Njengoko uyazi, kuphela i-20% yenkcazelo esiyifumene ngayo (ngomlomo), i-80% eseleyo-ukusuka kwimithombo engekho yomlomo, kumgama kwintetho, ukuziphatha kunye nempahla kunye neempahla. Zonke ezi ngasentla zisinika umfanekiso othembekileyo wenyaniso. Oko kukuthi, siyaqonda ukuba xa umntu esikhumbuza ngothando, kodwa ngeengalo zakhe zawela, ngoko-ke usuka kude nathi athi: "Andiyi kukhululeka, ndingenako ukukhululeka." Yazi, ukubonakalisa ubuso kunye nokuzibonakalisa kusinika izibonakaliso kwinqanaba elincinci, zichanekile ngakumbi kunengqondo-ingqiqo, amagama ahleliweyo.
I-Psychology - kuthini intshukumo?
"Ndacinga ngako"
Misela ukuba lo mqondiso ulula. Umntu osengqondweni yakhe, ngokuqhelekileyo engekho ebomini. Ngoko ke, unako ukumbamba isandla sakhe eduze kwetempile yakhe, uthinte intloko yakhe, uhlambe intloko, uthembele engalo yakhe. Ngeli xesha, usebenza intloko yakhe, kwaye uzama ukukunika uphawu malunga nalo.
"Ndinomdla"
Umntu onomdla kuyo uzama ukwenza okuncinci kangangoko ngexesha le ncoko. Ngokomzekelo, njengesifundo esithakazelisayo, xa abantwana abanomdla abanomdla bafile ekulaleni. Umnxibelelwano wakho unyanzelekile kuwe, uzama ukungaphutheli elinye lamagama akho, akakuphazamisi kwaye uphulaphula ngokukhawuleza, udibaniso lwamehlo luhlala lukhona. Umphulaphuli akayilandeli ubuso bakhe, ngoko amehlo akhe okanye umlomo uya kuvulwa.
"Ndiyakuhlonela"
I-Psychology yezenzo zamadoda. Umntu ohloniphayo, uyakubonisa ngesandla ngokukhawuleza, ukuba kunokwenzeka, ixesha elide, ngesandla sakho sondele kwaye sandisiwe. Ngaloo ndlela udala kuwe izimo ezintle kakhulu zokubambisana naye. Indoda inika umfazi isandla xa eshiya izithuthi zikawonkewonke. Lo mzobo uphatha ngokwawo kuphela umlingiswa osemthethweni, xa umntu ekhangelele kwaye ezama ukumbamba ipeni lakho.
"Ndiyithandana nobudlelwane obuthembayo"
I-Psychology yesenzo kunye nesimo sengqondo somntu uqaphela ukuba uphawu lokuqala lobudlelwane obusondeleyo, obuthembayo bufutshane, obungafanelekanga phakathi kwakho kunye nomnxibelelwano wakho. Ngokusekelwe kumgama, unokugweba ukuba uyayithemba kangakanani, kwaye ikuvumela ukuba uhambe kwisithuba sakho somntu uze ufake indawo yoduduzo . Kwizinto ezinjalo zixhalabisa: kungekhona iingalo ezithintekayo okanye izandla kunye nemilenze okanye iifoto; Iintende ezivulekile zijoliswe esibhakabhakeni; ukuvuleka komntu, ukunyaniseka, ukumomotheka, ukukrazula nokukhuseleka; nesibindi sokukuthintela kwintlanganiso yokuqala, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu - umntu onokumxolela, ukukopisha ngokungabonakaliyo, imiqondiso yakho nemikhwa.
"Ndizikhusela"
Kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zomzimba kunye nokuhamba, i-psychology ejolise ekukhuseleni, kumadoda, ukususela kwindawo yokugungqa kwindawo yokuma, ukuwela iinqanaba kunye nokwakha udonga phakathi kwakho (ngokusungula ngamabomu umntu wesithathu). Iindlela zingaba ziintlobo ze: usebenzise umkhonto, uyenzela ukuphathwa ngokubakho kunye neempumlo kunye neendlebe, ukufihla indlebe phantsi kwengubo okanye iinwele, izandla kwiipokotshi, uqaphele ukuba ungathinti umnxibelelwano, ukuvala amehlo ngesandla sakho, usoloko ugqoke
I-psychology yezenzo zamabhinqa iyinto emangalisayo! Emva kokuba uyenze kakuhle, intombazana iya kuba lula ukuqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba umntu uyazi ukuba uhlala esondelelene naye.
Imizimba yesibini kunye nokubaluleka kwayo kwengqondo
- ukudlala inzwane ephazamisekile, loo mntu uya kuqonda ukuba ufuna ukufezekisa;
- ukuthunga iinwele - udinga ukunakwa;
- ukudubula ngamehlo akho - ukutshintshela omaziyo;
- ukuphosa umboniso ngaphantsi kwegxala eliphakanyisiweyo - ufuna ukutshatana novelwano;
- umlenze omnye uphonswa ngaphaya komnye okanye utshintsho oluthile - umfazi unqwenela ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kunye nokucaphukisa kumntu;
- isenzo esinobudlova kunye nesichukumisayo - umlomo ovulekileyo, odwetswe ngesiponsi isisindo esilula okanye umlomo we-lipstick (mhlawumbi isiqhamo esimnandi).