Kuyinto enhle ukuva kwiinconywa zakho ezithandwayo okanye ngokubonga, nokuba kungokutya okumnandi okanye nje oko kukuthi. Abafazi, njengoko bathi, bathanda ngeendlebe zabo. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba umntu ave kwizwi lakhe lokuthandwayo kunye nazo zonke iintlobo "zokuthabatha". Ukuxhaswa ngumntu othandekayo kumzuzu onzima kumnandi ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Loo nto isenzo asinakudityaniswa.
Ukufunda ukuthetha ngokuchanekileyo
Ubomi obudibeneyo, kwintsebenziswano phakathi kwendoda kunye nomfazi, amagama athi "kufuneka" kwaye "kufanele" ayenziwa kakhulu. Umfazi kufanele ahlale enobuchopho, aphakamise abantwana, makajongane kakuhle kwaye ahlale "ngumfazi." Umyeni, naye, kufuneka anikezele intsapho zonke iintsikelelo, ukufumana imali, ukukhusela nokukhusela. Akukho nto enokuyenza, lo bubomi, obungenakugwemeka, kodwa akufanelekile ukuyika. Kufuneka nje ulungelelanise le nkqubo, "gxiba iinqwelo." Kuzo zonke "kufuneka" ngamanye amaxesha sikulibale ukuthetha omnye nomnye "Siyabonga!".
Ukuziqhelanisa nobunzima bobubomi, abafazi abanokunyamezela abanokunyamezela. Ukongezelela, uluntu luxolela ubuthakathaka babo obuthathaka kunye nokungaphumeleli, kunokuba amadoda akakwazi ukuziqhayisa. Okokugqibela, kaninzi kunzima ukuvuma ukunqotshwa. Xa kubonakala kubo ukuba ukungaphumeleli kwabo kubonakala kubo bonke abakujikelezile, bayesaba. Kulo mzuzwana, amadoda adinga ukuxhaswa ngabathandekayo babo kunanini ngaphambili.
Abasetyhini banemvakalelo engakumbi, abaqhelekanga ekunqandeni iimvakalelo zabo. Amadoda, ngokuchaseneyo, gcina onke amava ngokwawo. Kungenokuba nzima kumthandwa wakho ukuba akuxelele ngeengxaki zakho kunye neengxakini, kodwa ukuba uqaphela into enjalo, ngoko amazwi enkxaso kumntu wakho othandekayo uya kuza.
Nguwaphi amagama okuxhasa umntu ukuba anqume wena. Mhlawumbi, umntu uza kuba namazwi anelisayo, ukuba, ngokomzekelo, unenkinga eyintandokazi emsebenzini. Amadoda amaninzi afana namazwi okubonga nokulula. Musa ukubeka uluvo lwakho kwaye unike iingcebiso abazithandayo. Musa nje ukuthatha intloko ukuba ufunde iindibano kwaye wenze kakuhle, ngenxa yoko, khetha ngaphezulu
Musa ukuthatha utshintsho kumntu ngeendleko zakhe. Izikhalazo zakho "unomntu" mhlawumbi zingekho phantsi. Ukuba intliziyo yintombazana iyatshintsha, oko kuthetha into enye kuphela - akukho nto. Kwaye ukuba umntu weza ekucingeni - wafumana inkosikazi. Kungcono kungekhona ukusola, kodwa ukuxhasa indoda ethandekayo. Musa ukuzama ukuba kwenzekani kuye. Xa efuna, uya kukuxelela. Zama ukudala zonke iimeko ukuze ipenise idlule ngokukhawuleza.
Unakekele amadoda akho kwaye ube ngabahlobo abathembekileyo kubo.