Enye yeendlela ezinzima kakhulu zokuxho mekeka kuxhomekeke kumntu. Oku kuqheleke ngakumbi kubasetyhini abaxhonywe kumntu othandekayo. Indlela yokurhoxisa umlutha kumntu uya kunceda iingcebiso zeengqondo.
Indlela yokulahla ukuxhomekeka kwengqondo kunye neengqondo kumadoda
Ukuxhomekeke kwimizimba yengqondo kunye nokuxhomekeka kwindoda kukubonakalisa ubuninzi bezesetyhini, abanesidingo sokuxhasa rhoqo kunye nokunyamekela. Ukudibanisa kwengqondo yengqondo kunye nendoda kwenza umfazi obuthathathaka obenokutshatyalaliswa kwaye abe neentloni.
Ukuqaphela ukuxhomekeke kwindoda kwindoda kungenziwa kwezi zilandelayo:
- ukusabalalisa inzala kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi apho kungekho mntu ukhona;
- ngokupheleleyo "ukuchithwa" kwisithandwa;
- ubugwenxa ngokukrokrelwa kancinci ukuba elinye ibhinqa lifuna ukuthatha umthandi wakhe;
- ubukhwele obubi, ukuhlolwa rhoqo, ukubiza, i-SMS;
- ukwesaba ukonakala;
- ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo "ukuba umntu othandayo ungasondeli;
- Ukungaqondi kakuhle kwendoda, ukulungiswa kwezona zinto zibi kakhulu;
- ukungabikho kobudlelwane bokuvuyisa ubomi, obanika uthando oluyinyaniso kuphela, umfazi uzonwabele.
Abasetyhini abaziwayo ngokwabo kwezi zimpawu bayacetyiswa ukuba baqale ngokukhawuleza ukulahla ukuxhomekeka kumadoda. Nangona kunjalo, isigaba esinzima kakhulu kukubona ukuba kukho ingxaki. Umfazi oxhomekeke kuye uyathandabuzeka, kwaye umncede enze isigqibo kwiintsapho, omele amchazele ukuba ubudlelwane buhanjiswe kuphela ngeengxaki kwaye luya kubangela amandla okuphila.
Xa ibhinqa liqonda ukuba ugxininiso lwengqalelo yakhe lushintsha kumntu, kufuneka ahlalutye ubuhlobo kwaye aqonde ukuba zeziphi iimpawu zendoda ezibangela ukuxhomekeka kwakhe. Funda oku kuya kunceda nokuhlalutya ubudlelwane obudlulileyo, tk. bathambekele ekuxhomekeke kwintombikazi ngokuqhelekileyo bakhetha uhlobo oluthile lwamadoda.
Ukuba ibhinqa ayifuni ukwahlukana nale ndoda, kufuneka ichane ngokucacileyo imida yayo, yandisa ukuzithemba kwayo , ikhuphe i-debris engqondweni. Isinyathelo esibalulekileyo sithetha nomntu, sitshabalalisa zonke izinto ezingagciniweyo, izinto ezazityhukisa loo ntokazi.
Into yokugqibela umfazi othembekileyo kufuneka ayenze ukuzifumana. Kwaye le ngongoma inzima kakhulu kwaye inzima. Kubalulekile ukujongana nobudlelwane obuxhomekeke kuyo kwaye uqaphele yonke into abaye bayithintela: izifundo kwezinye iidolophu, ukuhamba nabahlobo, ubudlelwane obuhle kunye nabahlobo nezihlobo. Ibhinqa limele "lidwebe" umfanekiso walo kwaye lilwela ukuzalwa kwakhe. Kwaye, ngokufanelekileyo, ukuphepha amadoda, obangela ukuxhomekeka kwakhe kwengqondo kunye nemizwelo.