Ewe, sonke sihleka ngamazwi athi "kwaye bahlala bevuya ngonaphakade, kwaye abazange baphikisane." Kodwa ndixelele, ngubani na ongeke afune ukwazi ukubopha indoda ethandekayo kuye ngonaphakade? Xa bevile ngokwaneleyo malunga neqhawulo kunye nokubona okwaneleyo kwabasetyhini abahluphekileyo, ngoko kuya kuba lunqweneleka ukuqinisekiswa, ukuba intsapho yakho ayinakonakala. Uzibopha njani umntu?
Ungammathela njani indoda?
Indlela yokunamathela kuye, abaninzi abafazi abatshatileyo bacinga. Kwaye ukucinga ntoni apha, into elula - ibe ngumfazi ococekileyo, ukuba ngaphambili wayichaza indlela yokuthandayo, kwaye akayi kukushiya. Kodwa mhlawumbi sele ukhona, mhlawumbi wenza kakuhle kwaye akudingeki ukuba uvelise nantoni na? Ukuba kunjalo, khawubale ngozo zonke ukwesaba kwakho, zibeke eceleni umcimbi uze ugijimele kumyeni wakho ngesisa kunye novelwano. Akukho buchule obuya kuthatha indawo yokufudumala kunye nokuthanda kwakho.
Ukungafani phakathi kokuziphatha kunye neenjongo zakhe? Musa ukukhawuleza ukuzibuyisela ngokwakho, qalisa ukucinga malunga nokuba kulungile yini. Yinto enye xa utsho ukuba kuya kuba kuhle ukuhlawula ngakumbi ukupheka i-borsch (kukho iibhatatesi ezimbalwa kuyo), kwaye nakwezinye, ukuba kufuneka uzidibanise ukuze ulungelelanise. Okokugqibela akufanele kwenziwe kwantoni na, uya kuzisola ngaphezu kwesinye. Emva kwakho konke, umyeni wakho ukhethe wena kwaye wathandana kungekhona nje ukubonakala kwakhe kwamehlo, ngokuqinisekileyo udidi lwakho olukhethekileyo ludlala indima ekunqobeni le ndoda. Ngoko akufanelekanga ukutshintsha, kodwa kungcono ukuzama ukufumana ukulungelelanisa okuya kuhambelana zombini-ukukwazi ukuthetha kunye nobomi bentsapho kubalulekile.
Ewe, ngokubhekiselele kwabanye - zama ukufudumala inzala yomyeni kumntu wakhe. Oku kusebenza kokubili ngesini kunye nempumelelo yakho yezoshishino. Ewe, ukuzalwa nokukhuliswa komntwana, izinto zibalulekile, kwaye ukuba unako ukuhlala kunye nosana luhle kakhulu. Kodwa awukwazi ukwenza oku wedwa. Kukho amaninzi amabali okuwa kwamabhangqa xa ibhinqa lizinikela kwintsapho, libala ngokuzimela. Isiphumo kukuba akazange abe nomdla kumyeni wakhe, akanalo ixesha lokuzinyamekela, yintoni ekhangayo, akanayo into yokuthetha nayo - kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zophuhliso yena nomyeni wakhe baqala ukuba. Ukuthintela oku, funda kwezinye iimpazamo zabanye kwaye uzame ukuziphepha.
Ungambopha njani indoda e tshatayo?
Ngendlela, ngaba ufuna ukufunda indlela yokubopha umntu, xa umthandayo engekho? Ekubeni apha umbuzo womthandi, kwaye kungengowomyeni, uya kuba nomyalelo obunzima kunzima. Uya kufuneka ubalekele izigxeko, amabango kunye nokungavumi, kuba sele esele ukhathele konke okusemakhaya, kwaye uya kukubona, into enokuyenza. Kodwa nangona unobumnandi, unomusa kwaye uthobela, kungekhona ukuba uya kukwenza isigqibo ngenxa yakho yomtshato. Emva koko, intsapho ayilona nje ilizwi, kwaye kunzima ukuthatha inyathelo elinoxanduva lokutshatyalaliswa kwalo. Ngenxa yoko, akukho nto imangalisayo ukuba inkosikazi yehlabathi lonke icinga ukuba kunokwenzeka ukubopha indoda, kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu, ngesondo, okanye mhlawumbi umntwana? Okokuqala, khumbula ukuba ukuba unomdla kumntu, ke akukho tricks kuya kunceda.
Ukuba ucinga ngegama elithi "ukhonkco" ukusuka kwindawo ekujonga ngayo izinto ezinomlingo, ezifana nokuxoxwa kweenhlanhla kunye nokuzalwa, cinga ngokucokisekileyo, ngaba ukholelwa ngokwenene kuyo yonke into, kwaye ke kuyimfuneko. Emva koko, nayiphi na into ebophayo yintlondi kulwaphulo lokuzikhethela lomntu. Ngaba ufuna ngokwenene ukwenza oku kunye nentanda yakho?