Ukufumanisa ukuba yiyiphi ibhinqa ethathwa njengento efanelekileyo emehlweni abantu, yintoni umfazi ofanelekileyo kunye nendlela yokuba yinto enye, kubalulekile ukucacisa imigaqo echanekileyo yovavanyo.
"Indlela yokuba ngumfazi ococekileyo?" - lo mbuzo awunayo impendulo yonke, kodwa ezinye iingcebiso zinendawo. Nazi iziganeko eziphambili zomfazi olungeleyo, abantu abawaxabayo, kukuzimela, ukuqonda, ubufazi. Enyanisweni, ukuze ube yinto efanelekileyo, kufuneka ucinge ngendlela yokuhlakulela le mpawu kuwe, ukuba awunayo.
Ngoko ke, machaze ukuba umfazi omele ukuba afane njani?
Akunakwenzeka, kunye nabafazi abathile bomntu oziva belula, ngokuzithemba. Kwaye nabanye - njengokungathi kwipeni elitshisiweyo lokutshisa, lonke ixesha kwixhala kunye nokuxhatshazwa. Nantsi imigaqo yokuziphatha komfazi olungeleyo, onokukunceda ukuba sondele ngakumbi kwimeko enye nayiphi na ibhinqa:
- Umfazi ococekileyo uhlala ekhangeleka kakuhle;
- Unobungane kwaye unomoya wokubamkela bonke abantu, kodwa uyazi ukwenza oko, ukuba indoda yakhe kuphela ihlala ivakalelwa kukuba iyintanda kakhulu. Ngoko ke, umfazi ofanelekileyo kufuneka abe ngumhlobo;
- Umfazi omhle uhlonipha indawo yecala lomyeni wakhe kwaye uyazi apho angamisa khona, ukuze angamcaphukisi;
- musa ukulibala ukuba umfazi ofanelekileyo kunye nombhede kufuneka abe mnandi;
- akhathazi ngemibuzo engenanto, kuba uyaqonda umyeni wakhe, omele enze isigqibo ngokwakhe;
- ulungile, kuyinto enomdla ukuba ube naluphi na uluntu, ungabi nokwesaba ukuziphatha okungafanelekanga kunye nokugcoba. Ngoko ke, qaphela ukuba imigaqo yomfazi ofanelekileyo ayigcinwanga kwindlu;
- Unomdla (uyayazi ukuba iyiphi imvelaphi eqalayo kwaye umdlalo uphela). Okokuthi, umfazi ofanelekileyo ngamehlo endoda akabonwanga nje ngokuba ngumgcini wendlu ocebileyo, kodwa nomphefumlo wenkampani;
- Ugcina abantwana, amantombazana kunye nabazali ekude kumyeni wakhe (umfazi ofanelekileyo uyazi ukuba unxibelelwano olunjani kunye nendoda kufuneka).
Yaye yintoni engafanele ibe ngumfazi ofanelekileyo?
Ezi mpawu ziyakunceda uqonde ukuba umfazi ofanelekileyo ufanele abe njani. Kubonakala ngathi yonke into ilula, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba abantu abanalo iimfuno ezilula. Ukongezelela ekuqondeni indlela yokuba ngumfazi ofanelekileyo, kuyimfuneko ukwazi ukuba abantu bamakisha kunye nempawu ezininzi abafuni ukuzibona kubasetyhini. Ewe, umzekelo:
- Ngona abantu abahlala bezolile kunye nabangavumelekanga abayithandiyo xa abafazi babo bebethala nabo. Ukudlala ngothando kunye namadoda ongaqhelekanga kusenokungabonakali, kodwa ukutywala nomhlobo osondeleyo kukucaphukisa. Ngaphezu koko, ukumisa oku, kwimeko yokujonga umntu, ukuhlazeka, kunzima kakhulu: kunzima ukubeka umhlobo endaweni, kwaye ukuthetha kumfazi kuyisityholo esiqinisekileyo.
- Iimvavanyo ezahlukeneyo, uphando, uphando lubonisa ukuba ubukeka obuhle kunye nomfanekiso obalaseleyo awukho phezulu njengabesifazana abanikwa zona, kwaye iimfihlelo zomfazi ofanelekileyo zihluke ngokupheleleyo.
- Amadoda ayithandi kakhulu xa abafazi babo bethetha kubo. Bodwa bona bahlupheke ngandlela-thile ezi zinto, kodwa ebusweni babanye abantu, amazwi anjalo kunye nokuhlambalaza. Sekunjalo, iimpawu zabo zesintu zibuzwa, kwaye isidima siyahlaselwa. Okokuthi, umbuzo wendlela yokuba ngumfazi ococekileyo unokwenziwa ngendlela eyahlukileyo - njani ukuba ungabi ngumfazi omubi.
- Amadoda kaninzi akwazi ukuba kutheni, ngokuphosakeleyo, abafazi banokuphinda baphinde baphinde baphinde baphenduke. Ngelo xesha, abayithobeli ingcebiso kunye neengcebiso abazama ukuzenza kuzo amadoda.
Yisiphi isono sokufihla, umfazi ngenxa yokuvakalelwa kwakhe akusoloko ekwazi ukuhlolisisa imeko, ngoko, mhlawumbi, ngamanye amaxesha kulungele ukuzenza ngathi unobunye nomyeni wakhe. Yaye le yile minye yemithetho yendlela yokuziphatha komfazi. - Imfuno engapheliyo yabafazi ukuba babe nobubele, bathandekayo, bathethe njalo ngothando nangemvakalelo, ngakumbi xa befunda amaphephancwadi namaphephandaba okanye ukubukela iiprogram zemidlalo, bakhuphe amadoda. Ngezikhathi ezinjalo ungaqhubela kwiingxelo ezingenakuchukumisa, eziya kuba nzima ukugaya. Ngoko ngenxa yesisa, khetha ixesha elifanelekileyo - intsapho yakho yolonwabo kunye nemizwelo iya kuzuza kuphela kuyo.