Wonke umntu unokufumana ixesha elinzima ebomini, xa uxhalaba kunye nokuloyika. Ukuze ulahleke iimvakalelo ezinjalo uze ufake iingcamango zakho ngokufanelekileyo, kufuneka ukwazi indlela yokuzolalisa umphefumlo wakho kunye nento okufuneka uyenze kule nto.
Indlela yokuzinzisa intliziyo nomphefumlo?
Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukucacisa oko kubangele ukuba le mvakalelo. Ukuxhalabisa, ukwesaba, ukunganakwa akubonakali "njengaye." Oku kuququzelelwe yimeko exinzelelekileyo, umzekelo, ehambelana nemeko yezemali engaqinisekanga, okanye ngokuhlukana nomntu othandekayo. Zama ukuqonda ngokuchanekileyo oko kubangela ukuvela kwexhala kunye nezinye iimvakalelo ezimbi.
Emva koko, ungaqhubeka ukuya kwisigaba sesibini. Ngoku, ukuze siqonde indlela yokuzolalisa ukukhathazeka emphefumlweni, kufuneka senze uludwe lwezinto ezinokuthi zenziwe ukuze kunciphise imiphumo yesimo esicinezelekileyo esenzeke. Njengomthetho, abantu banentloni ngenxa yeengcamango zabo ezimbi kunye ne "pridumok" yinto eya kwenzeka kubo kwixesha elizayo, kungekhona ngenxa yokwenene "isongelo". Ngoko ke, bhala phantsi kwiphepha iphepha yonke imiphumo enokwenzeka kwaye uqonde indlela oya kwenza ngayo xa beza.
Indlela yokuzolalisa umphefumlo emva kokuhlukana?
Ukuphula ulwalamano nomntu obathandayo kunokuba nzima kakhulu. Xa kwenzeka imeko enjalo, kubalulekile ukuba "ngokuchanekileyo" kubali, kodwa ukuba ungavumeli ukubonakala kokunganakwa.
Okokuqala, zama ukubonisa intlungu yakho. Oku kunokwenziwa ngoncedo lwencoko nomhlobo osondeleyo, kunye nezinyembezi okanye kunye neengxaki. Into ephambili kukuba umntu kufuneka aziva ukuba intlungu sele ishiye ubuncinci. Imvakalelo engebiyo imele ukuba ibonakaliswe, ngaphandle koko "ukuqhubela phambili" ayisebenzanga nje.
Emva koko kufuneka uhlale kunye nento ethile, oku kuya kunceda njani ukuzolalisa umphefumlo wakho kunye neentsholongwane, kwaye awuyi kushiya ixesha leengcinga ezimbi. Qala ukuya kuqeqesho lwezemidlalo, fumana i- hobby okanye uthathe iprojekthi entsha emsebenzini. Nayiphi na imeko iya kusebenza, into ephambili kukuba akukho xesha lokufumana amava angenangqondo kunye neengcamango eziqhubekayo ukuba ubudlelwane buphelile.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, zama ukuyeka ukuzonwabisa. Ukuba ufumana isimemo sokutyelela iplanga, sebenzisa. Musa ukuhlala wedwa phambi kwethelevishini okanye ikhomputha. Hlangana nabahlobo, uye emacimbini, hamba. Oku kuya kunceda ukuba uqonde ukuba ukuphula ubudlelwane akuthethi "ukuphela kwayo yonke into evuyayo kwaye imnandi."