I-Psychology yabasetyhini ngothando

Uthando lwenza owesifazane "ngumfazi." Akukho nto idalula ubuhle bakhe, ubufazi kunye nobulili, njengengqondo yothando. Ukuthandwa nokuthanda kuyinyaniso yowesifazane.

I-psychology yabasetyhini othandweni kunye nengqondo yabasetyhini ngokubanzi ihluke ngokusuka kwindoda. Xa abantu baqonda kwaye baqonda le ntlukwano, ngoko iingxaki zolwalamano phakathi kwendoda nomfazi ziya kuncipha. Masizame ukugqamisa le mibala kunye nokujonga uthando kungekhona nje kwamehlo yowesifazane, kodwa nakwindoda.

Khangela

Kutheni abantu besifazana befuna uthando-kuba imvelo iyalwe. Uthando lomntu luvelisa umnqweno nokuzimisela ukufumana inzala. Oku, ngendlela yayo, isiqinisekiso kunye nemeko efunekayo yokuzala. Yaye yintoni enye into eyenziwa yendalo? .. Ukuze uzive njengowesifazane, kufuneka uzive unomdla womntu. Ukuqwalaselwa komntu, umnqweno wokuba nefa kunye nothando lomfazi, kumnika ubungqina bokuziphatha ngokwesini, ukutyhila ngokuzeleyo.

Njengoko umfazi ubonisa uthando lwakhe kwaye ukuba kuye kukho uthando-impendulo yalo mbuzo ingeyinto engavamile. Ukubonakaliswa kokunyamekela nokuthatha inxaxheba ebomini yindoda ethandekayo, inkxaso kunye nokuphefumlelwa komntu-konke oku kunokubizwa ngokuba yimpawu zangaphandle zothando lomfazi. Ukongeza kwiimpawu zangaphandle zothando kumfazi, zikho ngaphakathi, zibonisa ukuqonda kwezesetyhini zothando. Uthando ngamehlo yowesifazane uyimvakalelo yakhe. Iimvakalelo azifumanayo (intshiseko, umnxililo, uvuyo, njl.) Zibaluleke kakhulu kunento ebangela le mizwa. Ngamanye amazwi, ibhinqa ayithandi kakhulu umntu njengoko iimvakalelo zakhe zixhomekeke kuye. Kwaye loo ndoda ithetha, ngokuthethileyo, "isuka etafileni yamakhosi", oko kukuthi, iimpawu zangaphandle zothando lwabesetyhini, okuqinisekileyo, ziyamnandi kakhulu. Apha nalapha banamthando apha.

Jonga

Uthando lomntu luhlangene ngokungenakucinganiswa nokufumana ukuzonwabisa. Indoda ayivumi uthando kumfazi ngokwakhe, kodwa kuvuyiswa nguye. Akugcini nje ngokukwaneliseka ngokwesondo, kodwa kwaneliseko ngecala lolwalamano lobuhlobo (ithuba lokuthetha "intliziyweni entliziyweni", ukuvakalelwa kwenkxaso yabasetyhini, ukuqonda ngokuvisisana, ukuhlonipha indoda). Uthando lomntu luyolonwabo. Ukuba umntu uyeka ukuhlangabezana nayo, iimvakalelo zakhe ziba nzima. Ngoko ke, umfazi kufuneka abe ngumthombo wobumnandi kumntu wakhe. Khumbula oku xa ufuna ukulungelelanisa enye inkohlakalo kwimicimbi yemihla ngemihla, eqinisweni, ayibalulekanga njengoko igcina uthando kunye nokuvumelana phakathi kobudlelwane bakho.