Fumana umyeni - ubugcisa bokukhwabanisa kunye noqhagamshelwano, obunendima yomcuphi. Ewe, le "i-cocktail" yezakhono ixhomekeke kuphela kubafazi abanobuchule abanqwenela ukutshata ngokunyanisekileyo.
"Ndifuna ukufumana indoda" - la magama anokuvakala namhlanje ngokuqhelekileyo, kuba izibalo ezingenakucingelwayo zithi: kuba abantu abayi-1000 kukho abafazi abayi-1200. Yaye nokuba njani kwiimeko ezinjalo "zokhuphiswano olunobungqingili", ngokukodwa xa zivakala nje malunga nendlela enye intombi ezitshatileyo, isibini sele ibelethe umntwana, kwaye okwesithathu ikwazi ukutshintsha igama lesibini ize ihambe kwiEmirates kumyeni omtsha? Kwiimeko ezinjalo kubonakala ukuba le yintlekele. Kodwa oku akukwenyani ngokupheleleyo, kuba kakhulu kwesi sihloko esibucayi kuxhomekeke kumfazi, kwaye ngoko siza kujonga into enokuyenza ukuze ulethe inhlanhla ebusweni, kwaye umtshato uphawula ngoku isandla sakho.
Uphi na indlela yokufumana indoda enhle?
Ngaphambi kokuba uqale uphando, gqiba kwiindlela zokukhetha ukuba "indoda enhle" yintoni. Emva kokuba ufumene iimpawu ezibalulekileyo, cinga ukuba zifumaneka phi.
Ngokomzekelo, ukuba kulungile, kufuneka umntu onjalo afune phakathi koogqirha kunye nabathandi bezilwanyana, ngakumbi iikati. Ukuba ufuna i-brave nexanduva, ngoko-ke umanyathelo wokuhamba ukufumana umsebenzi kwintlangano apho imikhosi isebenza khona: ababhali-abalobi bahlala befunekayo apho.
Ingqondo yomntu inokufunyanwa ekuqeqesheni, kwiiyunivesithi nakwiqela le-chess.
Xa usenza isigqibo malunga nendawo yokukhangela, qalisa ekuphuculeni, ngenxa yokuba akwanele ukufumana umntu, kufuneka athathwe:
- idatha yangaphandle. Akukho mfuneko yokuzama ukugqwesa, kodwa imbonakalo enhle imele ibe njalo;
- u buhlungu. Akuyena umsebenzi olula ukufumana nawuphi na umntu kuwe, ngoko uqeqesha ekhaya ngokubonakalisa ubuso, ubuso kunye nezwi;
- kudlala. Lo mzuzu obaluleke kakhulu ekufuneni umyeni: kufuneka ukhululwe kwaye ukwazi "ukudlala" nendoda ukuze ayithande.
Unokufumana njani indoda ecebileyo?
Kukho iindlela ezimbini zokukhetha umntu ocebileyo:
- Ngezicathulo kunye nezixhobo (kodwa oku kuyindlela engathembekiyo, kuba loo nto ingathenga izi zihlangu ngemali yokugqibela, kunye nephothifoliyo enhle ukuba ibe ngumhla wokuzalwa kubalingane).
- Eyona ndlela ilula kakhulu: ukujonga umsebenzi ngomvuzo. Kule meko, akudingeki udlale "ukuqikelela", ngaphandle koko, unokuvavanya umsebenzi wakhe (kunye nemali).
Ukukhangela i-richest in:
- ibhanki;
- Iinkampani ze-IT;
- kwisityalo (iinjineli zorhwebo kwiimanani zinemivuzo ephezulu).
Indlela yokufumana umyeni ngokukhawuleza kwi-intanethi?
Ukuba udidekile kakhulu kumadoda ethu okanye uphefumlelwe ngamava akho aphumeleleyo, kwaye ngoku ubeke umgomo wokufumana indoda ngaphandle, i-intanethi isebenze.
Udinga ukuthatha iifoto ezimbalwa ezivela kwizakhono, apho uza kuba kwimifanekiso emininzi (kodwa mayeke ukuxinwa kwaye ngexesha elifanayo unobungane) - kwaye ushicilele kwiziko le-arhente yomtshato. Kwezinye iisayithi kuyinkonzo ehlawulwayo ngomtshakazi, kwabanye - kumyeni, kwaye amanye afuna inkokhelo elinganayo kumacala amabini. Kubalulekile ukuba inhlangano ehloniphekileyo, abahlobo bakho basebenzisa ngayo.
Indlela yokufumana indoda kumfazi onomntwana?
Ekuqalekeni kubonakala ngathi kunzima kumfazi onomntwana ukufumana indoda evamile. Kwaye kunjalo ngokwenene, ukuba:
- ibhinqa ayinomsebenzi oqhelekileyo, umsebenzi ohlawulelwayo kwaye uphila nabazali bakhe kunye ne-alimony;
- Sekude kubekho kumyalelo kwaye sele sele ulibale ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuthetha nabantu;
- Unemfuno ephezulu kwizinto eziphathekayo kunye nokomoya ngokwamanye amaqabane: "kufuneka abe yingqiqo, uthembele, umthande umntwana womnye umntu, uqhube i-Land Cruiser kwaye ube nedacha kunye nedonki elincinane kunye ne-swans ezintathu."
Kule meko, indoda iya kufuneka ikhangele ixesha elide, kwaye kungekhona oko kuya kufunyanwa.
Oko okumele ukwenze:
- musa ukulibala malunga nomntwana. Ubomi bakho bobuqu bufanele bungaziboni ubuntwaneni bakhe.
- ukuphucula iziqinisekiso zabo, ukufumana umsebenzi kwaye bafune iindlela zokuphucula imeko yabo yezemali (ngokuqhelekileyo kule nqanaba, abaviwa abafanelekileyo baqala ukuvela ebomini babo);
- khumbula: akukho mntu ufuna ukugcina umntwana womnye umntu, ngoko ke ngaphambi kokuba uzame ukwakha ubudlelwane, kufuneka ube nemali eyaneleyo yokuqinisekisa.
Ngoko unokuthetha ngokuzinyamekela kwakho, kwaye umntwana akayi kuba ngumqobo kumntu ovumelekile ukuba abe ngumyeni wakho. Ngaphandle koko, unokucinga ukuba ukhangele "umxhasi"; - jonga ukubonakala kwaye ukwazi ukubonisa kakuhle.
Inqaku : Imfuno ebalulekileyo yendoda kumfazi onomntwana uthando lwakhe kubantwana, ukuba awufuni ukungquzulana kwintsapho ezayo.
Ewe, emva kokufunda eli nqaku, amagama athi "ndincede ndifumane umyeni" okanye "Ndifuna, kodwa andinakutshata" - kungekhona ngawe, kuba ngoku uyazi kakuhle indlela kwaye ungayifumana phi.