Iindidi zengxabano zoluntu

Umntu uhlala, imihla ngemihla, nayo yonke ithuba, uzama ukuqonda iimfuno zakhe, iinjongo, okokuqala, ukusebenzisana nabanye abantu. Kwiintsebenziswano zentsebenziswano, kudla ukungaqondani, ukungquzulana, okungahambisani nokuphazamiseka, ukuxhatshazwa, ukwahlukana, ngoko ke iintlobo zengxabano zoluntu zininzi. Ulwalamano lwentsebenziswano aluyinto enye ngaphandle kwentsimi yongquzulwano oluqhubekayo okanye ukuxolelana kweminqweno. Ngamanye amaxesha bayaya kwimfazwe ende ebubudlelwaneni obunokuba ngamanye amaxesha unobumba obubomvu, oku kuthetha ukuba ukuxabana, izizathu kunye neentlobo zesisombululo sabo ziyahlukahluka komnye.

Cinga iindidi eziphambili zeengxabano ezihlelwe ngokwemixholo ephikisanayo:

1. Impikiswano yomntu ingquzulwano eyenzeka ngaphakathi komntu othile kwizinga lokuqonda kwakhe. Olu hlobo lombambano lubhekiselele kwingqondo yengqondo kuphela, kodwa lubangelwa yimicimbi yangaphandle kwaye lunokubangela ukuba kuvele inkquzulwano yeqela, ukuxhatshazwa kweqela.
2. Ulwahlulo-lwahlulo lweentlobo zengxabano lubandakanya ukungqubuzana, okungavumelani phakathi kwamalungu amabini okanye ngaphezulu kwelinye iqela okanye amaqela amaninzi.
3. I-Intergroup - ingxabano phakathi kwabantu, abantu abakha iqela, elinye iqela. Olu hlobo lokungquzulana lulona luqhelekileyo, kuba abantu abaya kusebenza kwabanye bathambekele ekufumaneni abaxhasayo ngenjongo yokwenza iqela labantu abafanayo.
4. Ukungqubuzana kokuba ngumntu. Iintlobo zengxabano kwiengqondo zithatha indawo enzima, kwaye le ntlobo yenye yeyona nto. Ukuchaswa kwenzeka ngenxa yokuba ngumntu ngamnye. Okokuthi, xa abantu bakha iqela kwelinye, likhulu, okanye xa umntu omnye ehlangene ngamanye amaqela okukhuphisana aphishekela injongo enye.
5. Ukungquzulana nommandla wangaphandle. Yadalwa xa abantu abakha iqela bafumana uxinzelelo lwangaphandle (ukusuka kwimimiselo yezoqoqosho, inkcubeko, imigaqo, imimiselo). Ngokuqhelekileyo, bangena kwimpikiswano kula maziko axhasa le migaqo, imigangatho.

Iintlobo kunye neentlobo zeengxabano ziquka ukuxabana komhlobo odibeneyo. Kuyakwazi ukuqhuba ingxabano phakathi komntu ohlukeneyo kunye neqela labantu. Oku kungavumelani xa ubuntu behotele buthatha indawo eyahlukileyo kwindawo epheleleyo yeqela lonke.

Makhe siphendule uviwo olunzulu oluthile luni na uluphi uhlobo lweengxabano ezibandakanyekileyo:

1. Ngokuziqhelanisa (i-ideological okanye yoluntu, ubuchwepheshe okanye indlu).
2. Ngeenjongo (okwenene okanye okungekho bukhohlakeleyo, ngokuchanekileyo kuhanjiswe, ilawulwa kakubi).
3. Kwiimiphumo (ezilungileyo okanye ezingalunganga).
4. Ngokubhekiselele kwimibono yamaqela aphikisanayo (intra-indima okanye inxaxheba-nxaxheba).
5. Kwiimpembelelo zemoya, amandla okuba nompembelelo kwizinto eziphikisanayo (ezinamandla kwaye zibuthathaka).
6. Umlinganiselo wempembelelo (ebanzi okanye yendawo).
7. Ngexesha elifutshane (elifutshane, eliphindaphinda, ixesha elilodwa, elidibeneyo).
8. Ngokwendlela yokubonakalisa (yangaphandle, yangaphakathi, ehlelwe okanye engahlelekwanga).
9. Imithombo yemvelaphi (ukuzimela okanye injongo).

Izizathu, ezifana neentlobo zengxabano, zihlelwa ngezizathu ezininzi:

1. Udibaniswe neempawu zobuhlobo boluntu.
2. Udibene nomxholo wokusebenzisana phakathi kwabantu.
3. Ukudibanisa neempawu ezizimeleyo zamacandelo kwimpikiswano.

Ekubeni iintlobo zeentlobo ziyahlukana, zikhona iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokusombulula iingxabano:

1. Ukunyamekela.
2. U lungiso.
3. Ukusebenzisana.
4. Ukungqinelana.

Ungakulibali ukuba nayiphi na imeko yongquzulwano inezihlanganisi zayo kunye neendlumi kwaye, ukuze kuthintele imiphumo ebuhlungu kwimibutho ephikisanayo, kubalulekile ukuba nexesha lokumisa ingxabano okanye imvelaphi yokungavumelani.