Uthando luvakalelwa luhle njengoko luyimfihlakalo, kungekhona into yokuba wonke umntu ufuna ukukrazula i-formula yayo. Kodwa le ngxaki ayilula, akucaci ukuba yiyiphi ipharamitha yinto eqikelelayo-ukukhula, ubunzima, ukuhambisana kwengqondo, ubudala okanye uphawu lwezodiac? Makhe sizame ukuqonda ubuncinane i-parameter yobudala.
Ngaba kufuneka kubekho umahluko phakathi kweminyaka yobudala?
Abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba imitshato enomda omkhulu weminyaka iya kulahlwa kwangaphambili. Le ngcamango isekelwe kwinto yokuba abatshatileyo baya kuba neminqweno eyahlukileyo kunye neembono ngobomi ukuze bakwazi ukuza kwiindawo eziqhelekileyo. Le ngcamango iphinda iqinisekiswe yimiphumo yophicotho-abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba ukuhluka kweminyaka efanelekileyo kunokuqwalaselwa iminyaka engama-1-5, iminyaka engama-5 ukuya kwe-10 eyahlukileyo, nayo ivumelekile, kodwa ayikho into enhle. Kodwa yonke imitshato eyahlukileyo kwiminyaka engaphezu kwe-10 ayinakuvuyela. Nangona abanye abaphandi benombhalo bathi ngisho nangeminyaka eyi-15-16, ukuhluka kweminyaka emtshatweni kuya kuba kuhle.
Kodwa kukho uluvo lokuba akukho mitshato evuyayo apho kungekho mfahluko weminyaka. Ngenxa yokuba ezo zibini ziza kuhlala zifumanisa ukuba ngubani umntu oyintloko kwintsapho, kwaye abatshatileyo baya kuphazamisana nophuhliso lomnye nomnye. Ingaba izazi zeengqondo, uluvo olufanayo lukwabelwana ngabaphenduli. Ewe, kukho izibini ezitshatileyo ezihlala zivuyo kakhulu, kodwa oku kufana nokungafani. Ngokuqhelekileyo, imibutho enjalo iyinkimbinkimbi kwaye imonde kunye nomnqweno wokuqonda umlingane unokugcina intsapho.
Ukuqhubela phambili kule nto, kunokugqitywa ukuba okuqhelekileyo, okwencinane, umda wobudala phakathi kwabatshatileyo kufuneka ukuba. Kodwa ingaba njani, ukuba elinye iqabane lidala kunomnye, ngaba iintsapho ezinjalo zidibanisa?
Imitshato yothando ngomlinganiselo omkhulu weminyaka
Imindeni apho umyeni omdala kunomfazi wayo, ngokusoloko ebangela ukungavumi. Amantombazana atyholwa ukuba ufuna ukuzuza ubutyebi ngeendleko zendoda endala, kunye namadoda-ngokunyaniseka. Iingcali zengqondo azinjalo kwaye zichazela umnqweno wamabhinqa ukuba atshade nendoda ekhulile kunomntu onqwenela ukufumana umkhuseli kunye nenkxaso ebomini. Kwaye iziprofeto zabo zobomi kuloo mtshato azixakekanga. Ulonwabo lunokwenzeka, ukuba isibini sinokugqiba ezi zinto zilandelayo zingavumelani:
- umahluko kwiminqweno kunye nokukhetha;
- Kwaye umntu onamandla kunokuba nobuthathaka bakhe, ngoko uthanda uthando, umntu unokufumana
ukudumala okukhulu; - umahluko wezidingo zesini.
Izikhalazo ezininzi zibangelwa ziintsapho ezinomlinganiselo wobudala, apho umfazi ekhulile kunomyeni wakhe. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo ukugwetywa koluntu okutshabalalisa umtshato onokuyonwaba. Esinye isizathu sokuba loo mitshato iqhekeke kukuba ukungabi nhlonipho yowesifazane kunye nomlingani wakhe omncinci. Kwakhona, oomama bavame ukuva iimvakalelo zabo umama kubayeni babo abancinci, kulo mzekelo, umtshato awuyi kuphazamiseka.