Ngokuqhelekileyo imbono yokuba izilwanyana zonyango zilula ukuzibona. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi kutshintsha umntu, kwaye utshintshe ngokupheleleyo: ngokuqala ngemikhwa kunye nomlingiswa , ukuphela kokubonakala. Kodwa ke akusoloko kukho utshintsho olubonakalayo. Kodwa ekugqibeleni ukuxhatshazwa kweziyobisi kuqondwa, amathuba amaninzi okususa. Ekubeni kwihlabathi lanamhlanje akukho mntu ukhuselekile kwiidakamizwa kwaye "uyayiphatha" ngokusweleka, kwanokuba umntu onengqiqo unokwazi, kuyimfuneko ukwazi iindlela ezithile zokubona umlutha weziyobisi ukuba unako ukukunceda izihlobo zakho okanye abaqhelana nabo, ukuba kukho i ntlekele loo nto .
Ungayibona njani umntu oxhomekeke kumachiza?
- Umntu . Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukunyamekela ingqalelo kwiinguqu kunye nokuziphatha. Kucacile ukuba abantu banokutshintsha, kodwa akukho litshintsho lwenzeka ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokukhawuleza, ngaphandle kwesizathu esicacileyo. Ngoko enye yeempawu zendlela yokujonga umlutha weziyobisi kubonakala ngathi utshintsho olubukhali kumntu: ngoko uyavuya, ngoko umzuzwana olandelayo sele engenamdla kwaye engenanto, ngoko uyayithanda kwakhona ihlabathi lonke. Kwakhona kufuneka uqaphele uthando olunzulu, ngokukodwa, ukuba umntu uhlala ezolile kwaye ehoxisiwe. Oku kuyinyani ngokukodwa kwindlela yokuqwalasela umlutha weziyobisi usebenzisa ukhula, kuba luhlala lunika umphumo onjalo. Umntu uqala ukuzama ukuqhagamshelana nomzimba, ukuhlala ebonisa uthando lwakhe, kungekhona kubantu abaqhelekileyo, ukuba bamomotheka njalo njalo njalo.
- Iimpawu zangaphandle . Ngokuqhelekileyo, izilwelisi zeziyobisi ziyeke ukunikela ingqwalasela kwimpahla yazo, ikhanda kunye nokunye. Baya kuphuma esitrato bengcolileyo, iimpahla ezigqithisiweyo, oku kusebenza kulabo bantu babehlala beqaphele. Kwakhona, ukuba umntu uyahlulwa, ukhetha izambatho ezinde, nangethuba lokushisa. Kuyafaneleka ukubeka ingqalelo kwamehlo: emva kokuba uthathe umthamo, balala ngeglasi kunye nomfundi uya kukhula okanye iikhontrakthi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, iimpawu zangaphandle zinceda njani ukuqonda umlutha we-novice, ekubeni izilonda zamachiza
kunye namava, ukufihla ukuxhomekeka kwabo, ngokuqhelekileyo zigqithise ezi ngxuma eziphambili. - Ubudlelwane . Ngokuqhelekileyo, izilonda zinomtshintsho omkhulu kwisigxina sezentlalo: izibophelelo zakudala ziphule kunye "nabahlobo abanomdla" abatsha. Kule meko, ubudlelwane nabazali, intsapho, bonke abantu abasondeleyo bavame ukuphulwa. Kukho iingxaki esikolweni okanye emsebenzini, njengokuba imemori kunye nokusebenza kwonakalisa ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi.
- ZeMpilo . Ewe, ukusebenzisa iziyobisi akunakunceda kodwa kuthintela impilo yakho. Iimpawu eziphambili ezinokuthi ziphawulwe ngeso iso: ukujuluka, ukulala okuphazamisayo, ukutya okuninzi ngokweqile okanye ukungabikho kokugqiba ngokupheleleyo, isikhumba esomileyo nesicwebekileyo, iinwele eziphofu kunye nezipikili.