Kukho ubudlelwane obunjalo xa ibhinqa libonakala lingekho yedwa, linomntu, kodwa le ndoda ilanga elibomvu-liya kuvela, liya kulahleka. Kwaye akucaci, ukuba uzibonele ukhululekile kwaye ube nolwalamano olutsha, nokuba ulinde umntu ukuba anqume kwaye enze ukhetho olufanelekileyo. Ukuba umntu akayithandi kwaye akavumeli ukuhamba, ke indlela yokuziphatha bhetele kule nqaku.
Kutheni umntu engavumi ukuba ahambe kwaye abambe?
Lo mzekelo uqobo kumnini kunye ne-egoist engummangaliso, othuthuzelayo kunye nokulungelelanisa, ulahla iimvakalelo zomlingane. Ubuhlobo obunjalo buya kuqalisa zombini ngokukhawuleza kwaye luguqulwe emva kweminyaka embalwa yokuhlala kunye, kodwa nangona kunjalo ithetha ukuba indoda ayithandi, kodwa akafuni ukuyeka nayiphi na inzuzo. Kwimeko yomfazi, oku kungayindlela ebomini yobomi, abantwana kunye nakwimeko yesinikazi esithandayo . Abaninzi bayazibuza ukuba kutheni indoda esitshatileyo ingavumi ukuhamba nenkosikazi yakhe, kodwa ke yonke into ilula apha. Kuyinto elula kakhulu kuye - ekhaya ukuthuthuzela nokufudumala, ukunakekelwa kunye nokukhathalela, kodwa unako uvakalelo olucacileyo kunye nomonde, kwaye inkosikazi inayo yonke into, ngoko kutheni ulahle konke oku?
Kwenzeka ukuba umntu akavumeli ukuba ahambe kwaye angasondeli, kuba engagqibekanga, usacinga. Ukuhlala kwizixeko ezahlukileyo, kunzima ukwakha ubudlelwane, kodwa emva kwexesha elithile, ukulinganisa zonke iingxaki kunye neqhinga, iqabane licebisa ukuba lihlangane kwaye lihlale kunye. Ukuba ibhinqa lihlazeka kwaye lixhala ngolu hlobo lugxininiswe, kufuneka lithethe ngokunyanisekileyo kunye neqabane lakhe kwaye lifumane yonke into. Kodwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokuba kunjalo, uqonda ngokuqonda ukuba oku kungakhokelela ekugqibeleni kunye nokunyamezela, elindele ukuba umntu athathe uxanduva kwaye enze isigqibo. Ngaba kufanelekile ukulinda oko - kuye, kodwa uqeqesho lubonisa ukuba ulwalamano olunjalo alufaneki ukuqhubeka. Ukuba umfazi unelisekile, uyazithemba kwaye uyayiqonda into ayifunayo indoda, ngoko uyayiphula le nxu lumene naye, efuna enye iqabane.