Umntu onxilisayo: Yintoni enokuyenza kwintombazana-iingcebiso zengqondo yengqondo

Utywala luyisifo esibangela ukuba isigulane kunye nabathandekayo bakhe baphuphe. Kule meko, kwanexesha elikhethekileyo - ukunyaniseka. Yintoni enokuyenza kumfazi, ukuba umyeni wakhe unxilisayo, uya kunika iingcebiso ngcebiso yengcali yengqondo.

Iingcebiso zengqondo yengqondo indlela yokuhlala nomyeni onxilisayo

Ukuba umfazi, nangona umlutha, uyaqhubeka emthanda umyeni wakhe, uyaqhubeka nokuhlala naye kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni. Kulo mzekelo, umfazi kufuneka azame ukunceda umyeni wakhe anqobe isigulo.

Umzekelo wokuphulukisa utywala awuqhelekanga, umntu uncedwa yienkolelo ezithembekileyo, enye inengqondo yeengqondo, okwesithathu imishishini kunye ne "coding" ehlukahlukeneyo. Inkqubo nayiphi na imeko kufuneka ikhethwe ngabanye. Nangona kunjalo, ku funeka kuqatshelwe ukuba uncedo lwengqondo luyimfuneko kumfazi ngokwakhe, ekubeni ubomi obusisigxina obungunaphakade kunye noxinzelelo luphelile ngokusemzimbeni nasekuziphatheni.

Kodwa ngelixa umyeni esela, loo mfazi kufuneka agcine imithetho ethile:

• awukwazi ukubonakalisa ubuthathaka kunye nokungenakunceda - ukuziphatha komfazi okunjalo kuya kumshukumisa indoda ibe yimihla enkulu, kwaye ukuba indoda iyazi ukuba umfazi uya kuhlala kakuhle ngaphandle kwakhe, uya kuzama ukujamelana nale ngxaki;
• Umfazi akufanele akhohlwe ukuba ungumfazi-indoda kufuneka ihlale ikhumbula ukuba uyayithanda umfazi wayo, ngoko umnqweno wokuwunqoba eso sifo kuya kuba namandla kuye;
• umfazi udinga ixesha elide lokunika umyeni wakhe - iimfuno zentsapho kunye nezinto ezinomdla eziqhelekileyo kunokudala ummangaliso kwaye umjike umntu ekubeni atywala.

Into ongenakuyenza kumfazi womyeni ophuzayo:

• ukuhlambalaza, ukuhlambalaza, "wabona" ​​iqabane;
• uyayihoxisa okanye isongela umtshato;
• qalisa ngokwakho;
• i-cringe kwaye ivakalise utywala;
• ukugxeka umyeni - akuyena yena ongendawo, kodwa umkhwa wakhe;
• ukugxeka abahlobo kunye nezihlobo ngenxa yobunxila - umntu uyazikhethela.

Ukunceda indoda yakhe, kuyimfuneko ukuchonga izizathu zokusela utywala. Oku kunokuba ngumthombo wokuzalwa, uxinzelelo olunzulu oluchaphazelekayo nokufa, ukuxothwa, ukugwenxa. Umfazi kufuneka azame ukuqonda oko imnika umyeni wakhe utshwala - ukhulula, uvumele ukulibala iingxaki, umtsalane. Ukuze wenze umyeni "uboshwe" ngesiselo, kufuneka usebenzise zonke iindlela kunye neengxabano: ukuchaza ukuba yintoni umonakalo otywala owenzayo emzimbeni, ukubonisa ngokubonakalayo (ukuthatha ividyo kwividiyo) ukuba utywala njani, ucele uncedo kwizihlobo kunye nabahlobo.

Kodwa ukuba akukho nto inceda, umntu uyaphuza aze "aphule izandla zakhe," umfazi unokuba neengxaki enye kuphela: indlela yokuphuma kumyeni wakhe - utywala kunye nomtyholi - ngaphandle kokulahleka, ukugcina impilo yengqondo kunye nengqondo. Kwaye ukuba isigqibo eso senziwe, kufuneka siqaliswe ngaphandle kokulibazisa nokuzisola, ukuqinisekisa ukuphepha kwabo kunye nabantwana.