Kuthetha ukuthini igama elithi "owesifazane obulalayo"? Ubuntana obungenasiphelo okanye intsimbi? Hayi, kunoko umfazi ongenakulibaleka. Unamandla anjalo kwaye unomtsalane kangangokuthi xa wayejamelene nayo, umntu akanakunceda ukumkhumbula.
Kuthetha ukuthini umfazi fatale?
Umzekelo obalaseleyo womfazi obulalayo kwimbali, mhlawumbi, uLilia Brik, umgca wembongi uVladimir Mayakovsky. Nangona ukuba wayengekho mnandi, wazisa imbongi leyo ukuba ikhuni kwaye yaphefumlela ubuchule. Akazange akhathalele ngoluvo lwentlalo, wayehlala yakhe, ubomi obungavamile. Ukuba kukho enye inyaniso ababehlala ndawonye: yena, umyeni wakhe noMayakovsky bathanda naye. Ngethuba lethu kunzima ukucinga ngenye imeko efana nale, kwaye oku kwenzeke ngaphezu kwekhulu leminyaka edlulileyo.
Isitala somfazi obulalayo
Umfazi obulalayo kufuneka agqoke ngokugqithiseleyo. Isitayela esityebileyo, esinobugqibeleleyo, kodwa asikho ukuhlambulula okanye ukungcola. Owesifazane obulalayo wanamhlanje ubonakala kwishishini okanye ngesondo, kodwa kungekhona kwi-unisex. Zonke iinkcukacha kufuneka zigxininise ubufazi bakhe. Ewe, le ndlela ithabatha kwaye ihambelana nemilinganiselo ecocekileyo.
Indima ye-fatale yomfazi
ULilia Brick wayekholelwa ukuba iqhinga elilula livumela ukuba agcine umnqweno womntu. Watshilo ngale ndlela ngale ndlela: "Simele sivuselele loo mntu ukuba uyamangalisa okanye enobulumko, kodwa abanye abayiqondi le nto. Yaye mvumele oko akuvumelanga ekhaya. Umzekelo, ukutshaya okanye ukuya apho ufuna khona. Bonke abanye baya kwenza izicathulo ezintle kunye neengubo zangaphantsi zelinen. "
Ngokucacileyo, umfazi obulalayo akanako ukuba ngumfazi onomdla kwaye akafuni ukuba nantoni na. Uphatha umntu ngokungazinyamekanga, ngakumbi uyaziphoqa ukuba afune ukuzitholela. Iqhinga lakhe lifana nendlela yokroti kunye nentonga - ngokumvumela umntu ukuba asondele, ngoko, ngokuchaseneyo, ukumgatya, umfazi umenza acinge ngaye ngokuqhubekayo. Ngaba akunjalo ukuxhomekeka kwenene kumfazi obulalayo? Akukho ndlela yindlela yokuba ngumfazi wesifazane. Owesifazane obulalayo ngokwenene, onobukrakra kunye negazi elibandayo, kodwa elihle, kufuneka uzalwe.