Fumana isikhulu sakho kwisilingo sokuqala kwinani elincinci lezinkampani zincinci, kodwa bonke abanye bayadlulela ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngokuhlukana nomntu oyintanda. Makhe sibone indlela yokusuka kumntu (akunandaba nokuba uyatshati okanye awunayo), kuba abantu abambalwa bafuna ukuphonsa izigcawu ezivela kwibhaluni.
Indlela yokuphuma kumntu?
Iimeko zihlukile, umntu ucinga malunga nendlela yokuphuma kumntu otshatileyo, umntu ufuna ukuphelisa ubuhlobo obuhle, kodwa kuzo zonke iimeko kukho imigaqo eyisiseko emele ihlonishwe ngokuhlukana. Ewe, ukuba kufikelele ekupheliseni ubudlelwane ngenxa yobunxila, ukuhlaselwa, ngoko ke ezi zicwangciso aziyi kunceda apha.
- Umgaqo obalulekileyo ukunyaniseka, asiyidingi loo maqhinga "kufuneka sihlale ngokuhlukileyo", "masicinge ngokuphathelele ubudlelwane bethu", njl. Ngaloo nto uza kubeka kuphela iifowuni ezide, ukucaciswa okungapheliyo kobudlelwane. Ukuba unquma ukushiya, ngoko uthetha ngokuthe ngqo kwaye ngaphandle kokuxhamla. Akukho mfuneko yokwakha ama-pretexts ahlukeneyo, njengokuthi "ungcono kakhulu kum," ngaphandle kokuba umntwana wesikolo anokholo olunjalo.
- Yazisa malunga nesigqibo sakho, akukho ma-imeyile, iifowuni kunye neSMS. Nika ithuba lakho ngoku ukuqala ukuthetha, ungalonakalisi ubuhlobo, unokufuneka uphinde uphinde ucele uncedo. Kwaye lo mntu akaziwayo kuwe, ukuba akukho thando, bonisa ubuncinane inhlonipho.
- Zama ukukhetha ixesha elifanelekileyo kwincoko. Akuyimfuneko ukuyimisela usuku xa uziva kakubi okanye umntu ke iingxaki zemoto. Kodwa ixesha lokuthetha nesinye isiganeko sokugcoba akufanelekanga, udinga usuku olungathathi hlangothi.
- Ukugqiba ukushiya indoda, musa ukuxoxa ngesigqibo sakho kunye nabahlobo bakho nabahlobo bakhe. Okokuqala, funani yonke into phakathi kwabo, kwaye kuphela
ukuzisa iindaba kwinkundla yoluntu.
Kutheni abafazi beshiya amadoda?
Xa kufuneka uhambe kuloo ndoda, wonke umntu uyazikhethela yena, kodwa yiloo nto eyenza abafazi babe ngumqali we-gap - ukukhangela rhoqo into efanelekileyo okanye enye into, kutheni abafazi beshiya amadoda?
Izizathu zingabizwa ngokuba zikhulu: imikhwa emibi yomntu othandekayo, ukungathembeki, ukungaqondi, umona, ukungabi nthando, njl njl. Kodwa eqinisweni, zonke ezi zizathu ziyakuboniswa kwisigwebo esisodwa: umfazi ushiya indoda xa into engamfanelanga ngayo ubudlelwane. Ngexesha, umntu unokunyamezela ukunganeliseki, kodwa xa sifika kwindawo ebalulekileyo, ubudlelwane buphela.