Kwenzeka ukuba esi sibini siphule, kodwa emva kwexeshana intombazana iqala ukuzisola ngekhefu. Ewe, ukuba umfana ucinga njalo kwaye akayi kubuya ukubuyisela ubudlelwane bakhe, kodwa kuthekani ukuba sele esenomnye intombi, yintoni na ukubuyela kumntu owayengumfana? Nazi ezinye iingcebiso.
Indlela yokubuyisela umntu, ukuba unomnye?
Ewe, thina ntombazana singabantu abangenangqiqo - okokuqala siya kumshiya umntu, kwaye ke sifuna iindlela zokubuyisa zangaphambili, sithi "Ndimthanda, kodwa unomnye." Umbuzo kukuba, kutheni ulwaphule ubuhlobo ukuba kulungile? Ngako oko, ngaphambi kokuba uqale unqobe owangaphambili, cingisisa malunga nento ekushukumisayo: umnqweno onyanisekileyo wokuba naye okanye unengqondo yokuziphatha - loo mntu wayenqwenela ukugula, kwaye emva kweveki wayedlula kwaye wayekho kwenye. Ukuba umnini uthetha kuwe, akufanele ucinge indlela yokubuyisela loo mntu, okanye kuwe, okanye kwintombazana ayenayo, oku akuyi kubangela uvuyo. Emva koko, ukuba uyaphumelela, ukhathele ukuwuphonsa. Ukusebenza ekubuyiselweni kwexesha elidlulileyo kuyimfuneko kuphela xa wenze iphutha kwaye uqaphela ukuba lo mntu ufuna. Yintoni okufuneka uyenze ukwenza oku?
- Hlaziya ngenxa yento eyenzekayo isithuba sakho, mhlawumbi ubeka ityala? Isizathu esinjalo sinokuthi kwaye ukuba umqali wokuhlukanisa unayo. Ukuba awuzange udiniwe ngumsila obunomkhwenkwe wekhwenkwe yakho, wayengenakuvuma ngokukhawuleza ukuba kufuneka uyingxenye.
- Ukuba isizathu siwe, yenza konke ukulungisa izilungiso ezikhoyo. Funda kabanzi malunga nentombazana entsha ye-ex yakho kwaye uzame ukuba "ngaphezu kwayo kwentloko yakho" kuyo yonke into. Into ephambili, lonke ixesha, ngelixa ucinga malunga noko kufuneka uyenze, ungabanjwa ngamehlo akhoyo, ungabibizi. Makhe alahlekelwe nguwe ubuncinane kwiiveki ezimbalwa.
- Emva kwakho konke ukulungiswa okufunekayo, unokuhamba ngokuphepha kwiindawo zakhe ezizithandayo. Kubalulekile ukuba kubekho ngokwemvelo kwi-parade. Zama ukuphepha ukuphuma kwakho, xa enesinye - umfana kufuneka akwazi ukuvavanya indlela enomdla ngakumbi kunentombi yakhe. Ngaba uceba ukuhamba kwindawo kunye nabahlobo? Mema isibini kulo mcimbi. Kwaye ngelixa uhlala kwinkampani enye, zama ukuziphatha ngendlela ehlukileyo kunokuba uqhelekileyo, ube yinto engafanelekanga, eyimfihlakalo, eya kuba yinto enomdla yokuyicombulula.
- Amantombazana amaninzi acinga ukuba kuthuka ukubhala intombazana entsha kumntu owayengumfana, ecinga ukuba yinto ephosakeleyo kuyo yonke ingxaki yakhe. Nangona oku kunjalo akunjalo, intombazana entsha yafika kumfazi wakho wangaphambili xa umkhululile, ngoko akufanele umgwebe, kodwa umbonwa wakho omfutshane. Ukuba ubhala ukubhala, koko kukho into enokuyithintela yakho yangaphambili, ukuze i-passion entsha ithinte. Kule meko le leta kufuneka ibe yinto engaziwa, ngokucacileyo ukusuka kwenye yamantombazana ayesakuba ngumfana wayo. Bhala ukuba unyanzelekile ukuba akhiphe isisu okanye ashiye ngokukhawuleza xa efumene ngokukhulelwa. Le ndlela ifanelekile, ukuba lakho elide liyakwazi ukuqhayisa amava amanxulumano othando, ukuze ukungaziwa kwakho kungabonakali. Kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu, xa uxoxisana, zama ukuzithoba kwaye uhlonipheke kunye nentombi yakho yangaphambili, kwaye kunye nentombi yakhe entsha, ukuze unganakucingelwa ngamacandelo anjalo.
- Ukuba akukho nto eyenzekayo kwaye umfana akaphuthumi emva koko, umshiye wedwa, hambani. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uzama kangakanani, awukwazi ukubuyela kwintombi xa wayesenomnye intombazana ayithandayo.