Safunda ngobuchule ukuba singaxoxe nabanye kuphela, kodwa thina. Nangona kunjalo, kusekhona ithuba elibuhlungu lokubona inyaniso-ulwimi lobunzima bomzimba kunye nokuthinta , okungazange kufundwe ngokusisigxina kuthi, kwaye "kungabonakali", akubona bonke abakwaziyo ukukwenza. Ngoko, siya kusebenzisa umtshina wamanga, obonakala ngokuthe ngqo kwimbombo ye-interlocutor, kwaye kungekhona ebunzini kuphela.
Mimicry
Ubonakalo obusweni buvela xa, phantsi kwefuthe leemvakalelo ezahlukahlukeneyo, ezi okanye ezinye izivumelwano zomzimba. Ukuba ubuso bethu bubuso buhambelana ne-right hemisphere, kwaye ngoko, ngokuchanekileyo ukubonakalisa ubuso kubonakala kwicala lasekhohlo lobuso. Ukuba umnxibelelwano uthetha inyaniso, ulwimi lwakhe lwesibonakaliso sobuso kunye nomzimba luyalinganiso, ukuba icala elifanelekileyo alihambelani nelinye lasekhohlo, umntu makangathandabuzeki.
Iimvakalelo ezintle zilula ukuzibona kwaye zichonge ngaphezu kokungahambi kakuhle, kwaye ukubonakaliswa kwimizimba yesintu kunye nesicacisayo kunomlomo.
Ukuze ufunde ukuqaphela iimpawu ezifaniswayo, eziza kuthi emva kwexesha lesibini ukwahlukana ebusweni ixesha elide, umntu kufuneka asebenze kwaye agcine abantu ixesha elide, okanye aqeqeshe ukubonisa iimvakalelo ezahlukahlukeneyo ngoncedo lobuso obusweni phambi kwesibuko (abadlali abenza ntoni). Incumo yodwa inokuthi inxantathu, intukuthelo, ihlazo, umsindo, inkohlakalo kunye nosizi.
Imizobo
Bathi impawu ayikho ukunyakaza komzimba, kodwa ukunyakaza komphefumlo. Isenzo esincinane sinqina kwiiminqweno kunye neemvakalelo zomnxibelelwano okwangoku, kwaye isenzo, ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngezikhathi ezithile, sityhila iimpawu zobuntu.
Ulwimi lwezenzo kunye nokuthinta impawu kunzima kunokuba ulingane, kuba kukho imiqondiso emininzi ekubonakaliseni imizwa yethu.
Nangona kunjalo, ininzi kubo bonke abafazi, njengokuba kunjalo, banomdla othandweni. Kwaye ukuba ngokuthe ngqo: "Uthandayo, okanye akayithandi?". Ngaba kaninzi kangakanani ukungaqiniseki ukuba inyaniso yeemvakalelo ezivakaliswa ngabamkeli bethu, kwaye bangathanda njani ukukwazi ukuzenza ithuba lokuba bahlole. Ngoncedo lwezakhono zokukhanya
Ukuba ngomntu umntu uhlala lula, ngokukhululeka, izandla zakhe kwindawo evulekile - kakhulu, uyakuthanda. Ukuba uyayigubha indlebe, uvale umlomo ngesandla sakhe - oko akutshoyo, akanakho ukuzithemba. Kwaye ukuxhalaba nokucaphuka kwakhe, uya kubonisa ngokuwela izandla zakhe esifubeni, ukuphosa iinyawo zakhe emlenzeni wakhe.
Naluphina umnqweno wesondo ulula ukuyiqonda: indoda izama ukukuthinta ngokufutshane, iyakumbamba ngeenxa zonke, inqanda iinwele zakhe, imilenze yayo ibanzi kunokuba iqhelekileyo, umlomo wakhe uvulekile, ivule iinki.
Sekunjalo, ukuba ungathembeli amagama omntu wakho, zama "ukukhangela kabini" qaleni ekuqaleni kolwalamano, ngaba kuyafaneleka ukuba kubuze, ngaba uyamthanda okanye akunjalo?