Kungakhathaliseki ukuba iimvakalelo kunye nolwalamano phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, akukho mntu uhlaselwe ngumntu okhuselekileyo ekuhlaleni okubuhlungu kunye nobudlelwane obuphukileyo. Abommeli besigqeba esilungileyo sabantu basenokucinga ukuba kutheni ngamanye amaxesha abantu bebuya emva kokuhlukana , kodwa kunye nesayensi yengqondo. Emva koko, akunakwenzeka njalo ukuqonda ngokupheleleyo injongo yesenzo esinjalo. Emva koko ndimele ndiyinyamezele, andisoloko ndifuna ukungena endlwini yam, intliziyo nomphefumlo womntu owayekadela yonke into waza wahamba.
Kutheni amadoda ebuya emva kokuhlukana - izizathu eziphambili
- Okokuqala, makhe siqwalasele imeko xa emva kokuthi: "Sifanele senze inxalenye", bekuyiinyanga ezintandathu, okanye nangonyaka. Ngoko, ngokungalindelekanga ngokwakho, uya kufumanisa ukuba wakho owayesithembekile ngokuziqhelana nabo uzama ukufumanisa indlela oqhuba ngayo, indlela ohlala ngayo, kwaye ngokubanzi, indlela ubomi bakho buye batshintsha ngayo ngeli xesha. Ukongezelela, ngokukhawuleza udibanisa inombolo yakho, okanye unokundwendwela iindwendwe. Masithi kwenzeka, kodwa awuva amazwi okuzisola. Kwimeko apho, uyazi, ufuna ukuba ngumhlobo wakho, umntu onokuhlala uthembele kuye, okanye ubuyele ngenxa yesiqhelo esiqhelekileyo.
- Iminyaka yadlula, njengoko ungekho ndawonye. Amanxeba athembekileyo aphiliswe, kodwa kwakukho izikrakra. Ngelinye ilanga, xa ufika ekhaya uvela emsebenzini, emngceleni uya kumbona, umntu oye wazinikela ixesha elide kwaye wabelane ngexesha elihle lobomi bakhe nomntu. Konke oko
uthi: "Ndixolele. Masizame kuqala. " Kule meko, ayinakunyuswa ukuba waba ngongqiqo, ubuyekeze izimvo zakhe ngobomi. Ukongezelela, lowo owayengumthandi wangaphambili unokucaca ngokucacileyo ukuba zeziphi izizathu ezenza ukuba abuyele. - Ukuqwalasela ngokungakumbi malunga nombuzo wokuthi kutheni, kwaye emva kwexesha elithile indoda ibuye ibuye, i-psychology ichaza ukuba kwiimeko ezininzi, amadoda awanandaba nokuba kuphi kunye nomfazi wakhe wangaphambili. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba intliziyo yakhe ithathwa ngenye, umona uphawula ngokukhawuleza kuye. Uqala kwakhona ukuwuphishekela, ukuchitha imali eninzi, amandla kunye namandla. Abasetyhini abale meko, into ephambili ngokukhawuleza ayibonisi ukuba umxolele kwaye ukulungele ukunika ithuba lesibini.