Kuyo nayiphi na incwadi malunga nophuhliso lwakho, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufumana ibinzana ofuna ukuzithanda lona. Nazi ezinye ezimbalwa apho unokufumana khona ukuba uzithanda njani. I-Psychology kule akhawunti inikezela, njengommiselo, iingcebiso ezicacileyo. Kule nqaku, uya kufunda oko kukuthandayo, indlela ozibonakalisa ngayo nendlela yokufezekisa ngayo.
I-Psychology: ukuzithanda nokuzithanda
Zombini iingcinga, eziboniswe kwisihloko, ngokubhekiselele kuthetha into efanayo: isimo sengqondo esithile. Ukuze ukwazi ukuqonda uthando, kufuneka uqonde ukuba yintoni intsingiselo yothando.
Xa uthanda umntu, ekuqaleni awuqapheli iimpazamo zomntu kuzo zonke, kwaye xa uqala ukuqaphela, uyaqhubeka uthanda. Ngamanye amazwi, uthando aluchaphazelekanga "ngcamango" okanye ukungabikho kumntu. Ukuba uyamthanda umntu, uzama ukwenza ubomi bakhe bube bhetele, kumnceda, umnike izipho, umhlonele aze amhlukanise nabanye.
Uthando lufanele lukhangele into enje. Ngamanye amazwi, ukuzithanda ngokwakho kukubamkela ngokupheleleyo kunye nazo zonke iingeniso kunye nokungahambi kakuhle, ukuzithemba kwimeko yokuphila komntu, ubukho bombono wakhe kunye nokukulungele ukukhusela, kunye nomnqweno wokuphucula ubomi bomntu. Njengomthetho, ebomini, ukuziqhenya ngokuphumelela komntu kunye nokuzithemba kuhlale kuhamba, ngoko ke abantu abaphuhlisa, babeke iinjongo baze bafezekise, bathande kakhulu.
I-Psychology yobuntu - indlela yokuzithandayo?
Ngoko, ukuze uzithande ngokwakho, kufuneka ufikelele ngokwakho, wamukele ngokwakho kuwo onke amanqanaba, kunye neenkcukacha ezikuthintela ukulungisa. Namela ezi zigaba zomsebenzi ngokwakho:
- Kubonakala . Khangela indlela ofuna ukuyijonga ngayo. Ukuba ufuna ukukhanyisa, umlenze, uhlale uninzi, njl. - zinike ixesha lokwenza kwaye wenze zonke iinguqu ezifunekayo. Musa ukucela into engenakwenzeka. Yenza nje ufikeleleko okhoyo kunye nedatha yakho yemvelo.
- Umntu . Ukuba unempawu ezingenakukunika ubomi obuthulileyo, zibhale uze uphume enye emva komnye. Umntu ngumkhandi wokhuseleko lwakhe, kwaye naye ungumkhandi wobuntu bakhe. Ukuphuhlisa iimpawu ezintle kunye nokunciphisa okubi.
- Ukuzilibazisa . Ukuthanda ngokwakho kuhlale kulula kubabo baye bafezekisa into ethile. Khetha iindlela ofuna ukuphumelela ngazo kwaye wenze umzamo endleleni eya empumelelweni. Ngoko uya kuba nesizathu sakho sokuzikhukhumeza nothando lwakho.
- Woza ngokuvumelana nobomi bakho . Abantu abaninzi ngeminyaka badonsa ubudlelwane obubacinezelayo, "ubuhlobo" apho basetyenziselwa khona, iimbopheleleko ezinzima. Lahla yonke into eyenza ungonwabi. Ukuphucula ubudlelwane kunye nabathandekayo, ukuyeka abantu, ukunxibelelana kunye nokuqulunqa amandla kuwe.
Yenza konke ukwenza ubomi bakho bukuthande. - Yenza kuphela oko ufuna ukukwenza . Musa ukuchitha ixesha lakho kwizinto, abantu kunye neengcamango ezingathandeki kuwe. Zizinakekele, uphuthukise uze uqhubeke phambili. Beka iinjongo uze ufezekise. Hlonipha ixesha lakho kwaye uyisebenzise kuphela ngendlela oyithandayo kunye nezinto ezilungileyo.
Abantu abaninzi basesha kwiincwadi zezifundo zengqondo, bethetha indlela yokuzithandayo. Enyanisweni, ukwenza oku, kufuneka uthabathe iphepha kunye neepeni uze upende iplani yokuphucula ubomi bakho: ukuza kuhambelana nembonakalo yakho, ubunjani, iimeko, fumana izinto ezithandwayo kwaye wenze ixesha lakho liphumelele. Ukusabalalisa yonke imisebenzi ehleliweyo kwidayari kwiinyanga ezi-2-3 ezilandelayo uze ulandele isicwangciso ngokuthe ngqo.
Musa ukucinga ukuba iminyaka emininzi ongayiyithandiyo inokugqithwa ngenye imini. Ukuziphucula ngokuzenzekelayo kuya kukusondeza ngokuvisisana nawe.