilingo sikhulu! Kwaye sithetha ntoni ngabantwana, abafake iifake zeesekese kunye neetayili ngokutsha ngokutsha? Ukubona amalebhile amahle, iiphakheji eziqaqambileyo, ziqala ukuba zingenangqiqo , zincengeni, zicele, kwaye zize zihlasele phantsi, zenze abazali bazo "kwi-handle". Umama kufuneka adideke, utata uzama ukunqanda umsindo, abaqashi bajonga omnye nomnye bengenelisekanga, kwaye bonke abanye abathengi babukela abazali babo ngokucaphuka okanye uvelwano. Ufanele ube njani kwiimeko ezinjalo? Yintoni endiyenzayo? Yenzani, qhubela phambili okanye ujezise? Masiqonde.

Amanyathelo okukhusela

Ngoko, umgaqo ophambili: ulawula, kungekhona umntwana! Umama noTata ngabantu abadala, abanobuqu obunokuthi baqonde kwaye bahlole imeko. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba akuphulaphule kwaye akuve, igama lomzali kufuneka libe ngumthetho. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba kuyimfuneko ukunxibelelana nomntwana ngendlela ehlelekile, kuba igunya kufuneka lifumane imali kubazali.

Ngaphambi kokuba uye esitolo, thetha nomntwana wakho malunga nokuthenga okuzayo. Uhlala uvuma! Ngokomzekelo, malunga nokudlala okunye ndingathanda ukuba nako umntwana. Kule meko, ukuthenga akufanele kube kubi. Okanye vumela ukuthenga okuzayo kuyamangalisa nina bobabini, kodwa kwimeko yokuba ukuthenga kuyakuba yedwa. Umntwana omdala angabelwa inani elithile lemali, ukwenzela ukuba ukhetho angenza ngokuzimela. Ukuba uya esitolo ngaphandle kokugqithisa, ngoko wena kunye nosana uya kuneliseka. Ngaba umntwana waphula isivumelwano? Emva koko unelungelo lokumkhanyela kwaye umshiye ngaphandle kwayo nantoni na. Umlinganiselo onjalo awuyibukrakra, kodwa ukuqina kunye nomzuzu wokufundisa. Ngenxa yoko uya kufundisa umntwana ukukhusela imida yakhe kwaye, ukuba kuyimfuneko, khanyela abantu.

Phendulela kubahlaziyi ngokuchanekileyo

Ukuba zonke iinzame zakho zingenanto kwivenkile yokuqala, zama ukulimaza i-psyche yakho, okanye ingxaki yomntwana, okanye isimo sengqondo sabanye. Vumela umntwana ahlale nobaba, ugogo okanye ummelwane, de uze wenze izinto ezifunekayo. Kwaye ukuba akukho ndlela yokuphuma, ngoko kwivenkile, amasebe ahamba ngeempahla ezinokubangela umntwana "Ndiyifunayo!", "Thenga!" Kwaye, ngenxa yoko, i-hysterics. Ayikho imfihlelo eyona ndawo yingozi kakhulu kwivenkile kule nkalo yirejista yemali, okanye kunokuba iifake ngeesekese, amathoyizi amancinci kunye nezinye izinto ezingabalulekanga kwaye zize zonakalise iintsana. Dlulisa umntwana phambili ukuze angenalo ixesha lokubamba nantoni kwi-shelf, umphazamise ngeengxoxo. Azange asebenze? Emva koko kukho iindlela ezimbini. Iyokuqala ayikho basabela ngokumemeza, bekhala, beqhekeza phantsi. Phuma kwisitoreji. Ndikholelwe, ngaphandle kwababambisi abancinci bakhawuleza "banike umva", ngenxa yokuba umbonisi oyintloko ushiye! Kunokwenzeka ukuba uya kuba neentloni ngokuziphatha kwakhe. Inketho ezimbini - nangayiphi na indlela (ngesandla, ezandleni zakhe) kukhokela umntwana ngaphandle kwesitoreji, kwaye sele sele esetratweni ngokuthetha naye. Kodwa kuphela xa eyeka abahlaziyi. Khumbula, nawaphi na amagama akho kwada kufike loo mzuzu kuya kuphucula imeko. Kwaye makumele uphile ubomi obuncinane, kodwa ekugqibeleni umntwana uya kuqonda ukuba ukumemeza akuyona indlela engcono yokufumana oko ufuna. Kodwa ukuba uya kwithuba lomntwana uze ulandele umyalelo wakhe othi "Thenga!", Ukudumala kwiintengiso kuza kuba ngumkhwa.

Yaye ungakulibali, ubugcisa bokuba ngabazali akubandakanyi ukuphumelela umntwanakho, kodwa ekuthintela ukuba lo mkhosi ungabikho!