Uvelwano nemfesane yimiqondo esondeleyo, kodwa isahlukileyo. Uvelwano luyakwazi ukuqonda ngokucacileyo omnye umntu kwiimvakalelo zakhe neemvakalelo zakhe, kwaye inceba ikwazi ukuvakalelwa intlungu yomntu. Kuvela kwintsapho ukuba umntu unyamezela imimiselo yenceba, oko asebenzayo kubantu abangaziwayo. Yintoni uvelwano? Ikhono baze babone othandekayo kumntu ongaqhelekanga baze babelane ngeemvakalelo zakhe.
Ingxaki yovelwano
Ngaphambi kokuba ubonise uvelwano, kubalulekile ukuqala ukuphulaphula kuphela, kodwa ukuva umntu. Ngenxa yoko, intlanganiso yobuqu iyona nto ibhetele, kodwa ayikho incoko yefowuni okanye idilesi. Kule ndlela kuphela kunokwenzeka ukubonakalisa okunzulu uvelwano, uvelwano - emva koko, ngamanye amaxesha kubalulekile ukuba usondele, uvumelane nomntu okanye uphulaphule.
Ukuze uvelise ngokupheleleyo isihawu novelwano, kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukuphulaphula-kwaye akunikezelwa wonke umntu. Okokuqala, zama ukuzisebenzisa ezi zinto zibalulekileyo:
- Mamela ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka, ukhangela emehlweni omntu okanye kuye.
- Zama ukuqonda ukuba ngubani othetha naye.
- Mamela ngokukhawulezileyo, ngaphandle kwemibono, uyeke kwaye uzame ukuphazamisa umnxibelelwano.
- Landela impawu zomntu - ingabe uvala okanye uzama ukuvula?
- Abanye abantu bayakwazi ukuqonda kangcono enye, ukuba bazimela endaweni yabo.
- Musa ukuthetha naluphi na icebiso de baceliwe.
- Musa ukuthetha ngebhizinisi lakho - umntu unenkinga, kwaye kubalulekile ukumvumela ukuba athethe.
Emva kokumamela ngokukhawuleza umntu, unokuqonda ukuba yiyiphi imbeko yokubambeka imfuneko kuye okwangoku.
Indlela yokubonisa uvelwano?
Qaphela ke, ngokungabikho kwemfesane, akunakwenzeka ukuba akwazi ukuyiveza ngokufanelekileyo. Ukuba awufuni ukuqonda oko umntu akuvakalelwa kwaye uxakeke kakhulu kwisisombululo sengqondo kwiingxaki zabo, nangona yonke imizamo yenu yokwenza uhlobo olufanelekileyo, unobungozi bokuva "akukho velwano!".
Ukuba uthe wagxininisa kakhulu kuwe, zibeke kwindawo yongummangaleli, cingela ukuba kukuphephile kwimeko yakhe. Cinga ngento othanda ukuyiva kule mzuzwana, luhlobo luni luncedo onokulindela kwabanye. Yinqweno yokwenene yolonwabo ukuba umhlobo uya kukuvumela ukuba ufumane amagama afanelekileyo kwimeko enzima.
Ukuze kuncede umntu athethe kwaye avelise injongo yakhe yokubonisa uvelwano, sebenzisa amabinzana alula:
- kwenzekani kuwe?
- unganditsho?
- Ndiyakunceda?
- Ngaba uziva kakuhle?
La magama alula aya kumnceda ukuba ulungele ukuphulaphula kwaye unomdla kwiingxaki zakhe.
Indlela yokubonakalisa uvelwano xa kwenzeka usizi?
Kukho imeko apho phantse bonke abantu belahlekile kwaye abazi ukuba baziphathe njani. Umzekelo, ukuba omnye wabathandekayo bakho unomhlobo okanye isihlobo esifile, akusoloko kucacile indlela yokuziphatha-okanye ushiye umntu okanye ube kufuphi; okanye uthetha, okanye uphulaphule; Oku kukhokelela ekubeni abantu abaninzi, nangona bangaphakathi
- Musa ukuthula. Shayela okanye uza kulo mntu kwaye umsekele ngamagama.
- Ungazami ukufumana ipros ("uhlupheke ixesha elide kwisifo"), bhetele uthi ngumntu omhle.
- Zama ukuthetha nomntu malunga nokuqala kwakhe incoko.
Akuyena wonke umntu okwazi ukubonisa iimvakalelo zabo, kodwa abantu abaye bafunda oku babe ngabahlobo abathandekayo, bathandekayo.