Ukufa komntwana mhlawumbi sisona siganeko esibuhlungu kakhulu kubafazi, kuba abantwana kufuneka bangcwabe abazali babo, kwaye kungekhona okunye. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntu ojongene nokutshatyalaliswa okukhulu uhlala entlungu. Ewe, abanye bazama ukuxhasa nokuthuthuzela, kodwa baqhagamshelana ngokungaqhelekanga ngokufa. Ngokuqhelekileyo, amanye amagama aqhelekileyo achazwa. Kule nqaku siya kuthetha malunga nendlela yokusinda ekufeni kwonyana wakho othandekayo.
Unomama unokusinda njani ekufeni kwonyana wakhe?
Siphakamisela ukuqwalasela le ngxaki kwisimo sengqondo sengqondo kwaye sifunde amanyathelo abantu ababa nawo xa belahlekelwa ngumthandayo. Oku kuncedo ukuze kuqinisekiswe ukuba umntu ulinge kwelinye lazo, kuba kubaluleke kakhulu ukulawula isimo sengqondo somntu. Ukuba ukutshintshwa kwisigaba esilandelayo ngenxa yevalelo yintlungu akunakwenzeka, ngoko kuyafaneleka ukufuna uncedo lweengcali kunye nokufumana inkxaso engokwenyama yengqondo.
- Isiteji esisodwa - tshutshisa kwaye uqhube. Ukwala ukufumana le nkcazelo. Njengomthetho, abantu baqala ukuziphatha ngendlela eyahlukileyo, ekubeni beli nqanaba. Omnye ufuna inkxaso phakathi kweentsapho kunye nabahlobo, umntu uzama ukunqanda intlungu ngotywala, umntu uqala ukulungiselela umngcwabo. Eli nqanaba lihlala malunga neentsuku ezithoba. Ukuze usinde ekufeni kwonyana ophela yedwa, kweli nqanaba kukufanelekile ukusebenzisa izidandlululo kunye nezidalwa. Simele sizame ukuhlala sisodwa, kuba ngeli xesha kudingekile ukunciphisa ubuninzi bomphefumlo, ukukhala yonke intlungu ephakathi.
- Isigaba sesibini kukunyaniseka. Ihlala kwiintsuku ezingamashumi amane. Ngelo xesha umntu uyaqonda ukuba yonke into eyenzekayo yinyani, kodwa ukuqonda akukakulungeli ukwamkela oku.
Kukho iingcamango, uva iinyawo okanye ilizwi lomntu osusiweyo. Ukuze usinde ekufeni kwendodana yakhe, kubalulekile ukuthatha isiganeko kwaye, kungakhathaliseki ukuba buhlungu kangakanani, khuluma ngayo ngezihlobo kunye nezihlobo. - Isigaba sesithathu sihlala malunga neenyanga ezintandathu. Ngeli xesha kufika ukuqonda nokwamkelwa kwelahleko. Ubuhlungu ngeli xesha liza kuba ngumlingiswa: luya kuqinisa, ngoko luyeke. Ngeli xesha, iingxaki azikhangeli, xa umama eqala ukugxeka ngokungasindisi umntwana wakhe. Ukuhlaselwa komsindo kunye nobudlova kunokwenzeka.
- Phantse kunyaka omnye emva kokufa, imeko iyamkelwa, kodwa iingxaki ziyakwenzeka. Kule nqanaba kubalulekile ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho kwaye ufunde ukuhlala ngakumbi, kungakhathaliseki ukuba akunakwenzeka njani.