Kungakhathaliseki ukuba abantu bathi baphupha njani ngoxolo, kusekho isizathu sokuxabana . Kwaye kwimpikiswano yomdla ayikho kuphela imbangela yabo, kodwa kunye neengqinisiso zophuhliso. Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba izinto ezifunekayo zokuphuhliswa kweenkcaso ziyahlukahluka kakhulu, kodwa nganye imeko ifikelela kwizigaba ezifanayo, ezifanele zixutywe ngokubanzi.
Izizathu zengxabano
Ukuthetha ngokuthe ngqo, isizathu sokuba nayiphi na intsebenziswano kukukwazi ukufikelela kumabango amaqela. Ukuba sicinga ngokubanzi, sinokuhlukanisa amaqela alandelayo:
- indawo engalinganiyo yabantu;
- ukungafani phakathi kwezenzo kunye nokulindela;
- umahluko weembono;
- ukungabi nolwazi;
- iimpazamo ezinengqiqo, ukungaqondi kakuhle kwinkqubo yoqhagamshelwano;
- ngcamango engalunganga.
Kuyinto enomdla ukuba njengokuba imeko yongquzulwano iqhubeka, izizathu zingatshintshwa ngokuchasene noko, eziye zaqala ukuqala kokuphikisana.
Amandla okuphuhliswa kobambiswano
Khumbula nayiphi na ingxabano, ngamnye kubo unokwazi ukwahlula izigaba ezintathu eziphambili zengqungquthela yentuthuko: ekuqaleni, ingxabano ngokwayo kunye nokugqitywa. Makhe sijonge kwinkqubo yokutshintsha imeko yempikiswano ngokubanzi.
1. Iimeko zangaphambi kokuxabana. Ngeli xesha, kukho ukubunjwa kunye nokugqithiswa kwezinto eziphikisanayo. Nangona iinyani ezikhokelela ekujonganeni zifihliwe kwaye azifumaneki. Kuyathakazelisa ukuba abathathi-nxaxheba bexesha elizayo bengaziboni ukuxhatshazwa okunyukayo kwaye abaziqondi iziphumo zayo. Kule nqanaba, kusekho nethuba langempela lokusabalalisa "ihlabathi." Kodwa oku kuya kwenzeka kuphela xa amaqela efanelekileyo evavanya iinjongo zangempela zengxabano. Ngaphandle koko, isisombululo seemeko ezinzima siyakulibazisa.
Impikiswano evulekile, malunga nokuqala kwayo, ithi, ukuba ukuphikisana kwafika ixesha lokukhula, xa bengenakukwazi ukuwutyeshela. Apha siyakwazi ukwahlula amanyathelo amabini enkquzulwano yongquzulwano lwamaqela: isiganeko kunye nokukhula.
Esi siganeko sisisombululo esilungisa ukuqala kwembambano evulekile. Kule ngongoma, sele sele ikwahlukana kwamacandelo, kodwa ngoku ukukhangela kweyona nto impi yenkcaso ayibonakali. Ngoko ke, ngelixa kuqokelelwa ulwazi, isenzo esisebenzayo asiyithathi, sishiye ithuba lokuba nesisombululo esinokuthula sokuchasene.
Ukunyuka kwamanzi kuthiwa isigaba "sokulwa", xa ukuphikisana kwaba nzima kakhulu, kwaye kwakuyisikhathi sokuhlanganisa zonke izixhobo ezikhoyo. Namaxesha amaninzi iimvakalelo zithatha indawo yengqondo, ngoko isisombululo esinokuthula senkquzulwano sinzima kakhulu. Kukho izizathu ezintsha kunye neenqweno ezingazange zikho ekuqaleni kwimeko yokulwa. Ngako oko, bathetha ngokungahambisani nokuziphatha okungalawulwayo.
2. Ukuphela kombambano. Isigaba siqala ngokubuthathaka kwamacandelo (omnye okanye zombini), ukuqonda ukungaxakali kokuqhutyelwa kwembambano, ukuphakama okubonakalayo komdlali omnye, kunye nakwiimeko zokungakwazi ukuqhubeka nokujongana nokuditywa kwezibonelelo.
3. Iimeko zengqukuva-mbambano. Emva kokuxabana, kuza ixesha lokukhupha iintlobo zokuxhatshazwa kunye nokuqhelanisa ubudlelwane obuyimfuneko yokubambisana.
Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba nangona izigaba zengquzulwano ziyaziwa, akunakwenzeka ukugqiba ixesha ngalinye. Ekubeni oku kuya kuxhomekeka kwizinto ezininzi: ukukwazi ukuqonda ngokwaneleyo imbangela yokungquzulana, izakhono nomnqweno wokufuna ukuphazamiseka, ukufumana izibonelelo.