Kukho uluvo lokuba inkqubo yonxibelelwano, ingaba iyayiqonda okanye ingozi, idlala indima yesohlisi. Umntu unokuthi ngengozi ukuqala ingxoxo ngesihloko sentshisekelo kuye ngendlela yokuvalelwa kumnxibelelwano oko akufunayo. Ngexesha le ncoko, unokuba nefuthe kumdlali wakho ukuze athathe isigqibo ofunayo.
Iintlobo zokuxhaphaza ngethuba le-banal kunye neengxoxo zokuqala, zinokuhluka kakhulu:
- ukunyanzelisa uthando;
- ukuphathwa koyiko;
- ukuxhaphaza;
- ukuxhaphaza iimvakalelo zetyala;
- ukuxhaphazwa kwesisa.
Ngeentetho zabo, abanye abantu baxhaphaza ngamabango izihloko ezithile ukuze bavuswe ngabanye, le yinto ebalulekileyo yokuphathwa.
Izindlela kunye nezindlela zokuphathwa
Ukuxhatshazwa kwintsebenziswano phakathi kwabantu, iintlobo kunye neendlela ezihlala zihlala zixhomekeke ngqo kwiinjongo zengxoxo ababenokuziqhubela kuyo, kunoku:
- "Ukucaphuka komnxibelelwano" - kuqhutywa ngoncedo lokuhlambalaza, ukuhleka usulu, ukuze uhoxise umntu, umenze abe nexhala.
- Ukubhekisela "kwiminqweno ephakamileyo" ngokuqhelekileyo kusetyenziswa ngumlawuli, oqhubeka ngokufuna ukufezekisa yakhe, kwaye ngamazwi akhe abhekisela kwingcamango efanayo kubantu abanegunya kunye nabahloniphekileyo.
- "Ukuhlambalaza" -kubonakaliswe xa uthetha nomntu oye waqaphela ukuba umbono wakhe awungalunganga, kodwa engafuni ukuvuma. Abasetyhini basebenzise le ndlela yokunyanzeliswa ekunxibelelaneni ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunamadoda.
- "Inkxaso yenkxaso" - isetyenziselwa ukuzola kwaye wenze umchasi angacapheli. Ukusuka kwangaphandle kubonakala ngathi uthabatheka, ngoko-ke umnxibelelwano sele evakalelwa kukuba uncedo, uyaphinda ahlawule kwaye abe ngumntu ochaphazelekayo wokuxhaphaza.
Izindlela zokusetyenziswa kunye namandla okuchaphazela kwabo kuxhomekeke ekubeni nolwazi lomntu ofuna ukukuchaphazela. Kwimeko yethu esondeleyo, sisoloko sifumana impembelelo efanayo kwizigqibo zethu. Kwiimeko ezininzi, kulula kakhulu ukuphazamisa umntu. Indlela elula ukukwenza oku kumgangatho weemvakalelo, kuba iindlela zokusebenzisa izixhobo azisekelwe kwisicatshulwa esengqiqweni, kodwa emva kweempendulo zengqondo ezilandelayo. Kodwa oku akusiyo isizathu sokukholelwa ukuba ukuxhatshazwa kwintengiso yonxibelelwano akunakwenzeka.
Abaqeshi basisebenzisa njani?
Ulawulo luvame ukuchaphazela abantu abangaphantsi kwindlela ezinjengexinzelelo malunga nokuzithemba kwabo okanye ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi okanye umsebenzi ngokubanzi. Cinga ngamathuba amaninzi owawuvela kumphathi wakho malunga nosongelo lokuxothwa, ngokuqinisekileyo, kubangele ukucaphuka kwakho, nangona kunjalo, waphoqeleka ukuba ufeze yonke imiyalelo yakhe kunye nemiyalelo. Yile ndlela yokuphatha abantu abaninzi inxalenye isetyenziswe ngabaqeshi.
Ukunciphisa olu hlobo lempembelelo kubuntu bakho, ungasebenzisa oku:
- "Ngeendlebe" - umsebenzi oyintloko wokwamkelwa kweli thuba lokuthatha ixesha. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba uyaphathwa ngokufanelekileyo, ziphazamise kwifowuni engxamisekileyo
umnxeba okanye enye indlela, tshintsha ingqalelo, zama ukutshintsha isihloko sesincoko, kuya kukunceda ukuba ugweme ukuphathwa; - "Umbono ocacileyo ngokucacileyo" - ukuba unethemba lakho kwi-100%, uchaza ngesibindi ingcamango yakho, ukungabi naluphi na ukungathandabuzeki kwisitatimenti sakho akuyi kunika umlawuli wendawo ithuba lokukuchaphazela.
Ngoku uyazi, zithini iindlela zokuxhaphaza ngokumalunga nomntu wakho ezisetyenzisiweyo kunye nezindlela zokungathathi hlangothi. Cinga malunga naziphi iindlela zokuphila ongasebenzisa ulwazi olutholileyo kwaye uzuze kubo.