Abasetyhini abaninzi bajamelana nobomi kunye neemeko apho umntu othandekayo enomdla. Kule meko, kukho iindlela ezimbini: ukuyingxenye okanye ukubuyisela umlingane. Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokuqhuba umyeni kude nenkosikazi oye wabonisa ubungqina bakhe ngaphezu kweyodwa. Okokuqala, kukufanelekile ukucinga ngokucophelela ukuba ngaba ufuna ngokwenene, nokuba unokuxolela.
Indlela yokulwa nomchasi kumyeni wakhe ngoncedo lomlingo?
Kukho iinkqubo ezininzi eziya kuphazamisa ubudlelwane phakathi kwentanda kunye nomnye umfazi, uze naye ekhaya. Omnye wabo ngumsebenzi osebenzayo, okufuneka uchithe ngenyanga. Kuye uya kuyifuna kuye: iphepha, ipensela kunye namajikijolo e-hawthorn. Kwiphepha ubhale igama lomchasi, uliqhekeke libe ngamaqhezu amancinci uze ulihlakaze phantsi. Emva koko ufefe i-hawthorn, ngaphambi kokupumba. Hamba ephepheni ngeenyawo zakho uze ucinge ukuba ucinezela inkosikazi yakho. Emva koko, susa yonke into uze uyilahle endlwini yangasese.
Ungathatha isicandelwana esithandwayo sokuguqula inkosikazi kumyeni wakhe, ekubeni amagama anamandla amakhulu. Ixesha elifanelekileyo lokwenza umcimbi nguLwesibini ngenyanga. Vala iipalini kwigumbi uze uvule iwindow. Beka itafile ngecobo elicocekileyo uze ufake umquba. Kulo, gcina ingilazi, isiqwenga seboya, umhlaba othile, ityuwa kunye neviniga. Kwiphepha, bhala icebo elinamandla, indlela yokuguqula umyeni kwikosikazi yakhe:
"Njengekati nenja zilwa, kunjalo mna (igama lomlingane) kunye (igama lekosikazi) Ukulwa, ukulwa uze ube nenxenye! Kwaye bavutha komnye nomnye, kwaye iimvakalelo zabo zajika! "
Funda isiqendu kathathu, uze utshise iphepheni phezu kwekhandlela. Thumela umlotha kumdaka. Yonke into yokuxuba, gubungela ngengubo eninzi kwaye ufake efestile. Emva koko, faka ikhandlela ezintathu uze uziphephe. Ngentsasa, faka yonke into engxoxweni kwaye uyifake endlwini yomqhubi. Ukuba awukwazi idilesi yakhe, ke inxalenye yomxube ifakwe kwiingubo zomyeni wakhe. Xa le meko ayikwazi ukuzaliseka, yiphonsa yonke kwindawo.
Indlela yokusindisa indoda kwindlovukazi yengqondokazi yamakhosikazi
Njengokusombulula nayiphi na ingxaki, kufuneka uqale nawe. Shintsha iinwele zakho, ikhabethe, ubhalisele ukuvocavoca , ngokubanzi, ube ngumdlali ongcono. Sifanele sisebenze kumlingiswa kwakunye nokuba kwaziwa kubafazi abalungileyo abayeni abahambayo. Zama ukugwema ama-scandals, ube mhle. Kubalulekile ukuthatha onke amanyathelo okunokwenzeka ukuqinisekisa ukuba umoya ohlala kwintsapho ulungile kakhulu, kwaye umlingane akafuni ukuhamba. Yenza indoda ibe nomona, nantoni na into ayithethayo, nabo bonke abanikazi abesifazana baze babelane ngokwabo, abayi kuba nabani na. Ukuba kwakunqunywe ukuxolela umntu omthandayo, ngoko unokuthetha ngokuthe ngqo ngento eyenzekayo. Makhe axelele izinto ezibangela ukunyanzela, ukuze utshintshe imeko. Qinisekisa ukubonisa uluvo lwakho kulo mbandela, kodwa kufuneka uyenze ngokuzithemba nangokuzithemba, ngaphandle kokuhlambalaza.