Indlela yokuba ngumfazi onoyolo?

Ukuba ufuna ukuba ngumfazi onwabileyo, okokuqala kufuneka ufune ukuba yeyiphi imbangela yokungahlali kwakho. Emva koko, imbono yolonwabo kulowo wonke umntu - umntu unentsapho, umntu unenkqubela yomzimba, umntu unokuziqonda, njl njl. Ukuba umntu onoyolo olulula kwaye kunzima ngexesha elifanayo. Uluntu olutshanje lusetyenziselwa ukugcoba nokukhalaza, ukuguqula ubomi balo kube yintlekele. Wonke umntu ugijima emva ko lonwabe, ekhohlwa ukuba ihlale ikhona kuthi-kwishishini elithandayo okanye umdlalo, abantu abathandekayo, iinjongo kunye nophuhliso. Indlela yokuba yonwabile ngakumbi? Makhe sizame ukukhetha oku kunye.

Sinokufumana njani uvuyo emtshatweni?

Le ngxaki idinga uhlalutyo olunzulu, kuba lunokuxhomekeka kwizizathu ezininzi. Unokuba noxanduva lweemvakalelo zakho, kodwa kungekhona kwabanye. Umntu ngamnye umtshato unembopheleleko. Ibhinqa akufanele lizinikele ngokupheleleyo emtshatweni. Kufuneka ibe neenjongo zayo, izinto ezithandwayo, uphuhliso. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukutshala imali kuwe kwaye yonke imihla iya kuba yinto epheleleyo ngakumbi.

Indlela yokuba ngumfazi onoyolo? Ibhinqa kufuneka lizinakekele kunye nokubonakala kwayo. Kufuneka unomdla kwihafu yesibini. Kuya kuba yinto efanelekileyo ukuba uhamba kunye ukuya kwelinye injongo. Ukuba kukho iingxaki kwiintsapho, kubalulekile ukuthetha ngale nto kunye nomyeni wakho. Ukuba lo mntu uyamthanda ngokwenene, uya kwenza konke ukwenzela ukugcina intsapho (ngaphandle kokuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, sithetha ngezidingo eziphezulu zezulu). Ukuba, nangona zonke iinzame zakho, le ndoda iyaqhubeka ilala, i-otmazyvaetsya kunye nebala elisondeleyo ayiboni ingxaki, kufuneka ucinge ngobuhlobo obusondeleyo naye. Yaye ukuba unquma ukwenza inxenye, mhlawumbi lo mntu uya kucingisisa ngokunyaniseka kwakhe kwaye uya kufuna ukukubuyisela. Emva koko wenze isigqibo kuphela kuwe.

Ndingonwabile njani emva komtshato?

Abaninzi abasetyhini bafumana umtshato onzima kakhulu. Xa uluhlu lweengxabano zentsapho ende, ngamanye amaxesha zihlala iminyaka, ekugqibeleni ziza kuphuka. Ixesha lokuqala kuya kuba nzima ukulungiswa, kodwa kuya kunceda ukuba uziqonde kangcono wena kunye neminqweno yakho. Unolwazi oluxabisekileyo ekusebenzelaneni nendoda, nangona engaphumelelanga, kodwa ngoku uyazi kakuhle into oyifunayo nendlela okufanele uziphatha ngayo. Okokuqala zama ukuzinikezela kuphela. Yenza into entsha. Bhalisela iikhosi ezithandayo okanye iiklasi. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzisa imibala eqaqambileyo ebomini bakho. Yonke imihla yobomi bakho mayibe neqhamo! Ndikholelwe, ukuba uhamba nobomi obuthe xaxa, uhambo, uqhelane nobuninzi babantu abanomdla, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kudibana neqabane lakho lenene.

Umfazi ongatshatanga angonwaba njani?

Abasetyhini abaninzi banzima kakhulu ngenxa yedwa , xa ufuna uthando, ububele kunye nokufudumala, kunye neenxa zonke kuwe zizinto ezibuhlungu kunye nobugayi ubomi bemihla ngemihla. Zama ukungaxhomeki kwedwa. Mhlawumbi, okokuqala akuyi kuba lula, kodwa ekugqibeleni uya kuba nokufunda ukuzonwabisa ubomi kwaye uthathe utshintsho. Zama ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nabahlobo, zinike izinto zokuzilibazisa, khangela izinto ezintsha. Cinga ngohlobo luni lwabantu oyithandayo? Ukuba kufuneka abe neenjongo kunye nokukhuseleka, bhalisela iisemina zoshishino. Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kudibana khona nabantu abanomdla kwaye banokufumana umphefumlo wakho. Khumbula ukuba into ephambili ebomini uphuhliso. Bonke abanye baya kuvela, ngokukhawuleza ukuba uya kuhambelana nawe kunye nehlabathi elijikelezile, kunye nokuthanda yonke into!

Ndingonwabile njani uthando?

Ukuba ufuna uthando olonwabileyo lokwenene, kufuneka ukwazi oku kulandelayo. Kubudlelwane obumanyeneyo, kubalulekile ukuba bobabini abantu bavuthiwe. Akukona malunga nobudala, kodwa kunokuba ungakwazi ukuthatha uxanduva, qonda kwaye uxabise iqabane lakho, wenze izigqibo ezintle. Ukuba umntu omnye kwi-bhangqa engasemva, ubuhlobo buya kulahlwa. Le yingxaki yamabhangqa amaninzi namhlanje. Ngoko ke kubaluleke kakhulu ukuphuhlisa nokusebenza kuthi, ukuphucula rhoqo iimpawu zethu ezilungileyo kunye nokufumana ezintsha.