Ukuthozama kwimiqondo yengqondo yimiqathango yokuziphatha echaza umntu, kuxhomekeka kwisimo sengqondo sakhe kuye nakwabanye. Akabonakaliswa ngokuziqhayisa nokuzikhukhumeza, kodwa nabanye uziphatha ngokulinganayo, nokuba unento enokuziqhayisa ngayo. Isiseko salo mgangatho sihle, kodwa kukho imeko xa ukuthozama kuyingozi.
Xa ukuthozama kuba yinto engafanelekiyo?
- Kwenzeka ukuba ukuthozama kuyaba yinto enqabileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo le ndlela isetyenziswe ngabantu abangaqinisekanga. Umntu ozenza uthobekileyo aze abe neentloni, ngoko ke, unxusa ukuncoma kunye nodumo. Ukuphathwa okunjalo kuthiwa ukuthobeka.
- Ukunyaniseka kwezinto zendalo kunokubhekwa njengesimo esihle somlingiswa, ukuba sasingasongela ukuba yinto enzima kunye nexesha. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukunyaniseka okugqithiseleyo kunye nokuzithemba ngokuqhubekayo kube yingxaki kwaye kuthintela umntu ukuba aphuhlise. Umntu onamahloni unciphisa amathuba akhe kuzo zonke iindawo zobomi. Kunzima kuye ukwenza isinyathelo kwintombazana ayithandayo. Endaweni yakhe yokusebenzela, iimbono ezininzi ezithakazelisayo zixutywa entloko yakhe, kodwa uhlazo ukuthetha. Xa edibanisa nabanye, u-taciturn and boring. Ngoko ke, umbuzo "uhlobisa ukuthozama komfana" awunakunikwa impendulo engabonakaliyo. Xa lo mgangatho ubonakala kwizinga elimodareyitha kwaye awuphazamisi umsebenzi wokuphila oqhelekileyo, ulungile. Kwaye ukuba kuninzi, ngoko kunokuthi kubangelwe iimpawu ezingalunganga.
Ukuthozama kwabasetyhini
Ngomntu obuthakathaka ngesondo, yonke into ilula, ixolelwe kwaye ikhuthazwe yintloni, ubuthathaka kunye nokungaboni. Sakhula kwimisebenzi yesiqhelo, apho ububele kunye nentloni yamantombazana behlabelelwa. Kwangexesha elide, ukuthozama komfazi kuye kwafaka ubungqina kwisithunzi sakhe sangaphakathi kunye nokuzikhukhumeza, kunye nokunyaniseka kuyimpawu zokugula. Kodwa nangenxa yamantombazana, ukuthozama kungabangela ukuphazamiseka, kubangela uxinzelelo kunye nokudakumba. Kule meko, kubalulekile ukulwa nokuthozama okukhulu.
Izizathu zokuthozama ngokweqile
Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba ukuthozama okukhulu kunokuvela ngenxa yezi zizathu zilandelayo:
imfuza. Iingcali zenzululwazi zithetha ngobukho beentloni. Kubonakala ukusukela ekuzalweni kubantu abanesimo se-nervous unstable. khuliswe. Ukunyuswa okungekho kakuhle kunye nokungabikho koxinzelelo lwezakhono zomnxeba umntu kwaye kumenze angabi nantoni. ukukhathazeka kwengqondo yengane. Ngenxa yokutshatyalaliswa okubuntwaneni buntwaneni, ubuninzi beempawu zobunzima bubuhlungu, kwaye ukuthozama akunjalo.Indlela yokulahla ukuthozama?
Kukho iindlela ezimbini zokulwa nokuthozama okukhulu. Okokuqala kuquka ukuqeqesha umlingiswa, ukuqeqeshwa okukhethekileyo kunye nokuqeqesha. Indlela yesibini ukudibanisa iingcali.
Ukuzinyango, iziphakamiso ezilandelayo zingasetyenziswa:
- Qeqesha umlingisi. Xa ufuna ukuthetha into okanye ukwenze, yenza oko, nokuba oko utshoyo sisisithakazelo, ngubani na ongeke enze izenzo zobuwula.
- Ukuthetha rhoqo kunye nabahlobo. Musa ukuyeka ithuba lokudibana nabafundi ofunda nabo, abahlobo kunye nabo osebenza nabo. Khumbula, ebuntwaneni ukuthozama kwakho kwemvelo akuphazamanga nokuthintana noontanga.
- Musa ukuzithuthuzela ngokuhlambalaza emva kwentetho okanye intsebenzo engaphumeleli. Ngokuphambene noko, phawula oko uphumelele kwaye ucinge ukuba unako
ukulungisa kwizinto ezingenakwenzeka. - Sebenzisa "ukuziqhelana ngokuqhelekileyo" ukusetyenziswa. Ukwenza oku, uye kuyo nayiphi na indawo ebanzi kwaye uzame ukukwazi nokuthetha nabanye abantu kuwe.
Ukuba ezi ndlela azikuncedi, kufuneka ufune uncedo kwi-psychologist. Uya kufezekisa imilinganiselo yokuxilonga kwaye kufuneka, xa kuyimfuneko, beza ngesicwangciso senkqubo kwaye uchaze indlela yokulwa nokuthozama.
Ukulwa nokuthozama kwakho, kuphela xa kungenangqiqo. Ukuba unomlinganiselo, nwabele kwaye uziqhenye ngale mvakalelo uze ungalibali amagama egolide: "Ukuthozama kuyambhinqa intombazana".