Akusiyo imfihlo ukuba phantse onke amaphupha ammeli wesifazane "inkosana yehashe elimhlophe" ukususela ebuntwaneni. Yaye ke, elowo ngexesha elinye limela uhlobo oluthile lomntu wakhe, onokuzibonisa ngokuziphakamisa "ngediploma yindoda efanelekileyo" emva komtshato. Kodwa yiziphi iimpawu ezi Masizame ukuyifumanisa.
"Ngoko ukuba ungaphuzi kwaye ungabhemisi, kwaye uhlala unika iintyatyambo ..."
Iintyatyambo kungekhona kuphela kwieholide, kodwa kunye nokungabikho kwemikhwa emibi - ngokuqinisekileyo ukudibanisa okukhulu, kodwa oku akusiyo yonke uluhlu lweempawu, ukwenzela ukuba udwebe imifanekiso yendoda efanelekileyo. Nangona amaxesha amaninzi amantombazana ekhokelwa ngumthetho "uthando lobubi" kwaye ukhetha umntu ongendawo, oko ke, ebaluleke kakhulu, okokuqala, impawu zobuntu ezilula. Kwaye kwakuya kufundisa amadoda abo ukuba abe ngumyeni ofanelekileyo ukubanceda ngeminye imithetho:
- Okokuqala, yeyona nto ibe yinyani, ecocekileyo, ekhangayo, ekhethekileyo kwimidlalo. Kanti futhi uhlakaniphile, unokwethenjelwa, unenkathalo, uthandeka, uzinzile kwaye uqinisekile.
- Ukuthanda abantwana, soloko unako ukuxhasa intsapho yakho kwaye ulungele ukufaka indawo yakho yamadoda.
- Okwesibini, ukukuxabisa njengomntu, ukuba unomdla kwilizwe lakho elingaphakathi, ukuba ujonge iimpumelelo zakho, ukuze ukwazi ukuxhasa xa kunqatshelwe.
- Okwesithathu, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba indoda yakho iqhubeka ikukhathalele nangemva komtshato, kwaye kungekhona nje ekuqaleni kobudlelwane bakho.
- Andizange ndilibale ukuthobela ingqalelo, kuba, ngamanye amaxesha kunokwaneleyo nje ukuthetha kunye, ukukwazi ukuphulaphula omnye nomnye.
- Ndikhumbule ukubonakala kobubele: xa ndishiya emsebenzini, ndaqhankana ubuncinane ubunzima, kwaye xa ndabuya ekhaya ndisuka emsebenzini, ndamomotheka ukuba uya kuziva ukuba unxungukile kwaye uyavuya ukukubona.
- Ukuphambanisa, intanda yakhe, imimangaliso eyimimangaliso: umzekelo, ungalindelekanga ukuba unomhla kwi-cafe encinci.
- Kwaye, ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukugcina intshutshiso emva komtshato, ngokuba, kubaluleke kakhulu kuba besetyhini banomuvo wokuba sinomdla kwaye sinqweneleka, nangona kukho iminyaka esetshenziselwa umtshato.
Indoda efanelekileyo ngumfazi wayo
Unako ukubhala ngokungapheliyo, kodwa ungakulibala ukuba yokuqala yindoda enhle ayenzekanga ngaphandle komfazi, umfazi ohlakaniphile. Unako ukufumana imfundo ephakamileyo njengoko ufuna, kodwa xa intombazana engenakho ubulumko, akunakwenzeka ukuba ujabule emtshatweni. Iingcali zengqondo ziye zafunda ixesha elide ukusebenzisana ngokuphumelelayo kwaye zagqitywa ukuba abafazi abanovuyo bomtshato baziphatha ngendlela efana.
- Okokuqala, baqhagamshelana nabayeni babo. Ngoko umntu ulungelelaniswa: uyaqaphela - kuthetha ukuba bayamhlonela, ngoko uyayidinga.
- Okwesibini, ungasebenzisi izibizo kwincoko, kodwa uthethane nomntu wakho ngolwimi "oluhle". Ngokomzekelo, "ungakhohlwa ukundibiza" ngokwaneleyo ukutshintsha ukuba "ndibize ngokuqinisekileyo."
- Okwesithathu, zithandana nothando, uthando, ngenxa yile mpawu enikezela ngokuzithandela umfazi wesimo, kutheni ungayisebenzisi?
I golide ithetha
Nangona kunjalo, akukho nto igqibeleleyo ebomini ayenzekanga kwaye kuhlale kukulungele ukugcina ibhalansi, ukunamathela kwigolide. Emva koko, ukuba yonke into yayigqibelele ngokugqibeleleyo, bekuya kuba yinto engathandekiyo ukuhlala. Ngokuqinisekileyo, zonke iintombazana zinempilo ekhethekileyo, kodwa akufanele zilungele impawu ezihlukeneyo zomyeni ofanelekileyo, kufuneka abone kwakhethiweyo wakhe, okokuqala, umntu ophucukileyo kwaye ujabule kunye naye. Khumbula ilizwi elithi "abayithandi into ethile, kodwa nangona". Yaye ukuba ufumene umntu, nangona ungaphumeleli, kodwa ungayifaka, kwaye uyabathanda - lo ngumntu wakho. Ukukhangela i-intle, into ephambili ayiyikulahleka.