Ukuthandana nendoda esatshatileyo kunye neengqondo zolu dlelwane kuye kwaxhalaba ngabasetyhini abaninzi: kwaye abo bacinga nje ukuba babandakanyeke kulo mdlalo, kunye nalabo abaye bafumana ikhefu kunye nomlingani ongenanto, kunye nabo abo banxibelelwano olunjalo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, amantombazana ahlasela umntakwabo angabelana ngezigaba ezintathu:
- Abasetyhini abaqinisekileyo ukuba ngenxa yabo indoda iya kutshabalalisa intsapho yayo kwaye idale entsha.
- Ama-fairies akhululekileyo, enyaniseka ukuba intsapho ayilona kubo, kwaye akulungele ukudibana kuphela ngenxa yovuyo olukhawuleza.
- Abasetyhini abatshatileyo, kodwa bafuna iimvakalelo ezintsha kwicala.
Inveli kunye nomntu otshatileyo-iingcebiso zesazi sengqondo
Akuqhelekanga ukuthandana nomntu otshatileyo ukuphela kunye nokuhlukana. Umyeni ongathembekanga ubuyela esifubeni sentsapho, kwaye umfazi olahliwe usela izidalwa zothando kwaye usekupheleni kokuphazamiseka kwemihlaba. Okokuqala, intombazana eye yafumana intsebenziswano nomntu otshatileyo iya kufuna iingcebiso kwi-psychologist:
- Shintsha umfanekiso: i-hairstyle entsha, ukugqoka kunye nezicathulo kuya kukunika ithemba.
- Oku kuninzi kwiindawo ezixhamlekileyo: iiitafesi, iindiyetha, imibukiso eyahlukeneyo. Ukuguqulwa, ngokuba ngokuqinisekileyo nendoda esitshatileyo uhlala uhlala kumahotele okanye ekhaya, ukufihla ubuhlobo phakathi kwamehlo.
- Zifumana i-hobby entsha okanye ucinge ngamandulo, ungene kwimidlalo.
- Ukuba kunokwenzeka, ke ubalekele elwandle: ukunyuka kwemizwa eqinisekileyo oqinisekileyo. Ukuthandana kweso sothando kuya kukhawuleza "ukuphucula".
Ngaba ndifanele ndiqale ukutshata nomntu otshatileyo?
Wonke amabhinqa kufuneka azenzele isigqibo sokuba ufanelekile ukuqala umtshato nomntu otshatileyo. Into ephambili kukuba uyaqonda kwaye uyaqonda oku kulandelayo:
- Ukususela kwangoku, zonke iiveki, iiholide kunye neeholide ziya kubanjwa zodwa , okanye kunye neentsapho kunye nabahlobo.
- Ubudlelwane nomntu onqwenelayo kufuneka kufihliwe ngokucophelela, ukutyelela ngokubambisana kwiivenkile, ii-cinema kunye nezinye iziganeko kuya kufuneka zilibale.
- Ubunokwenzeka bokulahlekelwa unyaka omnye wobomi ngokulindela kunye nethemba elingagcwaliseki.
Inveli enomyeni otshatileyo yinto enomdla, kwaye akuyena wonke umntu onenhlanhla nayo. Yazisa kwaye uzithande, kwaye ukudibana kunye nendoda ehloniphekileyo iya kuba yinto eninzi.