Ngokuqinisekileyo ebuntwaneni, wonke umntu wayeva ilizwi elihle kakhulu: ukuthulisa igolide. Ubuntwaneni wayekhohlisa kwaye wayecaphukisa, ngenxa yokuba izinto ezininzi ndifuna ukuzixelela, zininzi ukuzabelana, kodwa ngokukhawuleza kwavela ukuba kufuneka uhlale ucebile, kwaye oku kuthula kunokuba kulungile kunokuba uthethe. Kodwa ngobudala, ngokukhawuleza kuya kuqonda ukuba inyaniso yeli gama. Ukuthula kuyigolide. Kwaye oku kunjalo. Ngoko ke, kukufanele ukucinga malunga nendlela yokufunda ukuthula kwaye uphulaphule, kuba unokufunda konke, ukuba nje uhlale uthula kwaye uqale ukuphulaphula ihlabathi elikujikelezayo, kungekhona nje kwizwi lakho. Ngoko unokufunda njani ukuhlala ucebile - kamva kwinqaku.
Indlela yokufunda ukuthula-icebiso elisebenzayo
Ngokuqhelekileyo, kubonakala ngathi, ukufunda ukuthula kunokulula: uthatha uze uthule, endaweni yokuthetha. Kodwa le nkqubo ilula nje kwindlela yokujonga ngayo, kuba ukuba sithetha ngeengqondo, ngoko yonke into iyinkimbinkimbi.
Imfuneko yokuthetha ngomntu yenye yezona zinto ezisisiseko. Emva koko, yintoni enye yokubonisa iimvakalelo zakho, iingcamango, ukuba kungekhona ngamagama? Omnye uthi kakhulu, kuba akakwazi ukujamelana neemvakalelo zakhe kwaye kufuneka azilahle. Omnye umntu, ngokuchaseneyo, uzama ukuzalisa ukungabikho ngamagama. Kodwa bambalwa abantu baqonda ukuba ngamanye amaxesha kuyafaneleka ukufunda ukuhlala ucebile ngenxa yokuqonda kangcono wena kunye nehlabathi elikujikelezayo.
I-psychology yeendlela zokufunda ukuhlala isicacile ngokuyisisiseko: ukuqonda ukubaluleka kokuthula. Ngokuqhelekileyo ubudlelwane buyatshatyalaliswa ngamazwi atyhukisiwe, okuthi, ukuba ucinga ngabo, mhlawumbi wawungeke uthethwe nhlobo. Kodwa ixesha lokucinga ngalo
Isiqhelo esihle kakhulu sokufunda ukuba uhlale uthe cwaka kwaye uthethe kancinci isifungo sokuthula. Kubalulekile ukuzama ukuqala ukuthula ngenxa yosuku olunye. Ukuba kunzima ukuhlala uthembekile kwisithembiso esilula, ngoko unokwenza oku ku-bethi ngemali kunye nabahlobo ukuze uqale udale izizathu zokufakelwa. Emva kolu suku lokuthulisa, kuyafaneleka ukuba sicinge ukuba ixesha kunye namandla kuhamba njani kwiingxoxo ezingabalulekanga, kwaye zingaphi amagama abalulekileyo ngokwenene ahlala engabonakaliyo, alahlekelwe ngumtsalane ongenanto. Kwaye zingaphi izinto esizibonileyo, ezithathwe ngamagama ethu! Ukuthula, ngokuqinisekileyo, igolide, oku akufanele ukulibala xa usukhulile, nangona abazali sele beyeke ukufana nale nto.