Abantu abaninzi abadala bangenza umboniso wokuqala womntu, ukuchaza ezininzi iimpawu zakhe (umzekelo omhle, izici zengqondo). Kodwa ukuchaneka kwenjongo kukuphela kweemeko ezingathathi hlangothi. Umfanekiselo womnxibelelwano, owenziwe kumntu wokuqala owaziwayo, kuyimfuneko ukuba unxibelelwano luyakhelwe kakuhle.
Cinga ngezinto ezichaphazela ukubunjwa kweyokuqala:
- Imbonakalo Umbono ocacileyo we-interlocutor uchaphazelekayo ngokubonakala kwakhe. Iingcaphephe zeengqondo zengqondo zibonisa ukuba ukuba umntu ugqoke isahluko esahlukileyo, ngoko zifundo zeqela, ngaphezu kokubona iimpawu eziye zaphawulwa ngaphambili, zibuye ziphawule iimpawu ezithatyathwa ngendoda entsha.
- Umgaqo-siseko womntu. Impembelelo yombono wokuqala uhluka ngoxhomekeke kwimpawu zomzimba zomntu. Ngoko indoda yokwakha umdlalo ibonakala njengamandla, isibindi. Umntu ocebileyo unxulumene nomntu onentloni. Ezi zikhombisi zibonisa ukuba ukuqala, okuqhelekileyo, kukukhohlisa.
Vala amehlo akho kwaye ucinge ukuba uhla we-escalator, kwaye kufuphi nawe ngumntu ongaqhelekanga onokuthanda ukudibana naye. Ukuqaphela kungahluka, kodwa into eyona nto yindlela yokwenza umboniso wokuqala.
Ezi ngcebiso ziyakunceda ngale nto.
- Ukuphefumla kakhulu. Ukuba unentloni, unako ukwenza into enesidenge. Hlaziya ngaphambi kokuba unqobe ingqalelo yomntu.
- Zinike ukuzonwabisa. Lahla ukukhawuleza okungaphezulu. Ityhathisa abantu kude. Ukumomotheka yindlela efanelekileyo yokubeka abantu.
- Chukumisa. Ukuthintela kwakho kufuneka kukhanyise ukukhanya. Musa ukuyikrakra iqabane lakho.
- Musa ukutshiza. Ukuhleleka okulungileyo kukufaka ubungqina bokuzithemba.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukwakheka kombono wokuqala womntu kuthatha indima ebalulekileyo kwiintsebenziswano zoshishino okanye nakwakhela ubomi bomntu. Ngoko ke, phuhlisa umkhwa wokuhlala ukhangele kakuhle kakuhle, zithanda wena uze uvumele amehlo akho akhanye ngovuyo.