Umbuzo onzima, ukuba kutheni abantu baqhawule umtshato, abayi kuba nempendulo eyiyo kunye neyonke. Into kukuba umntu ngamnye ngumntu, kwaye ngoko intsapho yakhe ineempawu ezikhethekileyo. Emva koko, izizathu zokuqhawula umtshato zingahluke kakhulu kwaye ngamanye amaxesha zingenangqondo.
Kutheni abantu beqhawula umtshato - izizathu eziphambili
Kukho iinkcukacha ezithile, kutheni abantu baqhawule umtshato kwaye ngaphezu kweminyaka ayitshintshi. Oku kubangelwa kukuba iingxaki ezivusa abantu ababini ukuba bachithe intsapho yabo phantse bonke abantu bafana. Ngoko, izizathu eziphambili kunye nezihlandlo eziqhelekileyo ezikhokelela ekuqhawuleni umtshato zi:
- Inkathazo yonyaka wokuqala wokuphila kunye;
- ukuzalwa komntwana;
- Ukutshintsha kweembono ebomini nasezenzweni zokuzonwabisa;
- ukubonakala "kokukhetha okungcono", ukukhwabanisa ;
- ukungabikho kwengqalelo kunye nokuhlonelana komnye nomnye;
- abantwana abadala.
Ngokuqhelekileyo iintsapho ezincinci zitshabalaliswa ngenxa yokungafuni ukuqonda kunye nokuvalelana. Abantu abatsha, abajongene neengxaki, balandela indlela yokuncinci - baqhawula umtshato. Kunzima kakhulu ukugcina intsapho, ukuxolela okanye utshintshe wena kunye nobudlelwane . Isigaba esinzima kunokuba kukuzalwa komntwana wokuqala, xa ibhinqa licinga ukuba indoda ayimncedi ekukhuliseni umntwana nonke. Ngelo xesha, indoda iyaqiniseka ukuba ayimkhumbuli, kwaye umntwana kuphela yindawo yeli bhinqa. Enyanisweni, eli xesha kufuneka libe ngamava nje kwaye zama ukuqonda.
Kutheni abantu behlukanisile?
Xa uqhawule ulutsha, oku kubonisa ukuba kwakungenamandla okwaneleyo ukunyamezela, ukuqonda nokuqonda. Kodwa kunzima ukuqonda ukuba kutheni abantu baqhawule umtshato emva kweminyaka engama-20 yomtshato, xa i-crisis kunye nexesha lokugaya sele lidlule. Enyanisweni
Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba ngaphezu kweminyaka, imibhangqwana ibonakala ihamba kunye kunye nokuyeka ukwabelana ngehlabathi layo eliphakathi kwaye iyaqonda ukuba yonke imihla ayifuni ukuyichitha nomntu ohluke ngokupheleleyo.
Kwezinye iintsapho, abantwana bahlobo lento ebophayo, kwaye ngokukhula kwabo, imfuneko yokugcina umtshato ayisasadingeki. Yingakho ubomi bentsapho buphela.
Ukuba isibini esitshatileyo sineminyaka efanayo, ngoko ngokuqhelekileyo kumadoda kukho umnqweno wokuba neqabane elikufutshane naye kunomfazi wakhe. Emva kwayo yonke ibhinqa kwiminyaka emashumi amane ayiboni okanye ibonakale efanayo, njengamashumi amabini, kwaye apha amadoda ngeli xesha liza ixesha lokutshala.